wanna be a listener but afraid to do so.

Not specifically about bring a listener, but, in general I can relate to not wanting to do something out of a fear of failure. That’s a big thing I’m working on in therapy right now. I think that if you do become a listener, yes, there is a small chance you won’t do do well. But, you care. If you do start out bad, you can grow from the feedback and help people eventually on here. And even then, the site is in need of listeners, people in need of help, and it’s so so unlikely you could cause more harm being “bad” at listening than by doing nothing. I think that you should give it a shot if you feel up to it, rooting for you!

@YanaC I think its an awesome thing to want to be a listener but its also a good thing to prepare yourself. Understand that its hard to always be right and sometimes you will mess up but thats okay, learning to addressing your mistakes and then going on a right path from there is also a good experience. I dont think anyone would make rumors about you if you made a mistake. If you do decide to become a listener then great! if you dont then thats cool too, whatever floats your boat haha

@YanaC

I can understand from where you are coming and it does sounds like you are anxious. You seem to be Overthinking about what will happen once you become a Listener here and your worries are understandable. ❤️

I am glad to hear that you wanna help people and make them feel better. Also know that it's okay if you are unable to, you taking care of yourself is more important.

Also, there is absolutely no need to fear about what will happen once you become a Listener here, maybe just give it a try and see how it goes. You listening to others by giving your precious time is itself a very big thing and it does not matter even if you go wrong, what matters is that you are trying your best to help others.

Good Luck. ❤️👍

@YanaC Yes, I think a lot of listeners have gone through this.

The answer is in the name, "listener". A listener is here to listen, so that members feel heard, valued and understood. A listener is not here to give advice and solve people's problems. If you give advice, or try to solve people's problems, you can make things worse, and you can get a bad reputation. So I think what you are scared of is completely correct.

Many listeners take a long time to work this out. They try to solve people's problems and it just goes wrong time after time. Sometimes they realize that their approach is wrong, and they eventually stop trying to solve people's problems. They learn to simply listen.

You have worked this out before you even start the listener training! I think that means you'll be a really good listener who simply listens. I hope you go ahead and try it.

Feel free to message me if you ever want to chat.

Charlie

Everything makes sense love. The way you feel always makes sense even if you struggle to explain it. The best way to overcome your fears is to face them and that's very important to remember. Anxiety is like a demon that you should never let take over you and your desires. And also, helping others will help you as well. It will help you find yourself bit by bit. Slowly but surely. that's what's been happening with me since i got on here! Life is a rollercoaster full of ups and downs and sometimes you just get stuck on the downs because you're not sure if pushing would take you up or even more down. Whatever the case is, life will eventually take you up I promise. It's all about faith. Take care❤️