Expanded Forum Guidelines: 1. Offensive Content
This post is a part of our series on expanded forum guidelines to help all users better understand the purpose of each guideline and for forum moderators to understand appropriate behavior and review examples of this rule in action.
My post was edited/deleted for offensive content. What does that mean?
1. Inflammatory, racist, sexist, offensive, homophobic, transphobic, etc. posts are not allowed. Posting about the impacts of abuse, racism, sexism, etc. or seeking support on these topics is allowed.
Purpose of rule: To create a supportive and safe environment for people to seek help and by preventing judgment, and unsupportive or invalidating comments.
Examples: your gender identity is not real; your struggles aren't as bad as others; you do not deserve help because you are x
Explanation: Posts that are edited or deleted or violating this guideline generally have a judgmental or discriminatory tone. On 7 Cups we try to support everyone in a kind and nonjudgmental manner. Things like invalidating someone else's feelings or experiences based on attributes such as sex, gender, religion, race, ethnicity, sexuality, etc. fall under this guideline. If you see something like this, please flag it!
Appropriate Action: If at all possible, the forum moderator should remove the offending content while retaining the post. All edits should include the forum moderator's name and the reason for editing (e.g. offensive content). In the event that the post cannot be retained, the forum moderator will delete the whole post. If you believe a forum moderator has edited or deleted your post in error, you can email forum@7cups.com and we will investigate.
For Forum Moderators:
Grey Areas:
I believe that men and women are inherently different when it comes to this stuff and women tend to be much more emotional
While this does present an argument that could feel sexist, it is also clear that it is presented as a belief, not as a fact. To some extent the context on this and the tone will matter significantly, in most cases this is likely fine and should not be edited.
I do not understand how you can say you are a boy if you were born a girl
This is a statement that could be read as very invalidating to a person who is transgender, but could in other contexts be actually seeking to understand as opposed to trying to invalidate. Again, context matters here! When in doubt, do not edit, but as a forum moderator, you can always seek a second opinion if you are unsure!
My Aunt always says that I am a no-good mixed race so I won't go anywhere
In this case, the poster is seeking support on this subject. We should not edit anything that would prevent the poster from conveying the full context of their situation.
Do you have questions about what is or is not okay or need further clarification on examples? Post below and we will problem solve together!
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I'm pleased to see these expanded guidelines. I hope they will become widely known, even though there will be a lot for everyone to read.
Purpose of rule: I think there's a slight problem with this section, because preventing offence isn't mentioned! Judgemental, unsupportive and invalidating remarks are not quite the same as offensive remarks.
It really looks like the "Purpose of rule" section is describing a completely different rule.
It would make more sense, I think, to make the overall title here "Unsupportive Content". (I know the next one currently has that title, and I think it would make sense to change that too.) That's because a remark can be unsupportive by being invalidating (for example) without being explicitly offensive.
Another approach might be to split the rule in two: a rule for offensive content and a separate rule for unsupportive content.
I wonder if it might be sensible to include passive-aggressive content in the list, too. Maybe that's really covered by invalidating, but I'm not sure it's going to be obvious enough to everyone.
Explanation: The reference to "tone" here and later on could be a problem, I feel, because of the negativity around "tone policing" as a method of online harassment, which I feel sure we don't wish to legitimize at 7 Cups. Maybe this particular word is not needed.
Appropriate Action and Grey Areas: In these sections I wonder if it might be helpful to give some examples of valid edits, and an example of a post that would have to be deleted (explaining why).
On the subject of deleting posts, I often subscribe to a new thread, and maybe upvote it, when I don't have time to reply immediately. But sometimes when I return, the thread has been entirely deleted (except for the copy I archived). I think it would be helpful in these cases to delete the content as necessary, but to leave the thread so that anyone interested can see who deleted it and why.
And on the subject of deleting content, sometimes deleting content invalidates one or more replies, so the people who replied are left looking like they were just making stuff up. I think it would be helpful in these cases to edit the replies, too.
@RarelyCharlie
Charlie! I was hoping you would comment. We know from you and from others that at times the guidelines are murky at best and downright confusing / misleading / unevenly applied at times, so I'm really thankful to you for commenting to help us iron out all of these details (only took us 4 years to get there D:)
Re: Purpose, I will look into seeing how we can rephrase and reframe to be more clear. However, can you give an example of "passive-aggressive"? I think I know what you mean but don't want to assume when I can just ask :)
Re: Explanation, do you have a recommended substitute for tone? We definitely don't want to contribute to online harassment, but often times the particular word choices in combination do lead to an overall "tone" that leaves the post with a meaning that equates to invalidating, offensive, unsupportive, etc, that we are trying to avoid.
