Autistic Regression

@unassumingPeach6421

I'm not going sailing with my family. It's a bummer for everyone. It's hard for me to think about how hard it is to get things done. It was a bad summer. I just want it to be over. I want to work and I don't want my autistic and adhd challenges to stop me. I'll keep fighting. I hate the lack of support and judgement in my environment. My family and I are not a good fit. I'm triggered and afraid of my parents and I feel sad that I disappoint them so much, but I can't stand what they say about me. They're all jerks. I'm glad I'm making this choice but it's still hard. I see how hard it is when I see how it hurts my mother that I'm not coming. But I don't think of it beyond her own feelings and I know I need to respect my own. When it comes to looking like a picture perfect family, I've ruined it for my mom because I won't be there. She won't be able to take a Christmas card photo and posting about it would show that I wasn't there. It might concern people I guess. I'm mostly upset at the results, what's happened to me. How crap I've felt unable to do so much. I wish I could do more and be more, you know? It's hard to not feel like yourself. I hope them leaving for a week will help me. I hope it's a good trip for them. I can't promise anything. 

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Anyways I'm going to pull myself together and get to work, sorry for the spam coming. This is me saying that I'm going to start working and I have to come back here and write about it when I stop. 

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I watched TV for 25 minutes, I did get my space set up. I will start again at 2:30 and I will write down the next time I get distracted. 

@unassumingPeach6421 I worked for an hour, I'm going to take a break

@unassumingPeach6421 Well I took a break for an hour, that went by fast. I took a bike ride and got some ice cream with my grandparents. I shouldn't watch TV  but I want to. I might watch a little YouTube and get back to work.

@unassumingPeach6421 this hour sucked, my mom started vacuuming, the lawn mowers were outside, I set up outside to work, then my grandpa found me and left me to watch my grandma while I worked then my dad found us and brought her back inside. It's about to rain so I'm heading in. I don't mind all these hoops too much but I hate that I know my dad saw me and most likely told everyone that I set up a table outside which is awkward for me because we have company over and they all give me a hard time. Yesterday everyone was giving me TOO MUCH praise for making a loaf of bread. Giving me hugs and telling me I should become a chef. It's kind and all but also super condescending, I wish a loaf of bread could stay a loaf of bread. The amount of praise demonstrated to me that they didn't think I could do it. That and everyone was telling me what to do while I was making the bread even though idc and I've already make bread like 15 times. They have so little faith in me. I'll do what I always do, rise above it, keep calm and carry on. 

@unassumingPeach6421 I'm taking a break, I'm going to drive and park at the beach and work in my car. But I'll watch some TV to gather the energy first. 

@unassumingPeach6421 I watched some TV, got my stuff in the car and now I'm going to work again. Hopefully I can work for an hour straight. I'll try to work til 8pm.

@unassumingPeach6421 I did a bit of work in my car but not too much and then I got dinner with the fam. Not bad. I need to finish my assignment tonight though and I've watched too much television today.

@unassumingPeach642

I should work, but I don't want to. I know I should get over it, it's not that deep. I know I'm a hard worker and no one can take that away from me. I'm working out the kinks and the pain of autism. Sometimes I wish I could go deaf being that sound is my strongest trigger. I know exactly what's wrong with me and I won't let it get me down. 

@unassumingPeach6421 I went to bed. I'm up now. It's 12:17 pm here.

@unassumingPeach6421 Took a break for 20ish min in 7 cups. 

@unassumingPeach6421 I had some breakfast, played with my dogs, and watched tv, ik ik, but I'm about to write my introductory paragraph on the paper that I am writing. Wish me luck!

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In the middle of autistic regression I have begun a college paper, with the help of my stim toys and positive attitude. I thought my reliance of TV and my guilt of reliance of TV would stop me, but it has not. Way to go me!

@unassumingPeach6421 I had dinner and then binge watched television. I want to complete the assignment tonight and take a quick nap, wish me luck!

@unassumingPeach6421 I woke up and I feel alright today. I feel less regressed. I'm probably still in a fragile state but for the most part I think I'll be alright! I have an assignment due on Thursday, I'm halfway finished I'd like to be done today. I'm a bit nervous. School can just take so much work mentally. I hope I can do well. I'm going to take a break for an hour and then start working.

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I'm finding it hard to face my family today. Lord give me strength. I've been procrastinating all day. Like a whole school day. Ugh. I need to get it together. There's nothing to be afraid of, their words can't hurt me, I'll be okay. I am allowed to exist today. 

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I got a C on a small assignment that I spent weeks on. He told me I didn't understand the assignment at all and I really tried. I hate when that type of thing happens. It makes me so sad. I try to avoid the word, but I'm going to use it anyways. Sometimes I feel like a loser, working so hard on a task when I don't seem to win. I like to think of myself as someone who can always figure it out, but sometimes I can't. I can't always figure everything out. But I will go on and try to figure out the next thing.

