Anxiety Judgement. (what is the worst you have been told....)
Its so easy for people to judge and say hurtful things...
share here the worst you have been told about your anxiety :
why dont you interect with people ?
you wont be able to do it let me do it for you
the most hurtful one was "try to be normal " as if i have some ON & OFF button
I dont understand why or how you could feel this why.
I can't help you. Just go and get some REAL help
Don't worry so much
Try harder
@DreamyVibes thank you for sharing.
it definitely sounds like people trying to break you down and make you feel terrible about yourself.
@politeSun
Yes. though i know some of the people who say these things care about me..they just cant understand what i am going through and in the end run out of things to say. I also dont like the "tough love" approach
@politeSun This Is. Good. : - ) Very timely
@Serg77
it makes so much sense@politeSun
So, several things I've heard from the few people I've ever talked to about my anxiety (not on 7cups though 
):
"Worrying won't make it better" or "You'll be/do fine, don't worry"
"Stop overreacting/dramatizing" or "Why are you so hung up over something like this?"
"You're still not over that [i.e., my anxiety]?"
"What are you trying to accomplish by telling me you're anxious?"
"You'll have to face your fears, or you won't get on with life/accomplish x/..."
"Why are you even worried about something like that?"
"Everyone else is just human as well, so don't worry about talking to them" (That's just one of the not helpful ones, but it's not particularly hurtful to me either.)
"Why are you always so pessimistic?" or "Stop looking for negative outcomes"
"Think positive, and positive things will happen" and "Your thoughts influence the outcome"
"Stop getting so upset and start being reasonable"
I actually didn't think I'd write this many, but once I started, I kept remembering more. I can ignore most of them if I'm not having a particularly bad day, luckily; but it's still frustrating to hear them.
@Amarillo
wow...thats a long and mean list of comments by a few people :(
thankful none of it came from anyone on 7cups :)
and its so impressing that you can ignore them, so proud 
@politeSun
Well, it's not like I hear all of them every day or so, it's just things that accumulated over the years. If someone told me all of that at once, that would be way worse.
Thanks, haha. I've had to learn to tune out things since over ten years ago (though not always things about anxiety), so I manage most of the time. What makes it easier to ignore most of the above sentences for me is that I don't really expect the people who say them to understand me anyway (I mainly talk to them about these things when I can't hold myself back and need to vent). And I know they don't mean to be rude or insensitive, they just can't understand some things are way bigger to me than to them. It still hurts on bad days though, of course.
@Amarillo
You are amazing for just being able to tolerate them sometimes. People just don't get it! They can only have a glimpse of understanding of what you deal with only if they have experienced it themselves. Keep on going! You are doing your best with what you have!
@Amarillo I've lost count of the number of times i've heard these too. The world would be a better place if people tried toe ducate themselves/ show a little empathy. Thankfully we have sites like 7cups to show us that there's still hope :)
The worst I heard was "you have a anxious personality". To me is the worst because anxiety is NOT a part of someone's personality. I've had really bad life experiences.. I'm naturally happy, positive and I love making others happy. But life happens and anxiety became a panick disorder.
Sorry kinda ranted too long but yeah.
But for anyone who's reading this remember, anxiety does not define you, is simply a issue that is in your life but you can work on it. You are strong, you're unique and you are much more than anxiety. Don't let anyone make you ashamed just because you struggle with this.
@Booklover95
You have every right to talk out. and definitely anxiety is NOT a part of you.
Thank you for saying this soo beautifully "Anxiety does not define you, is simply a issue that is in your life but you can work on it. You are strong, you're unique and you are much more than anxiety. Don't let anyone make you ashamed just because you struggle with this"
@politeSun
thank you so much :)
I wanted to remember people that they are unique and much more than anxiety
@politeSun
@politeSun
"Stop freaking out over nothing."
"You're just imagining things."
"Get over it."
"Stop overreacting."
"That's stupid that you worry about stuff like that."
It's mainly my parents who say this...
When I was still in high school, going there was the worst thing for me. Not sure why but my anxiety would go end to end to not let me go. The staff and people at school all thought I was a lazy problem child. I did so much work at home, more work than anyone in that class did. The teacher thought it was cool to hide the papers I was sending in, like he never got them. I did stacks and stacks and hours of paperwork. But because I was working from home instead, it was okay for him to do this apparently, and the principal told me I need to work harder and actually do my work. I was very close to not being able to graduate due to this which sucked. The worst thing I've heard people say about my anxiety is that it's not real- that I'm just a lazy lost cause going no where in life. I'm trying my hardest. I wish people could see that.
@xcassx
feeling unable to go to school and then getting your hard-work ignored like that by the teacher should have been so hard. and then that kind of judgement... terrible!
but inspite of all that you were able to graduate... what an admirable person you are !!!
@xcassx
@politeSun
It's not real. Stop being a baby, toughen up.
@ReservedExcitement
that is almost word to word what was told to me....
"I am tough, thanks for the reminder" i wish i could tell that to their face though :)
