At times I feel alone
Right now I feel That I had enough about everything that I'm not enough good for anyone, and If I'm that much "bad person" then I dont wanna live anymoreðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
It’s must be tough for you moonlight :, ( Im sure you’re not a bad person and it’s ok to take some time out or just a little moment to rest, try and find something that you could do to stop thinking about it! It does work. You are worthy alr! 🫂💗
moonligt,
Would you try this one thing please? Get out your notebook or a piece of paper.
Write this:
I am (your name). I have made lots of mistakes, but I that's not the core of me. This is who I am...
Then write out 21 kind or caring or generous or loving things you've done in life for other people. Just small little things. Think back through your entire life. Don't stop until you've hit 21.
Then read it every morning when you wake up, and meet new people who see the best in you, and make you want to add #22!
@RedWell thank you so much, I really appreciate your help, but I don't have self-love problem (I love myself, but Ik that I'm not saint, I'm not egoist.) my problem is that there was a lot almost the same experiments (with friends, relationships)
And there is 2 group most of the time from the people who I've met before
Number 1:1st day he or she texts me, next day they start ghosting and forget me.
2nd option: they have crush on me, and If I say no, then I will be automatically treated as a bad person, and evil, doesn't matter How much I tried to tell them that I don't have problem with them. I just feel that I had enough about everything
And that's not the only reason I'm here. I also wanna make new friends, but I'm scared because of the bad experiences
Also I feel that I was unrespectful to you. But you only try to help. So I'm sorry If I really was 😔
@moonligt
It's really OK. Now I understand a bit better.
I hope you will value face to face talking a big more and texting less. Face-to-face you can really tell with body language, you can see if someone is turning their body towards you somewhat when talking, whether they make eye contact with you when you're talking. Words can just be words and not mean much, look for someone who looks in your eyes with a slight smile when you talk. They are the ones with mutual crush potential.Â
It sucks to have to turn someone down who likes you and then be hated just for being honest. It might feel so humiliating and cold to them, even though you just aren't interested and don't mean to be humiliating or cold. Think of something good about the person who says they have a crush on you, some good quality or trait that many people find very attractive. Tell them something good about them that you like about them and that is likeable about them before saying that you're just not the right person to date them but you know they deserve a really good person to date. If they hear 2 good things about them along when they also hear 'no' from you, it will make them less likely to lash out. You don't deserve the guilt after you have tried your best to say 2 positive things about them. You are free to like whoever you like.Â
Keep meeting new friends too... You will have alot more than 2 groups of friends in your life :)