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7 Cups Member Roles Masterlist

by Heather225

7 hours ago

...See more I have compiled this post to bring visibility to leadership opportunities our members can get involved in. Peer Appreciation ☆General Information [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/AppreciationProgram_2310/InvitingTeamMembersforPeerAppreciationProgram_262624/] ☆Peer Appreciation Program Thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/AppreciationProgram_2310/PeerAppreciationProgram_262230/] ☆Application form [https://tinyurl.com/SmileSpreaderRole] Forum Supporter A forum supporter is a leader who focuses on 1-3 subcommunities and maintains engagement in the forums by posting and replying to threads with compassion and support. Info [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/LeadershipResourcesWhomToContact_2404/UpdatedSubcommunityTrackLeadershipRolesMasterpost2022_289838/] | Application [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform?usp=send_form] Community Mentor If you’re passionate about growing and developing a certain community, then this is your opportunity. You’ll be responsible for overseeing the activity and safety in your chosen area and you’ll work closely with the Community Mentor Leader, Forum Supporters, and Project Agents to bring supportive posts and events daily. Info [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/LeadershipResourcesWhomToContact_2404/UpdatedSubcommunityTrackLeadershipRolesMasterpost2022_289838/]| Application [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] Room Supporter This role focuses on providing quality listening and support to community members in the group chat rooms. Room Supporters foster healthy and supportive conversations in the chat rooms to ensure everyone entering the room feels welcomed, empathized, validated, comfortable, and included in the group. Info [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/ApplicationStation_2148/RoomSupporterUpdatedRequirementsandApplication_247786/] | Application [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform] Sharing Circle Host Sharing Circles (part of Group Support) are unique support sessions in which members join a queue run by the discussion leader and share whatever is on their mind. We intend for these activities to be easily run by anyone within the community. The requirements are simple and very achievable to become a host and join the Sharing Circle Team. Info [https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/10oh0pBR1rt9C6tMAhRvjF1TfgAEHbyDQyimizN4hdfU/edit#slide=id.g20f989cfec2_3_25] | Application [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfPe2N1QUjB_KEFF_EhAtZymtydkkIFlruU7u0lC35q4eTztA/viewform] Mega Member Members who are regularly taking growth path steps, talking to listeners as members, participating in the group support chat rooms or forums and also contributing to the community in their own special ways to support and improve the community. Mega Member would be equivalent to the Mentor role of the Listener side. Info [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/ApplicationStation_2417/ReintroducingMegaMembersALeadershipOpportunityForMembers_257155/] | Application [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScH8PYRsdN49fix8FVUiZ1A3vIz8WpQtdPP_YhIGytJRTGbnQ/viewform] If in doubt, consult with the project lead on whether or not the role is member-inclusive! If I have missed anything here, please let me know.

Introducing the "Transformation Wheel" & Invitation to Join!

