Weekly Prompt #41: Are there any underlying beliefs or fears that fuel your anxiety?
Hello all and welcome back to another discussion,
A couple of weeks ago, we discussed what kind of behaviors anxiety has caused you to engage in. Thank you to all who participated and shared your thoughts with us. I appreciate you all. I hope all who may read it find it relatable, too. If anyone hasn't shared them yet, please share them here, and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you.
This week's prompt: Are there any underlying beliefs or fears that fuel your anxiety?
There are often underlying beliefs and fears that fuel anxiety and these can be categorized into a few key areas like core beliefs, fears, negative thinking patterns, etc. Let's start to discuss and share these behaviors and I look forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences.
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@ASilentObserver I think most of the anxiety I feel is from the fear of the past repeating itself and it gets stronger each time the past does repeat. This could be about loss, betrayal or just the feeling of not being safe. The fear of something bad happening is always at the front leading all the other negative beliefs. Running away works but then it also creates a fear for if there's ever a situation where it's not an option. It all being a self fulfilling prophesy is also another fear that goes round and round fueling the anxiety.
@BlueDarkAurora
Yes, anxiety reaks habic in my life as well Hypervilengent, paranoid, high levels of fear. I am never able to drop my guard down for fear that if I do something bad will creep upon me. Mistrust of others and never allowing anyone to get too close to me, including my own family. Feels like being trapped in a maze or often as if I am sinking in quicksand.
@WorkingitThrough2 It is exhausting<3 I hope the stress of it all keeps reducing everyday for you. Hopefully someday we'll get to put our armour down and just enjoy life.
@BlueDarkAurora I hear you and can get that you have a deep-seated fear of the past repeating itself, which leads to feelings of anxiety. And this is fueled by past experiences of loss, betrayal, and a lack of safety. If I can ask, how do you think you can address these underlying beliefs and fears?
@BlueDarkAurora Are you currently receiving any kind of support, right now? Just wondering. Because it sounds to me, like you should be. If you're not receiving any support right now, I would strongly encourage you to look into this. Here at 7cups, our support system comes in many different forms. For example, you can get support from fellow members, in our Adult Support Rooms, here at 7cups. We also have trained active listeners, the forums can be a good place to get support, and we also offer therapy. The therapy that we offer is done by trained Therapists, which have many years of experience.
So I hope you take advantage of some of our support offerings, while at 7cups.
@ASilentObserver
I primarily struggle with social anxiety which stems from my low self-esteem. I have a lot of negative thoughts about myself: "I'm stupid, I'm awkward, I never know what to say, I do so many things wrong" etc. etc. etc. Sometimes I get so stuck in these thoughts that it's hard to focus on what other people are saying around me. I get panicked and sad, my face turns red and my heart races.
It's slowly getting better by doing different things: meditation (almost) every day, praying, giving myself a lot of positive affirmations for every little thing I do (even emptying the litter box haha), exercise, good sleep and noticing if I get stuck in my thoughts and then focus on the conversation or my breathing.
Patience is really important. I've had really bad thoughts about myself ever since I was a young teenager so it makes sense I can't undo years of harm in just a couple of months. But I'm just grateful things are getting better, even if slowly 🙏.
I hope things will get better for everyone else here too 💖!
@CozyChelly Thank you for opening up and sharing it with us. I am glad you are making some real progress with your anxiety through mindfulness and self-care practices. How do you feel when you notice yourself getting caught up in negative thought patterns?
@ASilentObserver
I don't feel too bad when I catch myself thinking these things anymore, actually. I quickly correct the thoughts and reassure myself! I'm just working on noticing them more often, because I still have moments where I have these thoughts on auto-pilot and don't even realize and I don't want to reinforce these thoughts. With practice and perseverance it'll only get better and better.
Thank you for the great question and thoughtful words!
@CozyChelly It is good to hear that I am glad you are putting so much effort into recognizing and correcting these negative thought patterns. It is good how you have made progress in catching yourself and reframing your thoughts. Please continue to take small steps that lead to significant changes over time.
@CozyChelly I just wanted to let you know, that your not stupid. So, please do not think that you are. Ok, my friend?
@ASilentObserver
Are there any underlying beliefs or fears that fuel your anxiety?
I am not good enough. No one understands me. Why is it always me? What are others going to think of me?
Positive thinking pattern:
I am good enough.
I may be good in areas where other people are not good at.
We all have to go through difficult situations. And it is not just me who is going through a tough time.
What others think of me is not what defines me. I am grateful for who I am. I cannot be like the others. And I am happy with that.
It is not like no one understands me. They do understand me. The thing I should remember when thoughts like these arise is the fact that I am not alone. There are other people who may be going through a worse and more difficulyt situation than I am. I am grateful for the events that have occurred in my life. I am grateful that I am learning everyday.
@Admirablerainbow2825 Those are some powerful affirmations to practice. How can you remind yourself of them when you're feeling most anxious?
@Admirablerainbow2825 Your good enough, to me. You truly are. People in general can be not so nice, sometimes. They say things that hurt our feelings. The best thing we can do, is when someone is like that, is pay them no mind. You're a special human being, my friend. I have faith in you. You are going to do some amazing things, just wait and see. Keep your head up, my friend.
@ASilentObserver
I sometimes struggle with the idea of being lonely. It seems that no matter what I do, I end up lonely. With success People come to celebrate, and with failure they leave. In this way I am scared of failure, losing games or behaving bad in work. I always feel insecure inside, and it turns out anxiety sometimes attacks me when I start a new project.
@Rescie hey
It’s completely natural to feel that way. Loneliness and the fear of failure can be closely linked, especially when we tie our value to how others perceive our accomplishments. It seems like you place a lot of pressure on yourself with high expectations, which can be both encouraging and draining. Just remember, you don’t have to go through things on your own—there are people who care about you, and support is always there when you need it.
@ASilentObserver I feel like anxiety is something which we process that thing i mean if we have empty mind then anxiety forms and all tha things and processes becomes anxiety.
