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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Nov 4 - 10)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! It’s our first official week in November. :)  To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * This or that! Leaves picking or apple picking? * What’s one book that reminds you of fall, if you have any? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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Help needed in the Relationship Stress Community!
by KatePersephone
Last post
 24 hours ago
...See more Hi everyone! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying fall so far. I am Kate, the Community Mentor Leader of the Relationship Stress Community. The community is currently in need of Room Supporters and Forum Supporters to help out in both the chatrooms and the forums! Here you will find some brief explanations for both of these roles, alongside their requirements and their information pages. ------------------------- A room supporter helps in providing a welcoming space for members in the chatrooms, as well as quality support alongside listening. The role is available to both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Room Supporter: Listener: * No “Newbie” badge (being a listener for 4+ weeks) * Have 2+ Group Support Chats Member: * No “Newbie” badge (being a member for 4+ weeks) * Have the “Supportive Smile” badge * Complete the “Compassion Course [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbuGsqFMbaKWtCoC1WHaCJfaKfwfI8YZ62CsqTI2BzqVNwDg/viewform]” For more information and the application check here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/GroupSupport_168/ApplicationStation_2148/RoomSupporterUpdatedRequirementsandApplication_247786/]. ------------------------- A forum supporter focuses on maintaining engagement within a community through posting and responding to threads. It is also available for both members and listeners! Here are the requirements for a Forum Supporter: Listener: * Be a Verified Listener * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Listener Community Guide [https://www.7cups.com/listener-community-guide/] & Listener Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ChatResources_61/ListenerOath_117/1/] Member: * Have 50+ forum upvotes * Have 25+ forum posts * Have taken the Member Oath [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcome_27/7CupsofTeaMissionCoreValues_207/MemberOathAllEncouragedtoParticipate_7447/1/] For more information and the application click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/LeadershipResourcesWhomToContact_2404/UpdatedSubcommunityTrackLeadershipRolesMasterpost2022_289838/]. ------------------------- Any help will be highly appreciated! 
Group Support Feedback for the Relationship Stress Community ✨💓
by KatePersephone
Last post
 October 27th
...See more Hello community! This forum thread has been created for the purpose of sharing the feedback our amazing hosts have received for the discussions they have hosted!
Long story involving, wife, kids, mental health and my best friend.
by BLFennell
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more This is a very long story but I'm at a point where I need help, as it has driven me to the point of such high depression, I will try to make it short though. My wife and I have 2 children, an 8 year old diagnosed with ADHD and a 3 year old who has growing disorders (almost 4 years old but he's smaller than a 2 year old). My wife has always been a very sexual person at least until just before our second child was born. She basically turned into mommy mode and has no time or interest in me. So for about 4 years now, I've been neglected, and in those 4 years I can count how many times we've had sex on my fingers and everytime was me having to try to initiate it. I have tried discussing it with her but she seems like she has no interest in it at all. I've tried getting her to try supplements, or seeing a doctor but she just doesn't seem like it's a problem. To make matters worse my kids do not like me at all, so they purposely do things to make me mad and when I shout or try to discipline them, she turns against me. I'm constantly being blamed which has pushed me further into a depression. It extends even more with my best friend as we have a very complicated and unusual relationship, I think this may be suited for a different thread though, or perhaps a specific person for 1 on 1.
Sexual problems
by irishGirl95
Last post
 October 24th
...See more Hi guys, first time in this so I'm sorry if what I'm about to write is inappropriate for here. im 21 and with my boyfriend 2 years now. At the beginning, sex was regular and great! In the past year and particularly months, he's been suffering with premature ejaculation problems. Now they are quite bad, as in if he lasts literally 60 seconds it's almost a gift! Last night he came before he even had his boxers off. I'm not a shallow person and I reassure him all the time that I still adore him and am very attracted to him. needless to say it's having a massive effect on his self esteem, confidence, manhood and ultimately, our relationship. I know he still loves me and finds me attractive, but he has stopped initiated anyting because he's 'scared of messing up' . I've tried to make it as relaxing as I can for him, telling him not to think about it, just enjoy the moment etc. He's too embarrassed to speak to his doctor because he doesn't think people his age should have this problem. I've urged him to go and told him it's nothing to be ashamed of etc. But he's not comfortable going. I love this guy so much and I know Dec isn't everything, but it's been going on far too long and it's creating a weird boundary between us that never existed, it's kind of ruining our intimacy and relationship slowly but surely. ​ Please help if you can relate or have any advice. Thank you
Sexual exploration or something else
by Shelter48
Last post
 October 18th
...See more When I was a child I used to experiment sexually with a family friend by playing doctor. Exploring gentials. I'm male she was female. As we grew older we had that connection and we started experimenting with oral sex and griding with our bottoms down mocking sexual acts. No penetration occured but was kinda sexual in nature. I never thought of this until a decade after it passed. We were two years apart and it lasted into our early teens. We were very close. I have spoke to her about this a couple times. She insists that we were just kids being kids. Didn't know any better. No bad feelings. Sometimes she said I may have pressured her some to participate but it's no big deal. She said it was mutual. Said there was no reason to worry or anything. Somehow I feel responsible because I was older. Is this activity normal among kids.
