Fear of not finding true love, getting older
I am 32years old and recently broken up with my partner who l had believed would be married shortly and children etc. He pulled the rug from under me and eft unannounced during lockdown.
I have anxiety over whether I will ever be able to find true love, as l have had bad experiences in the past, and wondering how people generally manage negative thoughts in this area?
That sucks. I feel like I also aspire to finding "true love." It seems like the most important thing in life, and yet I'm told at the same time it isn't. Like right now, we're living in this era where "self-love" is talked about more and more. I've only ever had one boyfriend and we broke up after a few months, so the likelihood that I'll end up alone seems greater and greater.
Some part of me feels very depressed by the idea of never finding "true love," but then I wonder why I should be. If it's a question of wanting a family (kids), then I guess I'm more than capable of having that on my own. But that's not actually something I want. I guess I just want someone to accept me completely, and not make me feel rejected. Someone who will power through hard times with me, and enjoy good times. But I don't necessarily need someone there either. It just seems a lot calmer when you have someone else. I guess the questions are: Why didn't it work out between you and your partner? And what do you want from a relationship?
@agreeableTortoise1748
Hello. I'm Becky. Yes you will find love again. I promise. This person was not for you. Apparently he didn't appreciate the qualities you have to offer. Please keep your chin up. Allow yourself time to grieve but don't get stuck there. It's ok to ask for help esp from a professional. Good luck
@agreeableTortoise1748
you have to just put yourself out there! I mean as far as, deciding the type of person you want and GO to those areas and see if you can connect with them. Millions of people die daily and never get to experience what we have been conditioned to believe in as far as true love!. You will continue to live with or without it. But since YOU want it go out there and get it.
