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bestPenguin946
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Almost made a huge mistake
Relationship Stress / by bestPenguin946
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October 26th, 2022
...See more Almost made a huge mistake. On a night out with some friends, a few too many drinks later, there was conversation about some very obvious sexual tension between myself and an acquaintance that we’ve felt for a while. We are both in relationships, we don’t know each other that well, and nothing has ever happened or been directly spoken about until that point. Sober, I would never have even brought it up. We’ve been around each other plenty of times without drinking and while the awkward tension was there, it was simply that. There was never any attempt to get to know each other better, because neither of us are single. I can’t speak for him, but I would go on my way and think nothing more of it, until the next time we were around each other. It was never more than that. I’m genuinely not that girl. However, drinking (a lot), and hearing him admit that it was mutual, it sparked something. I do not want to be with him, it’s not that deep, it was just an attraction that I never intended to act on. Honestly if it wasn’t for him being a decent person, I could have ruined my entire relationship. Nothing happened, thanks to him being a good person, but it was very difficult to walk away. I don’t understand what is wrong with me. I love my partner and this has never happened before in the 10+ years that we’ve been together. I feel so guilty, as I should. Nothing happened other than a conversation but the fact that I even did that, I know is wrong. I have thought about telling him what happened, because I believe in honesty, but it’s only going to hurt him? I’ll likely never see this person again, due to the fact that he is moving away, and maybe that played a part in the situation, last chance to say what has previously been unsaid. I don’t know. Knowing I’ll never see him again is fine, it doesn’t bring up any sad feelings, which is why the whole situation is so confusing to me. I can’t stress enough that it wasn’t deep at all. I don’t know what exactly I am looking for by posting this, I know that it was wrong, but I also know that it was only skin deep, and that I’m with the person I want to be with. Can it be put down to a bump in the road?
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