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@pluckyBranch4306 While this isn't my particular addiction, I did want to say how proud I am that you've reached out. It takes a lot of strength and courage to acknowledge an addiction of any kind and I did want to aknoclwedge that.

One thing that is helpful for all addictions is finding someone with the same or a similar addiction to reach out to when having a difficult time. There are usually online support groups if you aren't comfortable looking for a group in your area.

I also came accross an app on Android (I'm not sure if it's available on iPhone, though it may be) called Fortify specifically for Porn addiction. You can find it by searching Fortify Recovery on the Play Store. The reviews that I read are wonderful. It has daily tracking to help (which also helps with seeing patterns in triggers), a support team, and daily activities. That's one of, what I'm sure are, many apps that are available to offer support and tracking.

It's simple to say to avoid your addiction, though more difficult to execute. Please don't hesitate to reach out to a listener or another form of support if you're having a particularly difficult time. You're more than welcome to PM me and I'll reply as soon as I'm able to.

You have nothing to be ashamed of. You're struggling with a very real addiction and deserve just as much support as anyone else. Please be gentle with yourself.

You are very brave to confront this addiction. One day at a time seems simple but it is effective. I have read that porn addiction is worse than heroin, something about it being visual and you can't unsee things. Good luck, let me know if i cam help in some way

Thanks. It will definitely be difficult since access is pretty much at my fingertips whenever I want. I just have to change the behaviors that trigger it. I'll look into an app. That appeals to how I tend to do things. I never would have realized that I had a problem if she hadn't found those videos on my phone. I never would have thought that I had the capacity for addiction. I have never struggled with quitting anything else that I've tried. This will be a challenge.

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You are 100% right and it is very common. I have the same challenges it stops me from being the person i want to be. I consoled myself with "at least not acting out on it with someone" - well to my wife online was the same as unfaithfullness. I had to stop for myself and our future. I can see why from her point of view. Also so many men and friends joke about as if light hearted - it is not. It becomes a problem for more than just ourselves it affects everyone as our mind or feelings or emotions are not where there are supposed ot be. Stress was my trigger and the fact i have a job i dislike a lot but locked into it.

I have beaten it in the past and stayed away- you know what worked? Telling my wife about it- sit down be open and honest about it. Leave your electroinic devices open for her to examine every day. Also if you do feel aroused by anything tell her and what happened, we all have moments just do not think of using porn or adult material. I thought i could not ever share what i thought about - turns out we mainly have the same desires and triggers just act the right way.

Your wife is your best confidant - you have conquer this together and move on together stronger. The key is one day at a time i heard the bigger barriers are at Day 1 (admitting it) Day 3 (no idea why hormones?) One week .... then every day until 3 months and then beaten it move on and help others. Do not give yourself a single day off or mini celebration if you do tell your wife and start again. Also distance yourself from friends or people who think it is ok, whether friends or not it is not healthy way to life and tell them.

I wish you best of luck and i wish it was not so freely available as society will change for kids in the future

It's been over 90 days and I haven't watched any at all. I had a few times where I considered it, but the thought repulsed me. Thanks for reading.

You can renounce what you looked at,name the sex act,ask for forgiveness and it can be blot out. God can do what others can't. It takes time to get well and try not to be discouraged if you fall but with Gods help get back up. There is a thought that is driving this ....what is it ....Im lonely, I'm sad, I want love? Its a lie and no substitute for real love in many forms. If you are in a lonely condition get outta there, go hug somebody, pray with them, journal, talk to God, go for walk, get away from your bed. Don't give up you need to train your brain to not use porn and masturbation and it takes practise and time.

I would like to apologize to the thread as I believe I caused the veer into the religious discussion. I do like the discussion just think there is likely a better place for it to occur. I also agree that the large font seems like shouting and weakens one's position. Civil conversation is an art, let's please try to do better. Thank you. Have a great day.

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This might sound weird but, i think joining gym might help you, i used to help newbies at gym, and most of them used to have porn addiction, they told that gym has helped them a lot in driving away from it.

Admitting you have a problem is never easy! Good on you for that.

Also just a heads up, I deleted a religious argument. Let's refrain from arguments regarding that.

Thanks for all the kind words.I am not now nor will I ever be a religious person, so that has never been an option. Joiing a gym does actually sound like a good idea. Shift the focus. Give me a new goals. Release some endorphins.