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Can't Get Close to People

FallingCrescent July 29th, 2016
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Anxiety is seriously inhibiting my ability to connect with people. For years I've never been able to connect with someone on shall we say a "BFF" level. Those quirky things you do with someone? Yeah, I can't seem to get to that point. It all feels like I'm pretending I feel close to some of my friends when really I feel so distant to them. I don't let loose and show a more personal side of me, perhaps due to depression? I don't know how to connect with people, it all feels so fake. I want to get close to people, I want to connect!

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freshHug78 July 29th, 2016
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@FallingCrescent I have been there . I totally understand . Feel free to PM me . Worry less ! :-) And just be you !

Daydreamer47 August 8th, 2016
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@Whirlwindbrigade Yeah I've been there. Today I was talking to my friend Saul and trying to explain how I feel really lonely and struggle with relationships, and I was having social anxiety during the whole convo and felt like the words I really wanted to say to express my feelings were stuck inside. So now I still feel lonely and misunderstood. :(

Daydreamer47 August 4th, 2016
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@FallingCrescent Awww. I think I am going through something similar. :( I have a very small number of close friends, and even them I am afraid to tell certain things. I guess the main thing that helped me is fb messenger or text, because I find it easier to tell people personal things that way than in person.

FallingCrescent OP August 6th, 2016
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@Daydreamer47

I find messaging easier too. Though I still slightly freak out when trying to think of something to send back or when I send something and am awaiting a reply.

Daydreamer47 August 8th, 2016
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@FallingCrescent Yeah I have that too, especially if it's a really personal "confession" type of message. :( But baby steps I guess. I've tried making lists of things I want to tell people, and I try to tell them one at a time.

JamieSclafaniLMSW August 6th, 2016
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connecting with others on a personal level is a normal desire and need. We all need companionship at some point in our lives. Sometimes are experiences can shape if we are able to have strong relationships, or not. @FallingCrescent