by Heather225

20 hours ago

...See more (If this post is not displaying, click this document to view it.) [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1smAFuO0okUAW7sV04Phk8Hq0sPYfE85rmn4uMkp28o0/edit?tab=t.0] - Three years ago I had a falling out with someone. Unfortunately, people come and go, and not always peacefully, but this was abnormally messy. They made my life miserable online. They spread rumors, and lies, and harassed me. Even long after we stopped communicating, they would continue to try to find ways to get to me. It was obsessive and it made me paranoid about every step I took in our circles. It caused me to leave some circles and avoid others simply because I didn’t want to risk “flaring them up.” There was no resolution to this other than to keep my distance and hope they forget about me. But that is no way to live. Why do they get to determine where I spend my time and what I do and why should I have to walk on eggshells? And I’d only get more and more frustrated because there’s nothing I can do to stop them; I can only control myself and how I cope and move forward. The “attacks” have decreased over the last year, but that was a long time to sit with this unresolved turmoil, and even as I type, recalling all this, I start getting those anxiety flutters. If you were to rate the impact this has had on me on a 1-10 (1 = good, 10 = bad!!!) scale, I’d be an 8 out of 10 and that’s only after 3 years of long-term struggle. There’s so much toxicity built up in me and I’ve not figured out how to release it in a healthy way. I’ve tried many different interventions but they only ease the distress in the moment. In rolls the Transformation Wheel. It’s designed to address personal issues, challenges and/or obstacles in your life by listing a single issue and then breaking it down into smaller parts to better understand the causes of the issue. The goal is to tackle each over a period of four weeks. Imagine the main issue is the wheel and the categories are the spokes. TLDR - this helped me A LOT! You’ll see in the images below - my distress dropped from an 8 in severity to a 2. I felt free for the first time in a long time. This is how it works: What’s an issue you’re having right now? It could be something causing you great distress or a problem you’re wanting to solve. It doesn’t have to be complex. Write this in the middle of the wheel in the center circle. Once you have it, rate how you’re feeling about it on a scale of 1-10. 10 = severe distress/anxiety/big problem and 1 = reduced pain/the issue being more manageable/feeling better. Write this number in the center circle. Next, fill out the categories (I feel, I believe etc.) around the main issue to detail the related problems and feelings. You only need 1 point for each, but can add as many points as you like. Every week, do interventions to address the main issue or the related points and then rate it again in the center of the wheel and rate all the related points in the smaller circles on the wheel perimeter. Not that there are 4 circles at the end of each category. Rate week 1 in the first circle, week 2 in the second circle etc. You will likely notice that the severity score goes down at the end of each week. Why a wheel? Sometimes when we are working on an issue, we can feel like it is resolved, only to find that it has slid over into a new area. Sometimes this can feel like the game whac-a-mole [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whac-A-Mole] where you think you solved the problem only to find it surfacing in a new part of your life. You might find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts and behaviors, replaying the same struggles over and over. The wheel acts as a container so that the problem, and all the different ways it impacts you, can be captured in one place. This makes the problem easier to track. The wheel is a sort of “problem catcher.” So, I gave this a go! Here’s an example of how mine looked: Issue: Overcoming cyberbullying I Feel paranoid frustrated and vulnerable I Believe there’s things I cannot defend against because I can't control them People Impacted Are Me and mutual friends This Results In Having to be careful about what I share in public spaces I Behave By following their activity and making my paranoia worse Memories: I’ve had to defend myself several times against false accusations. Related Issues: Obsessing over things not in my control stopping me from letting go Then, of course, I had to address them. I did this using different kinds of interventions. Some things I did: talked with a listener, journaled (lots of journaling), shared with my partner, and I even did some chatting with Noni in the first stages. I also took this opportunity to get more serious about exercising (became a good distraction when I was getting too caught up in emotions). In combination, these things helped me reflect and work through my feelings. Every week after doing a bunch of interventions I’d rate each problem of where I was at with them. Some numbers dropped, others didn’t move right away, but 4 weeks saw big drops across the board, most notably in how I felt. I felt more in control. The more control I took over myself, the less impact these problems had on me. “Doing the wheel” became a much easier way to do self-care than other exercises I’ve tried in the past. I logged my progress and was quite pleased with the outcomes. Notice below the changes over the 4 weeks. You can also see this in my wheel above (the main issue in the center drops from 8 to 6 to 4 to w) and in the 4 circles or each category that also go down. 4 weeks ago I was 8/10, and overall I’m now floating around a 2, which is a huge improvement. All in all, I feel much more hopeful about my situation and the weight is significantly lighter. I have been working with Glen who’s excited about this being a simple but powerful tool with a ton of potential. Like most new things, to truly test its effectiveness, we need as many people to try it out as possible. I am inviting everyone to take part and will happily work 1:1 with you to get the most out of it, brainstorm ideas, choose interventions, etc.! For everyone who does take part, and gives me your input, I will reward cheers and there will be special badges for being a pioneer in helping me develop this tool! Please let me know in the comments below: * What are your reactions to this idea? * Do you have any questions? * Are you going to try it? 💪 When you’re ready, click on this slidedeck for extensive instructions and the wheel template! [https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/10ZNwCgmwk3Gpn0N7W715avZE2HxSyywn1hBvMuTaelA/edit#slide=id.g31c733bb7ac_1_15] You can also download the blank template directly to start working on it HERE. [https://i.ibb.co/QmX3L59/new-wheel.png]

Cupsmas Community Team Event: Reflect with Us!

by Heather225

1 day ago

Taking Care of Each Other - Preventing Burnout at 7 Cups

by Hope

2 days ago

What have you done to prevent burnout today? Preventing Burnout at 7 Cups

by Hope

2 days ago

Testers Needed: Try the Transformation Wheel (and earn a badge)!

by Heather225

2 days ago

Members - Welcome to 7 Cups! Introduce yourself Here!

by Hope

3 days ago

3 Key Things!

by GlenM

Friday

Listeners - Welcome to 7 Cups! Introduce yourself Here!

by Hope

Wednesday

Review the 7 Cups App and Earn a Badge!