sexually Frustrated
by communicativeTown9786
Last post
 October 9th
...See more Hi All I am a Male in my mid 30's I am not great with woman and the last girl friend I had was when I was in college back in 2009. That is also the last time I have had sex. However I have noticed myself masturbating daily multiple times a day to porn. I feel like I can not help it. I want and need sex badly I do not want to go graphic here but I can not even remember what it feels like to put my part in a woman. Lately My masturbation has become the same thing. Turn on porn do the same thing ejaculate and that is it. I am tired of the same porn. I want more but am afraid to look at more porn. What do I do where do I go? I have tried playing with my prostate but I have no idea if I am hitting it or not. I don't seem to feel any pleasure there. I wish there was some place I could go and have people physically help you with finding things like your prostate in person. Anyone else having these same type of issues.
Poor sense of sexual identity
by modestWriter18
Last post
 September 29th
...See more As a teenager I came to believe that sex made you an adult and proved you were worthy of being loved. This belief is still with me. In my 20s as a socially awkward, anxious autistic guy I learned that "creepy" was the worst thing you could possibly be. I'm 33 now. Never managed to overcome either of these things. I still feel too weird to ask women out, but now it's compounded by being too old and still a virgin and therefore not even a real man. I don't know what I have to give in a relationship but that's a moot point because I've no chance to learn. I'm terrified this makes me an incel. I don't want to be a terrible person.
Sex
by Lauren101502
Last post
 September 24th
...See more I take my birthcontrol everyday at same exact time and my bf has never finished in me before, i have cramps and im assuming its my period coming becuase I just started my sugar pill but I always freak out that im pregnent
Suffering from porn induced erectile dysfunction
by JACKSONZ
Last post
 September 12th
...See more Can anyone tell me the treatment for porn induced erectile dysfunction
Hypersexuality in Teenagers?
by onmywaytosomethingbigger
Last post
 September 1st
...See more I am 14 years old and I have been masturbating since I was 9, though I have memories going back to the ages of 5 or 6 of engaging in self pleasure though i didn't exactly recognize it then. While if it was just semi-normal masturbation i wouldn't consider this weird or anything out of the ordinary, however it's been getting consuming. When i turned 11 I started doing it without noticing, almost uncontrollably. i'd accidentally masturbate in class or in cars or in front of other people. I tried to stop myself and it worked for around a year but it was also the worst year of my life emotionally and I turned to self harm. I began using mastubation again as a self harm alternative. I realized that i always thought of self harm as more of a sexual release rather than a purely emotional release. This led me to explore kinks and masochism and start reading up on pain and blood fetishes. Recently I've been discovering a lot about my relation between pain and sexuality and there have been nights were I will cry over the fact that some of my fantasies could literally get me killed. Sometimes I will crave sexual attention so much that I will accidentally try to get my friends to give it to me. I become slightly hostile and dominant towards my friends, especially ones who I know either like me, are very sexual, or I find attractive. After I sleep or calm down or find some way to stop needed sexual attention I'll feel bad for manipulating them or hurting them and I've never physically hurt anyone but I'm terrified that I might. Does anyone have any advice on this?
Mommy issues
by Wisconsinhelp
Last post
 August 18th
...See more I always hear about daddy issues but are mommy issues real as I think that's what I'm going thru
I messed up
by Azurzan
Last post
 August 17th
...See more I'm really not sure what the appropriate topic is. But I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We met for the first time early this year. Everything was going great, intimacy was great. A few weeks ago, we were having a nsfw conversation,  just silly talk, and he asked me questions on how someone could even do something (perverted), but I think he mightve asked rhetorically,  but I answered him literally. I stupidly brought up an instance in my past where I witnessed a man do the act. This man touched me as a child, so when I brought this up, my boyfriend immediately went silent and the topic was changed. I noticed over the days he wasn't as cheery. And then a week or two ago, I managed to find out the whole time he was hurt by me. I made him feel I was comparing him to that kind of person, and that completely turned him off, he doesn't see me intimately anymore. We haven't had intimacy in a little over a month. We used to like every week. We talked about it, I did my best to express to him I did not intend for what I said to come out that way, he is not at all one of those people, but I don't know what else I can do. Intimacy helps me feels desired and wanted. He still talks to and listens to me everyday. Everything is normal except intimacy. I need help, what can I do to help him not feel this way
How do I get rid of this Fetish?
by NicoBellic
Last post
 July 22nd
...See more Hi guys I have a cuckold fetish and I hate it. Its not a normal fetish I feel horrible, misreable, inferior when I get off it. I have no idea how go get rid of it and its so strong. I don't like this fetish I am desperate for help
CUCKOLD
by funnySound
Last post
 July 22nd
...See more So i have this fetish of being a cuckold, i dont know why but i love it very much. It excit me alot. Is it normal?

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