Anxiety

Hi, sorry to hear that you're having a hard time. Having faced it myself I know how tough it must be for you.

Senfing hugs if ok❤️

Closure and self - reflection :

First step in moving on from any relationship should be to find closure and do self - reflection. It doesn't have to be from another person. This may involve conversations with yourself and someone else so that you can see the past relationship from a third person's point of view to have a clarity about why you need to move on.

So, we need to find the *whys* so that our mind isn't constantly revolving around what it could be and how it could have ended up. Let the past be in the past.

Engage in activities that you used to find peaceful before getting into a relationship :

You can engage in activities that bring you some peace. They may not instantly make you feel good but you need to be consistent. Sit with yourself for a few minutes everyday.

Set boundaries and seek support from the right people :

Set boundaries for yourself. It's totally okay to take your time and not instantly connect with other people. You might be feeling vulnerable at this moment and may need yourself the most. If you want to connect, then it would be better to connect with people who are as close to you as family, so that they understand your emotions and not use them. You're totally allowed to put your guards up for some time.

Focus on personal growth :

You have an individual identity outside of other people and now when you have moved out of a relationship, the focus should be on you. For that, you need to process your thoughts and look what you need to change.

Lastly, give yourself time to heal. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. It's totally alright if you fail sometimes. We all do. That doesn't make us less human. Small steps everyday. 🐾🤍🌸

Hope this helps a bit! We're all here for you.

If you still find it difficult, you can talk to a listener here or consider taking professional help.🌻

@softandtender

Healing past wounds take time. First thing you need to do is reach out and you did it. I hope you'll find your path and be able to heal yourself completely. If you want someone to hear you out feel free to leave me a message or browse listeners as opening up makes one feel lighter. 

Hi! I am also struggling a lot with relationship anxiety and I'm not sure what to do :( My boyfriend's friend who used to have an crush on him started texting me and saying stuff that made me paranoid like "DW I won't steal him from you" and "keep him close there's a lot of other girls who want him". I feel like I put in more energy since I call way more often and he barely does even when we're away I usually have to initiate the facetimes or else we go days without ever facetiming. I just feel anxious and my mood just changes when he doesn't call or text :(