relapsed after 8 months of sobriety, I need support please
after managing to stay absent for 8 months, and working on myself so hard, trying to be better, applying for jobs, I've been rejected so many times, I asked God for help, I feel like he hates me. I eventually relapsed ! I feel like the lowest thing on earth right now.
any words of support ?
thank you all.
8 months??? You're amazing. Really
Look how much you've achieved!! It's amazing are you kidding me?
Always be kind even at your lowest. You are the best supporter of yourself, you must be.
It's no point holding into these thoughts. Let them go. Look at how good you've done and hope for me. There's more. Nothing ended. You can do it again.
@diplomaticBeach8952 8 months is a huge accomplishment! Whether its been one day, week, month, whatever, dont beat yourself up, this time you can start again with 8 months of lessons behind you.
Ive learned that we may need to start again many times and thats okay. Be kind to yourself and focus on the times you didnt give in. Dont let one slip send you back to the bottom, let yourself be mad/disappointed/sad/whatever you are feeling for a moment and then focus back on why you started 8 months ago.
@Tinyredlight
Amazing !! I didn't realize there were so many kind people on 7 cups !! I have no idea how to thank you !!
Thank you !! THank you !! I wish I could keep saying this forever !
I need to look ahead, not look back, yes, I had a slip, its not the end of the world, I got this, I can do it again.
@diplomaticBeach8952 Last year when I was at my worst and struggling to go moment by moment, a friend of mine told me during a slip up You wouldnt throw away the whole carton of eggs if you broke one and Ive kept that little quote close by for the times I do slip up.
Ive started and stopped many times in one day, its extremely hard even with support and knowing you arent alone in the struggle.
Anytime you need some support feel free to reply to my post!
Someone once told me: it doesn't matter what you have achieved or were in the past, it matters who you are now...so you are just an addict again...you either do it or you don't...I can stay sober for months thinking I will do it again at some time...face it, it is a losing battle and noone has found an efficient deffinite cure. As all my therapists told me in the end "it is up to you!". So if it is up to me I go on with it...life is confusing and we don't really get the help we need.
I was offered oppiate medicine to get rid of my alcohol addiction and I refused disgusted. Drugs never had an effect on me, smoked some weed in college and did not feel any difference. Local anesthetics never worked on me.
Our body chemistry is strange as is life...I am adicted to tobacco and alcohol but anything else my body rejects or ignores...
Find the ambition inside you to just quit for real or like me learn to find a symbiosis with your addiction, a ballance.
There is no real help for us out there...Detox just puts you on your feet for a new binge...Therapists are no good...meds ditto...
So yes, have a good talk with your inner self: do you want to quit or not? I have lost immensely for just drowning in my bottle...find out what made you drink in the first place and address that...the addiction is an effect not a cause...find out the cause...
After all talk, we are just helpless, really...so relapse, it doesn't matter...it was expected...sorry for you...
@bubblyPineapple5283
Oops, made a complete fool of myself, did not read it was about sex addiction😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂what a joke😂😂😂such is life, a good jpker😂😂😂sorry folks, I leave you to your sex addiction...
@bubblyPineapple5283
Girl, or boy, it doesn't matter.
I am a good addict, I can support a sex addict or a tobacco addict. We are all the same. We are all one.
Don't forget this. No matter the substancez the root cause is the same. We are masking emotions.
@bubblyPineapple5283 I too didnt realize at first the addiction referenced in the tab and on my fist comment I wasnt even sure what addiction @diplomaticBeach8952 was struggling with but like @Popitzik said addiction all has a root cause, and no matter what the addiction is, we all struggle and need support. My addiction may be to alcohol but I understand the struggle of wanting something, needing something and trying to not give in.
I have friends who support me through my struggles who cant even relate to having an addiction but it helps when I talk to people who understand the struggle of addiction, no matter what their addiction is.
@Tinyredlight
I agree. an addiction is an addiction, I know many people through SAA who are also attending AA. I personally sturggle with sex addiction, porn mainly. For me , going back to porn is like the end of the world. But somehow this morning, I reminded myself that I did good, and that I actually came along way.