by Heather

Monday

Distortion 10. Mental Filtering

by Hope

December 14th

...See more Hi everyone! How's everyone feeling this week? Thank you for following our cognitive distortion series. It is time to cover the final cognitive distortion of this series called ‘Mental Filtering’. Think of it as a spotlight, but one that illuminates only the negative aspects of your experiences, leaving the positives shrouded in darkness. As with many distortions, you may find it overlapping it with covered distortions but also have a unique element of its own which is why it is covered in a separate post. The difference between mental filter and catastrophizing is, the mental filter is like wearing clouded glasses that don’t allow you to see bright colors, meanwhile catastrophizing is like hearing a fire alarm go off every time you see a candle flicker or a pan show a hint of smoke. Catastrophizing is a lot more intense and negative, meanwhile, mental filters can be harder to spot because they feel more real and are less subtle. Instead of blowing things out of proportion, you are just choosing to look at all the negatives and discount the negatives. Catastrophizing can feel like ‘I can see one cloud, it will rain and my outdoor picnic is canceled’. While mental filter can be ‘It has rained 3 times this month when I had outdoor plans, the weather is always bad’’ while discounting the fact that you were able to do 4 outdoor activities during the same month because it did not rain on those days. So, what's the deal with this filter? Essentially, it works like this: * Magnifying flaws: Remember that presentation where you stumbled over a point? Mental filtering blows it up into a neon sign announcing "Public Humiliation!". Meanwhile, those insightful remarks and audience engagement? Meh, barely a flicker on the radar. * Discounting positives: Received a compliment on your writing? Mental filtering whispers, "Just being nice." Did you fail that exam? "Must have been an easy one." Any positive feedback gets dismissed as irrelevant or accidental. * Selective memory: Think about it – every awkward moment, every rejection, every critical comment replaying on repeat in your mind? Yeah, that's mental filtering There are many ways to break free but we will focus on the high-impact ones. * Reflect on the positives, and try to note down all the opposing (positive evidence) to the situation you are applying the mental filter to. * Gratitude journal: Every day, jot down three things you're grateful for – a funny incident, a kind gesture, a personal triumph. It trains your brain to actively seek out the good stuff, like a positivity magnet. This is an important way to long term reframe this distortion and avoid many similar ones. Think of a time you looked at a situation with the mental filter glasses on and how did that work out? What would you do differently today? What we want to do through reflecting on these distortions is to make life easier for us. Life is hard, I don’t need to tell you that, you already know it. But does it make sense to worsen our situation by indulging in negative thoughts? So let's reflect on all these distortions and save ourselves from additional misery. We have a lot more control over the quality of our thoughts than we give ourselves credit for. This is a wrap on the cognitive distortion series. Thank you to everyone who participated, I am very proud of all of you who challenged your negative thoughts, its really hard to reason with our brains and I see the effort you have put in. Remember to submit the series eval form [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdZ-Svf0igRTYst5y-r8m21scUltfV5-cfWxLyzM-tPwvLTVw/viewform]

Distortion No 9. Should statements

by Hope

December 14th

...See more Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well. Today we will be talking about ‘Should’ statements in our cognitive distortions series. As the name suggests, it revolves around ‘should’ beliefs, its imposing rigid/fixed rules on self, others, the world. The world should be this way, I should be this, others should be X etc. You can usually identify these thoughts as they often carry the words ‘should, ought to and must’ The 4 types of should statements as mentioned here. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfChtZ6VwA_T5ug1RQT4T7RzPdBCxgMpV4cQWhPkYLgN33T-Q/viewform] * Self-directed ‘shoulds’: self-imposed standards that, lead to anxiety, guilt, and shame. * Other-directed ‘shoulds’: expectations of others which, lead to anger and conflict. * World-directed ‘shoulds’: expectations around how the world should work, which can lead to frustration and entitlement. * Hidden ‘shoulds’: implicit standards revealed in our reactions (e.g., getting frustrated with oneself after making a mistake). Let's look at what this can look like for a person: * I must change my appearance to look good (This can include losing/gaining weight or getting cosmetic procedures done) * He should have spent more time with me. (Often we think of these shoulds after a relationship falls through) * I should be happier in life * This lecture should be more research-based As always, it's only an issue if it's starting to impact the quality of your life. Sometimes we have to think hard even to notice that it is. In moderation, should statements are not always bad, It is good to think about how we can improve but it becomes an issue when we use these shoulds as a way to avoid responsibility, you say you failed a class because the class should have been easier but does that change your grade? Or you may be waiting to achieve a very unique physique and discounting all that you currently are. For this distortion, we will be doing the following! Notice when a should statement pops up, likely, reading this post has already brought to your attention your more prominent should thoughts. Ask yourself the following questions: * If you took out the ‘should/must/ought to’ how will you see this situation? * Where did this should statement start? (Where did this belief originate, this helps us figure out if these are even our own) Once you have explored the statement and have a better understanding of it. The second step is to soften the words a bit. You can want things without imposing such fixed/rigid beliefs. Lastly, it helps to reflect on this from a more compassionate outsider perspective by assuming this is your friend who is dealing with this. * Change the terms of should/must/ to lighter terms like ‘prefer/wish’ * What would you say to a friend who is imposing such fixed/rigid rules/behaviors on themself? Let's see what it can look like when you do this exercise: Please take a moment to complete the exercise and share your thoughts with us! ------------------------- View the full list of distortions covered here! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/HopesCorner_2162/Learningaboutcognitivedistortions_313974/] Join the tag list to be tagged on these posts here! [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfChtZ6VwA_T5ug1RQT4T7RzPdBCxgMpV4cQWhPkYLgN33T-Q/viewform]

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