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It'll be ok.

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Does anyone else feel like their teacher hates you when they give you a bad grade?  I haven't performed like a great student, but I study like a great student. I want to do well and have my GPA brought up, it would mean so much to me. I know I'm not perfect. And not just because of the diagnoses I have recorded for learning disorders. I really am trying and I know that. It's not anyone's fault what happened to me, but it is sad. And it's a good thing that I can use everyday to bring me closer to the person I want to be: A successful worker, an inventive person, an honest, responsible person and a good friend. I can't think of anything else that truly matters besides becoming that and I will.

@unassumingPeach6421 I’m glad you are still alive.

@AmyGrace55555 Thanks Amy. Writing this blog post has really help me. And things are getting better with the family, I know they still judge me and get tired of me sometimes, but I'm going to try my best to keep going. I hope you're well too!

@unassumingPeach6421 I hope you have an amazing day, Friend. ❤️ (heart). I wish the best for you. 

@AmyGrace55555 You too! I hope it's a good day!

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Does anyone else feel like their teacher hates you when they give you a bad grade?  I haven't performed like a great student, but I study like a great student. I want to do well and have my GPA brought up, it would mean so much to me. I know I'm not perfect. And not just because of the diagnoses I have recorded for learning disorders. I really am trying and I know that. It's not anyone's fault what happened to me, but it is sad. And it's a good thing that I can use everyday to bring me closer to the person I want to be: A successful worker, an inventive person, an honest, responsible person and a good friend. I can't think of anything else that truly matters besides becoming that and I will.

@unassumingPeach6421

I finished paragraph 4 which is pretty good. I have 2 paragraphs left which I will do tonight and then move on to the next assignment.

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I know it's selfish to spam this chat and make my post top post, but this really helps me, it tells me how long I've spent on my work. I can track my progress and talk about it, and my anxieties. This might be the best outlet I've found. I'm thinking of finishing my class on time and going sailing, and yes, it might be a disaster, but it might be really fun and I think I should give it a chance. Even if I am afraid of my family at times. I don't feel safe with them, but I don't want to be a coward, maybe I should face this head on and continue being blunt with my mother and telling her when she bothers me, and also standing my ground and not letting her push me around. Maybe this trip will help me grow a spine. I can be a *** and still incredible even to a family that sometimes hates me. It's me we're talking about, maybe I can prove that I can be amazing and respectable no matter who I'm with, and if I keep up that behavior, why would I care who thinks otherwise?

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I shared tonight and it was really helpful. I was having a hard time but having encouragement from strangers really helped. Just a little heart emoji or smiley face and people showing me they can relate especially @communicativepond1728 they are always really supportive of me. I'm so much more comfortable with myself, I'm caring less on people who might not like me and I'm caring about those who do, even if it's just slightly, so thanks pond! And thank you to all the other people in my life that support me. I'm grateful and happy to focus on the good!

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I've learned to be grateful for the people you can rely on and focus on them in your life instead of the people that don't believe or trust in you. Honestly it's true, so many people in the world will hate you, sometimes for no reason they just don't like you. That's never a big deal, just focus on the people that like you, and they might not always like you and that's okay too. Maybe your connections don't always last forever just make sure you have at least one person you can confide in and do everything you can to value your relationships because they matter so so much and I'm only now realizing relationships go so much beyond the status of having friends or being popular. Our friends are our support system and we all need one and to choose to rely on it. 

@unassumingPeach6421

I'm so glad I'm me and making all my decisions based on what I really think as I go through life, I wasn't always brave enough to do that. What I've done for myself is really beautiful. 

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I hate studying and working. I just want to go back to watching TV and doing nothing. I hate reality because I feel so bad at it. When I can imagine reality, I can imagine being good or at least normal at something. I can imagine having good conversations when conflicts arise I can imagine people understanding me without being frustrated. Sometimes what I try to do doesn't work and sometimes that affects others and they get frustrated and I hate frustrating people, I want to make them happy. I want to make people proud. It can be hard sometimes. It's not me saying I can't do anything right it's me experiencing doing something wrong all the time. No one wants to keep being wrong. Nothing's happened recently, but the trauma exists, but trauma doesn't define me or my future and I can trust myself. I can't bully myself for just existing and trying. If people are frustrated, let them be frustrated, I don't need them if they won't respect me. A lot of people have come around and learn to respect me and be kind. Why do I have to keep thinking about the people that stopped giving me a chance?

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People were cruel, but I don't have to be. I'm going to go brush my teeth and use some deodorant and then get back to work. 

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Recently I started viewing things about embracing the beauty you have, eating healthy, dressing well to uniquely to have a conversation starter, choosing to embrace a more social lifestyle and even a video calling me out on longing in relationships and my need to accept myself, let myself be loved and let go of control. 

