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[Listeners] Farewell/Taking a Break/Returning Thread: Send Your Regards
by MonBon
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more This is the public support counterpart of this thread [http://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenersOnlyForums_38/ListenerSelfCare_95/FarewellTakingaBreakReturningThreadSendYourRegards_4132/1/] [L] so that listeners can let the whole community know if they are leaving or if they have come back. Below excerpt taken and modified from the original thread: Some Listeners decide, at one point or another, to take a break or in special cases to leave the site as a Listener. During their time here they may have made connections with others in the community and sometimes people aren't aware that they have left or are misinformed and thus never get the opportunity to sent their warm wishes. Thus, this thread is meant for Listeners to inform the community that they are leaving or taking a break and leave their appropriate comments for others to read. Moreover, returning Listeners can post here as well to inform the community that they are active again. Returning to 7 Cups after a break? We have a welcome Back Committee now, you can find information here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/WelcomeZone_2385/WelcomeBackCommittee_295611/] (clickable), and reach out. Your peers and mentors are here for you. <3 Lastly, others in the community can send their regards to these Listeners. [L] indicates a Listeners Only thread [Welcome back committee information added by Sunisshiningandsoareyou, 02/10/23]
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NAMI Oath
by Kate
Last post
 Friday
...See more Any new member of the NAMI Community who introduces themselves and takes the NAMI Oath will receive the NAMI Oath Badge. Please copy, paste, sign and date the following NAMI Oath within this thread: NAMI Oath I pledge a moral oath before my fellow active listeners, 7 Cups members and NAMI supporters. I pledge to help support NAMI's mission and to dedicate myself to building better lives for anyone affected by mental illness. I pledge to always try my best to be a positive influence and make a difference in the lives of others. I pledge to be #stigmafree and respectful of anyone who may be experiencing a mental health challenge. I will educate, advocate and listen to others' experiences without judgment or bias. I will encourage acceptance and understanding. When I see that someone needs more than the peer support I can provide, I will refer them to professional help and appropriate resources. I pledge to make my own self-care a priority and recognize when I need to take extra time to take care of my own mental health. I will keep these promises and I will do everything in my power to promote mental health, healing, and wellness within myself, my fellow members and my world. I believe that no one should face mental illness alone and I pledge to provide peer support to anyone who reaches out to the NAMI Community for help. Signed: Date:
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Listener Classifieds (January 2025) Members, Check Out Our Listeners Accepting New Chats!
by Heather225
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Happy New Year! This space is for Listeners currently accepting chats to introduce themselves to the member community! Members, if any listeners pique your interest, you can then check out their bios and see if they might be a good fit for you! Here are some things you can consider sharing (only share what's comfortable): Are you an adult or teen? Are you an ATL? Please post in our special ATL exclusive thread here! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/IntroducingtheAdultListenerClassifiedsATLsAcceptingNewChatsLetOurTeensKnow_343599/?post=3735952] Gender: Languages you speak: Topics you'll support: Topics you don’t support: Lived experience: Are you open to taking on members for long-term listening support? Your availability (in EST time) and day(s) if applicable:
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Click If You're Struggling With Negative Thinking
by sellistens
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 7 minutes ago
...See more     Do you want to stop negative thinking but just don't know how to? Well, your in the right place because I have some resources to show you. Keep reading this interactive page for more information!      This way of thinking can be towards situations in your life, thinking badly of yourself as a person, or anything else negative. Maybe you've heard of CBT, maybe you haven't. If you already know what CBT is then skip the next paragraph and do the interactive tools. What Is CBT? CBT stands for "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy". It is used to track your thoughts, feelings and behavior towards a situation in your life. It could be an insecurity, a bad experience, etc. Then, once you are aware of what the situation is and how you respond to it, the only way to break the cycle of negativity is to change your thought process by reframing your thoughts. Now, this is a complicated thing to do, but if you practice, you will learn skill and on the way, your mental health improve as well. Interactive Steps Towards Completing CBT 💎STEP 1: Find a free worksheet online (Google Images as good ones). It must have a section that says "Thoughts, Feelings, (Body Sensations/optional), and Behavior" categories.  If you don't have a printer, copy the worksheet down on a piece of paper. Then, write down your situation or insecurity, your thoughts regarding that, how it made you feel, and how you acted after those thoughts and feelings. Examples:  Website: CB: Example and Practice Sheet.  TherapistAid.com   https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/cognitive-model-example-practice and https://www.therapistaid.com/images/content/worksheet/cognitive-model-example-practice/previews/standard-english-page-2.webp .  (you can find more on google images) ❗ NOTICE: Did you notice the right side of the table on the worksheet has a part where it says "Alternative Thought"? This is the next step. 💎 STEP 2: Reframe the thought.  This is a difficult one. People think that it has to be extremely positive. I'll tell you why that doesn't work. You simply won't believe what your writing down! It has to be REALISTIC and BELIEVEABLE to you.  Examples:  Original Thought: "I'm really bad at cooking" Reframed Thought: "I am working on being better at cooking because I am practicing. Every step counts!" 💎 STEP 3: Write how the reframed thought makes you feel and imagine how you may act if you changed the thought permanently.  Keep in mind: Your brain CAN change! Your brain makes connections inside itself through nerve cells called neurons. If you train your brain to think this way, the neurons will make connections and make it a habit to reframe the negative thinking.  I wrote this not only for myself, but also for you all on 7 Cups. I believe it would be helpful to me so I thought I would share my research/knowledge. Thank you and I hope that helps! I would LOVE to hear feedback and comments on this post! Also feel free to reach out to me if you need help - SelListens 
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Sad, tired, alone
by livbinny
Last post
 38 minutes ago
...See more Mostly from my family my eating struggles and fact that no one cares since I don’t have friends n those ppl :( now go like this every day no fun :( its drain !
