How to relax my desperation which causes me so much anxiety?
Hi all, so hear me out cause this might be pretty weird but I guess I am not the only one feeling it. So, I have an issue which I get too attached to girls, pretty quickly. Like, not the stalker kind not that, but in my mind, if I see a pretty girl I get so anxious and I cook so many stories, I am almost lost in it. I get too attach to girl, even she is stand 10 meters from me doesn't matter, if I like her, I am thinking about her. Now this might sound silly or not a major issue, but its getting out of hand.
Today, I was out for some work, and there was this girl in line ahead, pretty yes, but I am now in my head thinking how my life will look with her together, until she left and suddenly I am left with a void. I felt hurt, I told myself, she didn't matter anyway, but I felt I just get too lost and anxiety takes me over, then I couldn't hold it any more I cried.
This desperation has led me to go into porn addiction and some activities I should have avoided in life. This is older than porn addiction too, and because of this unrequired attachment I feel fear talking to girls, especially now, because I standing there thinking how do I flirt or propose, instead trying to understand this person. I am really figuring out myself right now, its weird but I think it can be solved, any advise, help would be welcomed!
I totally get where you're coming from, and I really appreciate you being so open about your struggles with attachment and anxiety when it comes to girls. It takes guts to face those feelings head-on, and admitting them is the first step to figuring things out. Just know that you're not alone in dealing with this stuff.
@Jem7Cups Thanks, I know my therapist did suggest some methods, but she also said, its easier said than done! It tough in a way, I feel a nervousness among girls and more so to talk to them directly, I feel i am being judged, or they'll react in a way I'll feel terrible. My mind is excellent at cooking stories for no reason.
I feel I have to practise and spend some me time and relax, but again in practicality its all difficult