Content: Netflix's you are what you eat twin experiment, this video on idealized relationships https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JqGeP240Tc, loneliness and unique fashion https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcYPiQGyZbM, and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gm4tLPXlwIw a video on appearances and the wonderful perks of averting the male gaze, why not be fabulous right? 

All this content made me want to better myself, which was kind of a long time coming. My muscles don't flex well and feel like jelly, I'm young and my leg felt like I have a blood clot, and I fall out of healthy habits and leap towards destructive behaviors every day. It's tough to watch. I'm pretty glued to my computer which is pretty ironic being I hate technology and all. 

The reality, I have extreme disorders and my triggers usually lead to negative consequences for me. I don't have what I need when I need it. My noise triggers can really be too much for me. It leaves me numb and drained of all energy. The truth is sometimes life hits too hard and I can't keep pushing myself like a normal person. 

Solutions: Dance classes (for stimming), guitar classes (for stimming), journaling like I'm doing here, and getting all that stuff to be able to sleep in my car, Ik what you're thinking but noise triggers me, if I find a quiet place to park and set up a car bed and things to cover the windows it might be the best environment, plus I don't have to feel bad about playing my sound machine. My research has found people on the spectrum need more sleep and I am exhausted all the time. Choosing to sleep in my car whenever I need a pick me up sounds like a pretty good idea to me. 

So I am committed to dressing better and standing out (which costs money but I'll find out how to make the expense) I am going to eat a healthier diet which I'm already doing but I want more alternative cheese mixed in with regular dairy and more protein which will help me I believe. I'll stop longing as much too, try to wean off of addictive behaviors so I can be apart of real relationships and build stronger connections.

I play things safe a lot mainly because things have blown up in my face, but sometimes things blow up in my face because I'm so afraid that they will blow up in my face. I'm trying to forget and move on from things people said about me because I don't have to self-sabotage myself. Allowing myself to be around others who might judge or criticize me does not make me any less worthy. It's not so bad now. It might be bad with my parents and grandparents and it was for me in high school but college has been a different beast. I've had good friendships too where people have been kind. Sometimes I feel like I'm waiting for a shoe to drop but it isn't even there. I need to accept myself and let insults roll off me easier. I can not be who people think I am and they can still try to tell me what I am and be mad at me for what I am not, but it's not my fault. If I'm trying my best that's all that matters. I am someone worthy of love and respect, I can't think of anything more important than that.

I'll take sometime to implement lifestyle changes. My insecurities are valid. It sucks so much when your insecurities are the kinds of things people will remind you of. The things you know people are thinking about you and holding back or telling you directly to your face, even the people close to you. And then you worry about annoying or bothering people. Sometimes I feel like my only choices are to either hate myself or hate the people that are so ignorant in their behavior towards me. I think I'm bullied for being autistic. 

@unassumingPeach6421

It took me a while to see this but I'm being abused. I'm my family's flesh punching bag. The reason I always felt like I had to prove myself to them is because they have always acted like I'm unworthy. They always assume the worst of me, yell at me, talk down to me or gossip about me when I leave the room. They're my abusers. I asked people online if I could be mentally healthy while in a relationship with an abuser and the suggestion was to have other close relationships and have the ability to eventually separate. There's no clear right and wrong. I get that it's complicated and for some of it it seems like they wanted to change. But when I communicate and tell them how I'm feeling or talk about something they did that made me uncomfortable they can't take the criticism and even yell at me more. I've been thinking about this all day and it makes sense. I don't really get to have anything I feel is truly my own in this house. They have no respect for me. It's been hard to write about this but I'm glad I did.

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Holy sh-t! I have memories as a kid of some teachers worrying I might've been abused, like I was showing behaviors of someone abused. I always thought no. I always said I wasn't, but maybe I was. I mean I feel abused now. I feel like no one will listen to me and the whole power dynamic is shifted against me. I know that every time I feel happy or comfortable with my parents, someone insults me or yells at me, every d-amn time. That's not a coincidence that no one will listen to me and I look like an empty shell of a person, that's all abuse. I'm glad I can finally accept it. 

@unassumingPeach6421 I don’t see it as selfish. You have found an outlet, which some people may never find that outlet. This is a way for you to keep track of what’s going on, and helps you get through the day. You are not alone in this, I relate to some of what you have typed. Don’t stop giving yourself this outlet to express yourself and emotions. 

@AmyGrace55555

Thanks Amy for supporting me and going along this journey with me! If there's something you want to post about your day here feel free <3 you're right, it is a really nice outlet!

@unassumingPeach6421. I think I’m okay. Just living life the best way I can, by still being alive, which is hard at times. But I’m still here.

@AmyGrace55555 

I'm really glad you're still here!

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