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Letters to people
by Keith22534
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more I have been feeling lonely these days...I have decided to write letters to people in my life. Just expressing those bottled-up feelings and emotions I have about them. I'll be posting the letters here. Feel free to comment...Thank you.
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I need to talk to someone...
by Melololo
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more Hi, I’m going through a difficult time. There’s something on my mind that I can’t shake, and it’s really hard for me to share because I feel embarrassed. I’m also dealing with depression, which makes it even harder to handle. If someone has the patience and is willing to listen without judgment, it would be a great relief to have someone I can open up to. Thank you for reading this and for being there, even with just words of support. ❤️ ____________________________________________________________________________ En español: Necesito hablar con alguien... Hola, estoy pasando por un momento complicado. Hay algo en mi mente que no me deja en paz y que me cuesta muchísimo compartir porque me da vergüenza. También estoy lidiando con la depresión, lo que hace que sea aún más difícil manejarlo. Si alguien tiene la paciencia y está dispuesto a escuchar sin juzgar, sería un gran alivio poder desahogarme con alguien. Gracias por leer esto y por estar ahí, incluso con palabras de apoyo. ❤️
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Wow! Let's Know What Does This Mean To Us?
by resilience2025
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Heyaaa You Hopeful People ❤️ I hope you all are doing well! Empathy is the most beautiful emotion we as humans can appreciate in our lives. Empathy is different from sympathy. While the former is about feeling the other end by imagining ourselves to be in their place, being a strong internal emotion. The latter is much about pity and external care. While being empathetic is an important responsibility of the humanity. Knowing the difference between being empathetic and people pleasing is also equally important. There are times in life where we turn our kindness and empathy into a source of unwanted stress and exhaustion. For example, 1. Holding yourself responsible for others "not feeling good" 2. Thinking that "you are the only one" to cure anybody's problems 3. Not appreciating the happiness in your life when you receive them just because you feel the other associated people are facing problems in their life 4. Unable to refuse or say a No! While we all know how much distressful this scenario is! And setting up non-negotiables or strict boundaries in life is important. Yet it becomes difficult to do so when you don't know where and how to start! Here are a few questions I would really wisb to know the answers to! Q1. What does boundaries mean to you? Q2. How do you define your boundaries? Where do you start from? Q3. How do you start asserting them? (Advising a person who's a people pleaser with low self esteem and an unsupportive external environment) Looking forward to your amazing answers! 💞 Tagging a few people I really appreciate and admire here! ❤️ ☺️ Regards, Resilience
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Farewell of Sadness
by GreatestClassiest
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more I recently learned that one of the stars from 7 Cups has left this world. Every demise is painful, every demise brings regret, every demise causes grief, and every demise creates a colossal gap in our society. I hope the departed soul rests in peace. It saddens me deeply whenever I read a soul's final message. I usually avoid reading them because they grind my heart and fill my mind with pain, making me suffer and suffocate. A final message isn't just words; it is a list of wishes left incomplete, departing unfinished with the soul who crafted them. Many, like me, cannot bear the sorrow of reading a final message. I believe the pain of someone's passing is more tolerable than the weight of their final message, as it leaves a deep and lasting regret that may linger for decades. I apologize if my thoughts seem wrong or harsh, but I am sharing what I feel. When my time comes to leave this world, I hope I won't leave a final message because it would only add to the burden of those sitting near me when my soul departs.
