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@Iamtryingtogetbett3r

I have the same issue. I notice when other people talk that they can carry it for ages and talk about anything under the sun while I can't do anything but say hello. Today a woman tried to make conversation with me and I couldn't even look her in the eyes.

I don't think it's you sabotaging yourself. For me, it's fear. I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing, or just failing to say anything important so I say nothing. And I think it's important to know, it's okay to feel that way.

Not everyone is a conversation genius. It's okay to just listen, to shyly shrug and say nothing. You don't owe anyone your words. Share them when you can.

Hope this helps.

@Mesop It does, thank you! I

@Iamtryingtogetbett3r That definitely sounds like social anxiety to me. I have a similar problem of feeling nervous. I find I can talk more if we're doing something like cooking or playing a game or in certain environments like being outside or with pets there.

Maybe your mom can help you find a mental health counselor not just a medical doctor? A therapist will be familiar with social anxiety and can help you set goals around that.

Stay strong :) @Iamtryingtogetbett3r

Hi! Im Heather

I am so glad you came to this site! Sometimes it can be easier to talk to someone in a more anonymous way😃 I think the best way to keep s conversation going, is to ask questions that require more than a one or two word answer and to ask the person about themselves.

I dont think theres anything wrong with you... I think you just might need a brush up on your social skills a little. You have had the same friends for a long time, so you havent had to practice meeting new people

@Iamtryingtogetbett3r i jave traces of attention defficit and it's always been hard for me to concentrate on one thing (conversations especially) but I pushed myself, in time got a bit better...it may be that you are young or introverted or shy like me or not into chit-chat like me. In old times they used to train teens in the "arts of conversation"😊. You are fine whatever it is and you are not alone in having this difficulty🤗🤗🤗 I feel you...

@Butterflee It very well may be all the things you

@Iamtryingtogetbett3r hugs and BEAMS!

*gives you flowers 💐🌸💮🏵🌹🌺🌻🌼🌷

I also have that problem, sometimes even with my boyfriends I had this issue. It's like I block and don't know what else to say and then get nervous because I think they are expecting me to say something.