Re: Appropriate Action and Grey Areas, I agree! That is something we will look into adding.
Re: Deleting posts, we do try to encourage our moderators to err on the side of undercensoring rather than over (i.e. editing vs deletion), so i would also agree with this! In your ideal world, would threads not be deleted but the content emptied out instead?
When I wrote passive-aggressive I was thinking of something like this (fictitious, of course) that completely evades the issue:
Question: I've been trying mindfulness meditations for my anxiety, but most of the time they actually make me more anxious! Does anyone else find this?
Reply: I'm sorry you feel that way. There are some great meditations for anxiety here: 7cups.com/exercises/mindfulness/
(In fact I had in mind an real example I saw in our forums recently, but it would be unkind to quote it.)
I think simply invalidating is more direct. This reply does respond to the question directly, for example:
Reply: I never find that mindfulness meditations make me more anxious. That can simply never happen.
But I would not be too upset about the terminology one way or the other. There are bigger fish to fry.
Maybe this is actually the same as tone? The trouble is it easily gets too subjective.
@MonBon
@MonBon you could provide real examples linking to real commentors who have actually been harmed it would show that people actually are being hurt/offended by certain wording so people can see for themselves why its necessary and why it shouldnt be allowed
@jennysunrise8
Well I can definitely tell you that this rule has in fact been requested. Additionally, these guidelines are not new... They or some iteration of them have been in place at least as long as I have been a user of the site. In terms of real examples -- That is more difficult, since I can't think of a way to do it without singling someone out to make an example of them, which would in fact go against another guideline referencing targeting. I do see the benefit of real-life examples and will continue brainstorming how to make it more effective.
@MonBon real life examples of people being hurt by different collections of wording could be found in forums outside of 7cups to explain why that wording shouldnt be allowed . Obvious insults and attacks are self explanatory to everyone everyone knows theyre hurtful , its the wording in the grey areas
@jennysunrise8
We did take the grey areas from examples we have seen. These were examples brought to us from forum moderators who weren't sure if they should edit or not
@MonBon i just think if its not an obvious attack on someone or some group if it causes confusion about whether it should be allowed or not then it should just be allowed . something thats obvious is a commonly held belief that is known to cause harmto people if theres confusion about it then its left to an individuals assumption that it could possibly maybe cause harm not based on fact but on assumptions - unless there is evidence that it has caused harm using those words in other forums somewhere ( if so then it wouldnt be a grey area ) i guess im kind of saying lets get rid of the grey area where people struggle to decide if it should go or stay if its that hard to decide if theres something wrong with it it can only mean that there is no evidence in human society that it is harmful that they are aware of which says a lot about whether it should be accepted or rejected based on harmfulness to people . Just something to think about .
@jennysunrise8
I guess to play devil's advocate -- forum moderators ask if something should be edited or not for two reasons:
1) they find it offensive / harmful. I feel like this falls into the category of "someone feels it is harmful"
2) someone in the community has flagged it (generally not a forum moderator, but sometimes). People usually flag posts because they are worried it is harmful. I feel like this also falls into the category of "someone feels it is harmful"
Emotional / Verbal harm is inherently subjective. These guidelines are in place to create more objectivity wherever possible.
Edit: I feel the term "grey area" might be contributing the problem. We are calling them grey areas because they are examples of content that people have asked us to clarify, thus they were grey and are now not.
When I find material that triggers me I refrain from immediate action and get others opinions on the forum team. As I understand it, the forum team is not censoring for any reason other than people posting outside the guidelines. The guidelines are here to make this a safe community for all. It is not to say they are absolutely right, but they are the guidelines for 7cups so people who want this type of community that offers safety and stability can feel comfortable here.
I also agree that these guidelines or their use have been here as long as I have been at 7cups. In fact, if anything I hear that there is a greater effort to have compassion for people on the forums and the group support rooms. I know I try to see the spirit of the guidelines and not be nitpicking the letter of the guidelines.