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Signs of Burnout
by Espejo
Last post
 5 hours ago
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Sister Talk: The Weight of Silence- When We Struggle to Speak Up
by brightaday
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more Sister Talk: The Weight of Silence – When We Struggle to Speak Up Hey beautiful souls, I am here again. First off, huge apologies for being quiet for a little while, I needed a bit of a mental break. Sometimes, life just throws so much at you that you need to take a step back, recharge, and remember to take care of yourself. We’re all human, right? And sometimes, we can’t pour from an empty cup.🥹❤️ Now that I’m back, I wanted to talk about something that’s been weighing on my heart lately. The weight of silence. You know those moments when you want to speak up, share what’s on your mind, or tell someone how you really feel… but you just can’t find the words? Or maybe you’re afraid of what might happen if you do? That silence can feel so heavy. It’s like an invisible burden we carry around, and sometimes, it’s even harder than the pain we’re avoiding. I’ll be honest with you, I’ve been there. There have been so many times I’ve struggled to speak up, whether it’s about my feelings, my struggles, or simply asking for help when I needed it most. I’ve had those moments when I wanted to tell someone how much I appreciated them, or how much their words or actions hurt me, but I just… couldn’t. The fear of vulnerability, of not being understood, can be overwhelming. But here’s the thing, we are not alone in this. So many of us have experienced this silence. We keep things bottled up because we think we’ll be a burden, or maybe we’re scared of being judged. But I want to remind you, sharing our truth is powerful. It may feel scary, but opening up allows us to heal, to connect with others, and to lighten the load we’ve been carrying. And you know what? It doesn’t have to be perfect. It doesn’t have to be a big, dramatic confession. Sometimes, it’s just as simple as saying, “I’ve been struggling” or “I need a moment.” That little bit of honesty can make a huge difference, not just for you, but for the people who care about you.🫠 So, I want to ask you, have you ever experienced the weight of silence? When have you found it hardest to speak up, and what helped you finally find your voice? Let’s open up and share. I know it’s not easy, but I believe that when we support each other, when we give each other space to be vulnerable, we create something beautiful.🎉 So here’s to breaking the silence, one word at a time. It’s okay to not have it all figured out. It’s okay to take a break. And it’s okay to be real about the struggles you’re facing. Let’s talk, laugh, and heal together. ❤️
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I think it's unfair how people who hurted me happy while I'm not
by hopefulencounter
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more everyday I need to remind myself it's okay, I will heal, but then it ends up being my doubt and fear. I still can feel the trauma, and I usually avoid that feeling. iT's unfair.. I want to let go. Are letting go and avoiding the same? They kinda feel the same to me 😕🙏 I don't want to be reminded of that traumatic betrayal ..Can you guys share some tips for me to make peace with myself? thanks in advance.
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i need help regarding my bf.
by L33CHES
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more so i recently got with my bf, he's nice and all, but i felt forced to like him back and i dug myself into a deep deep hole.....every "i love you" "i miss you" that i tell to him feels so forced and un genuine, and i do recognize that i should've just let the guy know that i didn't want to date at all really. everything i talk to him about or tell him about are things i think he likes to hear and i do know its bad because im technically leading him on, i didn't have any intention to do so whatsoever. i want to end things before we get too far into our relationship, but i don't know how to do it without it resulting in him getting hurt. he's severely depressed and has told me previously that he has attempted to commit multiple times, that he's looking for a reason to live and that i'm his reason to live, i don't want to be responsible for someones death, but i also don't want to stay with him at all. he gets upset some what easily and all of my memories of us talking has always been sexual, i don't know how to put my foot down and say no, and i feel so ashamed of it.
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Having no Goal in Life anymore
by Astro09
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more So, I found my way back to this App again after having a really bad Time with my mental health, which I didn't think I could figut against alone- but yeah, I did it. So, welcome back again to my Not so daily Diary where I basically tell about my issues with (probably- I don't know 😭) the worst grammar ever as English is not my first language, lol. My Not so daily Diary also involves not looking at the reply if someone did, because I think at least I have social anxiety. My mom met someone that is now her friend with something called Social Phobia, and well.. surprisingly she has the same issues I have, so I think I have some kind of social phobia but I'm don't wanna make a diagnose or anything, I'm just scared to actually interact with people on here even though this should be a safe space help 😭 Back to the thing I wanted to talk about. How I think about my future and life. Because simply put, I can't say if I willingly want to get older than 20. I do not have aggressive suicide or any thoughts that tell me to end it right now, that's not the issue. The issue is more like- idk what to still do with my life. I have no friends, no job for the future and so on, so.. life is Basically worthless now, isn't it? Still, I wouldn't wanna throw it away. Maybe, someday something life changing will happen? I think long story short my text means I have no joy in life anymore and nothing to loose. *** yes, sign me up for the next Squid Games. (My Humour never leaves.)
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Recently I have had two listeners disappear.
by tryingtosurvive2024
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more It was kinda weird, I got to talking with these two individuals and things seemed to be going good, and all of a sudden they both disappeared.   I'm not saying who they are.  I'm just saying that I find it a little strange that it seemed to happen to two of them back to back.  When I say "disappear" I mean as far as I can tell neither one of them are users on the site anymore.  🙁

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