The big question of my life

I get how heavy those questions on your mind can feel. It's totally normal to have doubts and be unsure about what's coming next. Just know that progress isn't always a straight line, and it's okay to have off days where you're not feeling as on top of things. 

@SoulSun808 its a very big step even coming onto here and sharing your story. sometimes these things just take time, and its gonna be okay - i promise! you wouldnt be here if you didnt have a purpose, and that i can promise you. youve got this, buddy!!

@SoulSun808 It sounds like you're carrying a heavy weight with these thoughts and feelings about yourself and the world around you. It's really brave of you to open up about these struggles. It's important to remember that you're not alone in feeling this way.

Many people struggle with similar questions and feelings of uncertainty. While it may feel like you're surrounded by people who don't understand or accept you, there are also people who do care and who are willing to support you on your journey.

Remember that small steps can lead to big changes over time. It's okay to take things one day at a time and to be gentle with yourself along the way. Most importantly, remember that it's okay to ask for help and to lean on others when you need it.

It is understandable that many doubts appear along your path. Uncertainty sometimes appears like a thick fog that prevents us from knowing where we are going. But keep in mind that your path is unique and that many times you will go in the wrong directions before discovering the right one. Sometimes you won't even know where you want to go. But that's the thing, little by little, day by day, you will discover it step by step

Hi,

I liked everything you said because it's so relatable. I could understand how you feel and it resonated with me. Everyone wants to be fake because they're just trying to fit a standard or expectations that world has of them because to be defined anything other normal basically means you're being alienized by society because you don't align to those and some people don't mind selling their authenticity for that tbh.

I know what it means to want to change things about yourself when you spoke about helping people and even though you might not channge as much as you'd like too starting small will be good for you. Even if you are just whispering 'hello' to them, it's a start. A tiny step in becoming better at that.

You sound like a self aware overthinker, also like me😂 and I think that's just anxiety, I'm not saying it gets better. I mean even I still face that till now but I will say that being calm or taking deep breaths and thinking about what makes you feel happy or content, works at least for me.

And honestly I'm not sure if I'm guessing correctly but do you ever feel like you don't know how to define yourself? Like finding you is so hard because you don't know who you are. I used to pretend to be someone else and because of that I lost my sense of self. Couldn't what I liked and what makes me happy even till this day but I hear it's a journey so let's discover ourselves together.

And as for the different versions of you, I once heard that there can be different versions of a person but accepting each part of them and even understanding all of them like a meeting or a little discussion group can be such a nice feeling. The point is their all parts of you that want to be heard.

I so agree with all you said I feel the same

@SoulSun808 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings so openly. Feeling like there are multiple versions of yourself and struggling to find your true self in societal expectations can be incredibly challenging. Finding your true self can be a process, and it may involve exploring different aspects of yourself and experimenting with different paths. It's okay to feel uncertain and to take your time figuring things out. What's important is that you're reflecting on your experiences and seeking to understand yourself better. You have the strength and resilience to work through these challenges and find your way forward

@SoulSun808 hi my  name is amber I lost some stuff that I can't get back it got thrown out I have ocd disorder I feel sad about i trying to got through it tho

@SoulSun808 Admiration for the honesty and bravery to share your thoughts. Nowadays is so much more difficult to feel free in any aspect - in our thoughts, with friends, family, with the world. To show our true self. In the past people didn't have much - they didn't have money, they didn't have that much programs on the television, they didn't have even Internet connection. They were speaking with each other face to face, dancing, having fun. They were free of judgement, free of speculation, free of choice. Choice that we have plenty - choice of what to eat, what to dress, what to watch, what to work. It is liberating, but also suffocating for our soul. We don't talk to each other openly anymore, we don't know how to be present. We are overwhelmed by social standards of what is right or wrong, who to date, what to do. We can save ourselves if we turn in to ourselves, to look deep, to explore, to be one with nature, to slow down. It's okay not to be perfect, to be the first. It's okay to be weird, it's the best. Everyone has their own flaws and that is their power. I believe that you will achieve your goal. Just keep going and don't rush. 

This really is the big question isn’t it? I see a bit of myself in your story and appreciate that you shared this despite the vulnerability it brings; it couldn’t have been easy. There are so many times where I’ve been searching for the true version of myself as well and felt as if every version wasn’t who I really was. It’s been a while since the original post, and I hope you’ve made a little progress in finding that out! I’m rooting for you in the sidelines and whether you’re closer or further from that answer, as long as you’re still searching you’re still making progress. I believe in you, truly!