Depression and Emptiness
Why do you think there's this numbness inside us? The lack of feelings? I've been trying to figure it out for a very long time, and personally I think its because I have no ambition or goal in life. What about you?
I am very sorry to hear that you are feeling that way. The information you gave was not enough for me to give you a specific answer. I have no idea how old you are, male or female, married with children, single, divorced or widowed. If you are working in a job you like or if you are not working due to a disability, laid off, fired or by choice. Have you always felt like this or is this something new? Do you have a physical illness that is chronic and causing daily pain and suffering or have you been assessed by a therapist or psychiatrist and been given a mental health diagnosis? I so not want any of this personal information to be posted on the thread here, but I wanted you to know that to answer your question respectfully and honestly, I would need much more information than just your question. You can feel free to PM me in the evenings Tues and Friday evening between 6:30-9:00 PM EST United States and I will do my best to help you. I do not need any personal information, as this site is 100% anonymous and private, but I would need to have generic answers to the questions above to be helpful. Please do not ever give your place of work, your name, city where you live or/especialy your phone number.
Also, we have wonderful group support rooms for depression if you are unable to connect with a preferred listener, but know that all listeners have been trained and you can check out their profiles to see if you might find someone you feel might be a better fit.
I wish you all the best and I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
MsJessica55
@MsJessica55 Thank you very much, your post was very sincere and kind :) However I thin you misunderstood me :p I just wanted to hear the opinions of others on why they belive they fight with their own depression :) In my case, like I stated previously, I belive it is because I dont have a goal to pursue(thats the short version). I just wanted to understand the different reasons why people would fall into depression, specifically the emptiness.
@RedRose82
When you say that you don't have a goal to pursue, would it be alright to ask you how old you are? I find it hard to believe that a person of any age would not have some kind of goal, whether it be educational, family oriented or leisurely pursuits. Do you play any musical instruments, have any artistic talent, want to travel or learn a new language.
I believe that people get depressed because they forget how to play. Life has a way of filling your schedule with important things like working, school, house cleaning, bill paying, taking the car in for care, doctor appointments, meetings, church obligations, neighborhood obligations, doing laundry, taking care of the pets, when does a person find ME time. I have found that I need to have something to look forward to every week and sometimes more than once a week, no matter what madness is going on in my life. An example would be, right now I am sitting in a hospital room across from my brother who just had a heart attack. I know when he comes home (he lives with me, he has Parkinson's and dementia also) that I will have to arrange for caretakers to come in so that I can go to work without worrying and also so I can continue to go swimming during the week, which is not selfish, but life saving for me. It is part of my physical rehab anyway, but I enjoy it so much that I will continue on when my rehab finishes. I have learned to delegate and to not be such a perfectionist because really, nothing has to be perfect all the time. I have learned to ask for help. The most important thing that I have learned to do that has alleviated a great deal of depression, is to not care very much about what unimportant people in my life think about me.
I hope this post better answers your questions. If you continue to feel the way you have been feeling, please see someone and get assessed so that the depression doesn't get worse. Depression and pain have one thing in common, both are easier to control or stop when it first starts, then when it reaches an unbearable level.
Sending hugs your way,
MsJessica55
@RedRose82 I think I should rephrase this. I meant what is the reason for your depression? (you dont have to shre anything if you dont want to) Like I said previously, I belive the emptiness I feel is becausse of my lack of ambition and lack of goals. BecuaseI have nothing to aim for I feel no drvie and I guess thats why I don't feel many emotions :\
@RedRose82
I agree I feel the same way
I feel you...
I have tried just fill my day with something, even if I don't like that much. Just to mantain myself occupied, cause if I stop I will feel bad about myself. If I don't don anything usefull in a day it make me feel empty, more than normal.
@Tatety23 Agreed, but sometimes it gets hard to go out 
But I get the need to make something of yourself.
@RedRose82 It's hard, but you know, baby steps. I'm trying to use less of social media and netflix and just doing something for myself. I'm having a hard time to find something that I really enjoy, but I feel better just looking for it.
I was wasting so much time in tv series and tumblr, twitter etc trying to fill a void with useless things, distracting myself of living when I already have a hard time living was kind of a bad idea. I was feeling that I was not evolving has a person in any sense of my life, personal or professional. So just trying to be better already makes me a little bit better. I still not okay but the trying helps.
@Tatety23 I'm proud of you for doing that, good job! I as well have deactivated all my social media accounts apart from 7cups, whatsapp, and skype. 
Baby steps might sound easy but its actually quite hard, the mere fact that you are trying is very brave of you!
@RedRose82 I'm kind of just accepted my apathy, I think I will be always blasé and numb about all things. This is my life now and I just have to work to not let this kill me. But I have no expectations to be what I was before all this.