Words of Encouragement
What is one compassionate reminder you're needing most lately?
Without explanation, please write it below. If you'd like, respond to someone else here randomly. 💛
Food for thought moment: If it's hard to show compassion toward yourself at this moment, imagine your friend feeling exactly as you are - similar thoughts, situations. What encouragement would you give to them?
With Grace,
Your friendly neighborly Zaati
@Saly33 Lets look very carefully at what is happening here, because I also have this same problem.
First there is the idea that self-affirmation or self-encouragement will not work, because we don't believe in it. Where does this skepticism come from? It comes from disappointment. Because sometimes we find motivation, and it turns out to be inadequate and so we are left disappointed. This makes us skeptical about revving ourselves up again in the future.
So what is happening, is the MO of the mind is at play like always, and so it's just hiding from something unpleasant. Which is the possibility of being disappointing again. Whenever it evades something, it spins a story. In this case, the story is that "I can't encourage myself, because I don't believe my own words, and so it's futile and ever more disappointing effort". So what I do is, just like when debating, I turn the argument around on itself. "If I don't believe my own words, then why believe this story?".
And so we arrive back at the truth of the fact that words, thoughts, and feelings, are not absolutely true, but best approximations of what we think is the case. It's half true, and half made up.
This half and half nature of the contents of our minds and hearts, is a crucial insight, as it gives you freedom from self-limiting beliefs. Do you see the beauty of the irony of this? I mean, the fact that not believing what you say, can be a reason to even try to find encouragement, but can also be the reason why you have available to you a universe of possibility and encouragement. Because it's programmable now, it's not immutable truth. And it happens, like all things in life, one step at a time.
@CompassionateDetective
That's right, dude Disappointments...you put your hand on the wound and solved the mystery for me... Yes... I read your words and relate to the events that happened to me. Yes, there are disappointments that made me reach this stage... I need exercises to get rid of these feelings... Thank you for this inspiration 👍💐
@Saly33 Thank YOU for the appreciation and understanding, it totally uplifted and motivated me reading that.
I think you have some pains inside of you that you might still need to grieve. Once we grieve these deep disappointments, we can burp that blockage out of the system, and you will naturally find more motivation again because you've dealt with the block.
The blocks in our system seem to be always dissolved with a kind of drain block cleaner, which is "acceptance". This acceptance penetrates through the layers of fear, anger, bypassing, and dives into the sadness and emotional pain behind those layers. That sadness then takes over temporarily, as it is an acceptance emotion, and sometimes with weeping, it unblocks that clogged energy. You literally exhale and weep it out of you, from your belly and your chest, out your mouth, silently with a kind of silent inaudible wailing.
That will hopefully happen automatically on it's own, and this description and understanding is just a kind of primer to that. Like a seed.
For something practical: you can try working with self-affirmations. This will serve as a kind of token of intention, and will convince yourself that you want change just by the effort and willingness to do it. If your problem is a lack of trust in self-affirmations, then start there. Remind yourself of something like "what I say is true, becomes true". Or "I always have a choice".
One affirmation that really worked for me over a long time in a powerful way was: "everything is favorable to me". That one can carry you all the way through to deep inner acceptance, healing, and lots of possibilities in your life.
Words can be almost magical.
@CompassionateDetective
Thank you for these useful words for my situation .. Thank you for supporting me and giving me advice. Your energy has reached me, it is pure and kind ... I will try to apply itI am grateful to you my friend
@zaatarHoney It's ok if others do not understand your goals and aspirations. The path to your dream is personal and if you think you will be alone it's not guaranteed because at a certain point, you will meet like-minded individuals that are either there to help you or be part of your life~
@Moonlight778 Yes, you will meet like minded people on your journey! :)
@TinyWhisper11
We all benefit greatly when someone takes the time out of their day to be present with us to cheer us on regardless of whatever we may be facing. Without a doubt, communities like ours here at 7Cups are able to prosper with the contributions of presences like yours - your encouragements have been noticed and our platform is brighter because you exist.
I made this unofficial badge for you in honor of your support here ♥︎ :) I sincerely hope you are cheered on in the moments you need it too - from within and around yourself. And, if you find it's ever too quiet, we're here for you.
@zaatarHoney compassion warrior badge ❤❤ I will wear it proudly thankyou🤗
@zaatarHoney my words of encouragement are this: whatever is plaguing you today: will it matter in five years? If so, by how much, really? And also: 99percent of what we fear tend not to happen. Believe it and then you’ll see it. ❤️
@zaatarHoney
I would like to say,' I am always here for you'
@zaatarHoney
one compassionate reminder that i would need at the moment - "not every day is a perfect day, so you have to appreciate the things in every day and in life that give you support and happiness!"
@TimewiseHeart
Here is a verse to you from the Bible about angels:
11 For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways;
12 they will lift you up in their hands,
so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
@zaatarHoney
I need to be reminded it is okay not to be as good as everyone else. That my best is good enough.
@AutiBoy
Yes! It's great that you're showing up and trying! Some days we do our best and others no... so you're right! It's ok to be exactly who you are at that moment. :)
Your identity is something much bigger and greater than you can ever know - imperfection serves growth and that can be the part of it ❤️