Controlling

@turkeybby

yeah could be possible that anxiety affects your need to be in control and have a clear plan of things or be aware of what's going or happening so there's no "shocks" that shoot up your anxiety?

do you think reminding yourself to stay present in the moment and not fuss about what will happen or should happen can help? Maybe you try positive affirmations also? 💕

I’ve been there. I often thought of it as me trying to protect myself from feeling anxiety. If I could control things to be how I wanted, then my anxiety wouldn’t be as bad. I didn’t want to be controlling, it’s not healthy, but I didn’t want to suffer more than I already was. Everyone would say I was a perfectionist, as if this was a compliment, when in reality my perfectionism was a direct result of the anxiety I was feeling. It only stressed me out more, as people came to expect perfection and I was completely overwhelmed at the thought of ever making a mistake. Thankfully after speaking to my doctor and getting help, I’m doing better. It’s not easy to hear these things about yourself, especially if you’re not in a great place and they come from people who don’t understand anxiety. I get it & hope you are ok!

@turkeybby Im so sorry to hear that if i can help somehow feel free to msg me whenever you wish 💕

It's a positive step that you're reflecting on feedback from those around you, @turkeybby. Sometimes, controlling behaviors can indeed stem from anxiety or a desire to manage uncertainties. Reflect on specific situations where you may have exhibited controlling tendencies, and consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. They can provide insights tailored to your experiences and help develop healthier coping mechanisms for anxiety. Open communication with those in your life can also foster understanding and support! 💛