Being everyone's 2nd option

I know exactly how you feel. I constantly feel the same way.

I'm sorry about that, but hopefully someone comes along and makes both of us seem special ^-^

i know how it feels to be that one person that when there is all seats are taken you sit apart and alone. i am here if you want a friend ♡

I know, right? One time in math I sat between two of my friends and one asked me if we could switch and eventually just ignored the hell outta me. And thank you! ^-^ same here

I really need to check my notifications more aha

Ugh. I wish you had a more supportive doctor.

This was basically me for a lot of my school years, so I understand what it does to you. I mean, how is it not messed up that people are your friend one day, and then the next day you're the backup option that they don't need anymore? And if they all treat you like an accessory and not a fully functioning human friend, how is that not supposed to affect the way you think about yourself?

I hope things get better for you, but in the meantime, just know that you're not alone in this.

Thank you for your kind words. And yeah, it's sad how people treat others like that; I guess having friends and support most of your life makes you take it for granted, or makes you don't appreciate everyone close to you •~• it's been years and only one person made me feel so special but she moved and I didn't even get to say goodbye. I knew her for only 4 months or so when I was 9 but she was amazing, and now I just want to feel like that again, you know?

I wonder if those people even feel it - the love others give them, but have just become a normal part of life to them since they have so much of it for so long. I'm not sure if I should classify that as tragic.

And yes - my doctor prioritizes physical over mental health by a lot •~•"

It seems like you might just need to seek out more compatible friends, or many just one real compatible friend. Its easy to get caught up in a group of friends who might be nice but not as compatible for you as maybe someone else might be. Maybe keep your heart open for new people to enter into your life and make the approach yourself, if you can, to befriend someone new. It might seem risky but it can change everything for you. There is nothing wrong with you. Maybe you just need some friends you have more in common with? Wishing you the very best and hopeful for you!

Thank you and same for you! ^-^

I've been trying lately (joined band. A buncha nerds there, but they're all already like family so it's difficult). And I do have a one companion that is closer to me than the rest, but I'm not the best to HER. She has so many options that are closer to her, so I end up feeling pathetic. I am reaching out more, but I'm doing it slowly lol ^-^

@willingOrange1694

Very good! So glad to hear you are making some new effort! Keep trying. Things will get better ;-)

I really know how you are feeling. I remember being a sophomore in high school and getting involved with a group of people who I thought were my friends. They hung around me and talked with me a lot of the times. I would often go over to one friend's house and hang out and she seemed fine with me. But then I later realized that she more than likely just tolerated my presence because some of her other friends would be rude to me and she did nothing to stop them. I had to learn the hard way that I needed to pick a different group of friends because those were not for me.

Eventually I did though! My junior year I ended up meeting one of my best friends to this day! Then, my senior year I ended up gaining a good group of kind, really awesome people who I had more in common with. So Like the previous commenter said, it does sound like you're in need of some new friends who actually appreciate you. I would have faith! The right people for you will come to you, people who will never make you an option. <3

Thank you for your encouragement and story - gives me some hope lol. Glad it worked out for you! ^-^

Yes, I'm hoping to find some new people, but it's hard when the only people who make you feel like crap are the only option at the moment :l

Im a guy. And i have the same problem. I have insecurities but i try my best to gain confidence or seem confident. No one ever messages me or wants to hang out. I meditate and keep it positive with everyone. But im just a polite guy. Im 19. I suck at relationships. And ive only had one real girlfriend. And that was recently but as soon as we started dating she got bored of me in the first week. Idk why but i try to get with so many girls but they all stop talking to me in a week. Im just lonely as fu ck and i hate it. I really do. I used to talk to girks all the time but i think my game is weak and maybe thats why they get bored of me.

I'm sorry to hear that. And you're not alone, don't worry. I guess the need of wanting someone and constantly seeking it makes us... Present a different version of us, one that displays the side that wants the feeling of being needed, or wanted •~•

Yeah, for me sometimes I try to relax and leave the people I want to talk with alone for a while and take it slow to get to know them to get used to them, so I wouldn't seem nervous or blank-minded when talking to them (which has happened still, unfortunately)