Moderating is the most difficult task I have done in the rooms and the forums. I think it is amazing that we have millions of posts and often the outcome is beneficial to all.
@MonBon @jennysunrise8 @RarelyCharlie
@soulsings the problem with " offensive content " is that it could potentially include just about anything and everything unless its detailed exactly what it does include and does not include and is limited and very clearly defined exactly what it includes and does not include ( this is what we mean by black and white not that our thinking is black and white or that the world should be or anything else only that the category is so broad and all encompassing that unless it is explained exactly whats included and whats not included it really could include everything if left up to personal interpretation ) the word offensive includes triggering content as that is offensive and triggering content is completely subjective . what one person considers triggering another person doesnt theres no universality one person might consider a conversation about football triggering if they were on a football team in highschool and were bullied for example or really anything so where do you draw the line? You could draw the limits by clearly defining in black and white what it means and does not mean OR simplify this category to just include personal insults still possibly subjective but not nearly so all encompassing as the word "offensive" - but still with that you need to set clear limits what it means and does not mean exactly .
@jennysunrise8
I have a question for you! If you had to judge their performance, how would you say forum moderator's are currently doing with regards to moderating this type of content? This guideline has been in effect for a little over 3 months, not including its previous iteration which was less specific. I think when judging how subjective or objective the guideline is and if it needs to be changed, we need to consider how it is currently being interpreted and applied.
I guess my specific question is: Do you currently think that forum moderators are over-moderating based on what they interpret as offensive content?
@MonBon right now its still new and i dont see any excessive censorship because of it but once guidelines or laws are set its not easy to undo them and everything has a tendency to evolve to its full potential unless its contained and limited by examples or the word itself has a limited definition . the word confidentiality is very specific it includes very specific things but for example if it was instead called "discretion" instead of "confidentiality" its a much broader word that includes confidentiality but also includes other behavior its not limited ( unless you limit it with many many examples it can include a lot of things that word ) . The simplest thing to do is to just use a more specific word that is self limiting .
@jennysunrise8
I'm not sure I understand what you mean by new? We have had forum guidelines for years. Can you clarify what you mean for me?
@MonBon this particular guideline has been in effect for a little over 3 months right ?
@jennysunrise8 i just think it needs to be limited "offensive" is very broad and very subjective so many different things could be considered offensive and different people find different things offensive i hope a more specific word is used . I have a lot of respect for all the work everyone does and i think your all doing a great job as far as ive seen i just think laws/rules need to be specific and limited so they dont evolve and are not misused in the future offensive can mean a lot of different things just give it some thought everyone i think ive said everything i have to say about it i was just trying to explain the same concept in different ways i just think limited by examples or limited by a more specific word that has a limited definition offensive is everything but limited same with unsupportive .
@jennysunrise8
Sort of -- this particular phrasing is a little over 3 months old, but to my knowledge there has always been some iteration of "posts cannot be offensive."
@MonBon @jennysunrise8
When I find something offensive it is usually what appears as bullying, demeaning other people, inappropriate sex talk. If I am not sure something is offensive I get other opinions from moderators.
I may not be hearing you right, but it almost sounds like you might be suggesting not censoring means total freedom of speech. If that is so then hate speech and other types of what many people call abuse or bullying would be allowed. To me that is just not an option in a community of people that face the stigma of mental illness plus a history of abuse or bullying or lack of understanding.
I think having no monitoring is not a realistic expectation for keeping people safe. To me the problem is not censorship but people saying things they know may bother other people but they do not self edit themselves. I self edit what I write and so I do not usually get censored. If everyone would consider how their posts would affect others and self edit, then there would be moderators in the forum who would be bored from nothing to do. Right now we have the opposite problem. There are so many people who need a reply but there are only so many people looking at that. In fact supporting other people is probably the biggest part of forum moderators. That is what I feel is fulfilling. Enforcing guidelines I do just to make this site safe. Helping support people is what I am most grateful for.
@soulsings no of course i think there should be limits to what people can say noone should attack or bully anyone so much better if this category was just called " personal attacks/bullying " offensive content can be so so much more and could include personal triggers or a person who is pro life could consider discussion of abortion or issues of abortion " offensive " , discussion of homosexuality is offensive to some people and so on and so on and so on .... so its really important to limit it and detail what exactly is meant whats included or not included and not leave that vague door open for each person to define for themselves what subjectively they consider offensive