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by MistyMagic
Last post
 November 2nd
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To add yourself to this taglist, press the Reply button in this post and write the exact words “ Please add me. ” To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Reply button in this post and write the exact words, “ Please remove me. ”
Support discussions
by amiablePeace77
Last post
 August 23rd
...See more THREAD CLOSED Thanks everyone for submitting your ideas about discussion topics!  Hello everyone, we hope you’re all doing okay. 💙 Today, we would like to give you an update on discussions taking place in the 50+ and mindfulness community. At the moment we are in the process of working on discussion templates and also creating new ones for discussions in future. Soulsings [http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings], adventurousBranch3786 [http://www.7cups.com/@adventurousBranch8786]and me, amiablePeace77 [http://www.7cups.com/amiablePeace77]  want to offer you the best options possible and for this we need your help. Please submit possible discussion topics in this thread, example Dealing with feelings of loneliness. Kindly let us know as well what discussion times fit you best. Kindly also give us feedback on the how the discussions have been going and what you would like to see changed. We kindly ask you to use constructive criticism and avoid being critical and we can work on it.  We appreciate your help 🙏 www.7cups.com/@soulsings [http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings]amiablePeace77 [http://amiablepeace77]adventurousBranch3786 [http://www.7cups.com/@adventurousBranch8786]
Celebrating 5th Cupversary adventurousBranch3786
by amiablePeace77
Last post
 July 24th
...See more Hello everyone!  Please join me in celebrating 5 years of @adventurousBranch3786 wonderful presence on 7 Cups!  In the past, adventurousBranch has supported everyone in their role as room supporter with incredible kindness and professionalism.   We are grateful to have you in the community and appreciate you being a great room supporter and teammate.  Happy 5th cupversary @adventurousBranch3786.  We hope there will be many more to come! <3 Please join this celebration and share some love with branch! 
Empty nester who never flew
by SensitiveSpruce4756
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hi, this is my first post, it's 4am because I have chronic insomnia. But I'll probably be able to go back to sleep in about an hour, I usually do.  I got married because I was 32 and tired of being alone. Then I had a baby because I thought I had a partner. But he went to work and I was in the house far from my friends, taking care of the house and the child and trying not to lose my mind. I told myself that when she grew up I would have a life, get good work, that my purpose would come out like the sun shining light on the world. I never expected a traditional life to be satisfying for me, but it took up so much of my time and energy that I never developed the rest of myself. When my daughter went to college I discovered that I couldn't remember how to live. When I talked to my husband about the life I want he said "I'm not like that," so now I know for sure that I've spent half of my life with someone who isn't a partner. I have things I like to do, and I am willing to do them alone, but I'm disappointed at how everything about adulthood seems to be about being alone, just like so much of my childhood. I'm nearly 60 and have never had the connection and community and purpose that I spent my childhood dreaming of. Sometimes I connect with people but their lives are busier and more full than mine, so they don't have interest in building a life together. I've connected with some people via an online class, we are building community there, maybe that's all I will get, but I still dream of one day having people to work with and make a life with in person.  Thanks for reading if you've gotten this far. 😊 It's felt good to write this out. 
Need support/no friends
by Cheri32
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Hello all, new here.  I have many things that seem to be adding to my daily stress.  I am dealing with a better half who is an alcoholic, my Dad just this week was entered into hospice, I am a teacher (middle school math), and Me and only me takes care of all household chores etc.  I believe I need an outlet to discuss freely these things but I do not have one.  I have very few friends and do not feel close enough to them to discuss all of this.  Does anyone have any suggestions?  
50 years of age and newly estranged from my entire family
by decisiveBranch2794
Last post
 November 3rd
...See more Hi all, Recently "ran away" from my family and went no contact. Currently living at a buddhist center. Estrangement is an unexplainable experience beyond my cognition or comprehension. I just knew I needed to go, and that it was and is my responsibilty to choose looking forward instead of looking back. Me being in the 7C community is looking forward. I'm pressing reset and learning to build the foundation for the actual support I need - and want - to create all the good in my life that I've prayed for and been gifted the vision of.  Feeling quite bruised and very tender, actually feeling though. Step by step. 🌹 
Lasting Friendships
by Spearman60
Last post
 September 25th
...See more I've been on 7 Cups here for I guess maybe 2 years. I come here because I just like connection and having friends. I've come to realize that friendships just don't last very long here. People lose interest too easy. I guess it's not the same as real life face to face. I suppose it's somewhat superficial here maybe? I don't know. But you can't really get real fulfillment here like you can in real life face to face friendships. I've had a marriage that I've struggled with for many years and I came here to just to make connections with some people and to maybe feel better. I'm not sure I'm going to come here much anymore not out of self-pity but because it just doesn't seem to help a lot. I came here mostly just to unload my brain I guess. And I may still do that on occasion. Life is hard and it definitely has its challenges. World would be a much better place with close and bonding friendships. Seems many people in the world aren't as interested in that anymore.  Everyone seems to be focused only on themselves. Like someone told me one day "People aren't against you, they are just for themselves." I find that to be so true!  😊
Please Remind Me to Be Assertive!
by selfdisciplinedPenny281
Last post
 August 23rd
...See more I just got a job offer for my second job.  Yay!  I was really hoping to get $30 an hour.  I did tell them I was willing to take 25-30.  They offered me $26. Everything I've read tells me its ok to ask for more.  I'm just nervous to ask.  What approach would you take to ask for more?
Emotional Over Reaction
by littlePenguin7588
Last post
 August 1st
...See more I've been struggling with my emotions (not menapause) over being left out. A group of friends were invited on a boat and I was the only one not invited. Meanwhile, we were all hanging out and then everyone in the group left and it sent me into a tailspin and I had several bouts of crying. In fact, the rest of my day was completely ruined.
Are You Dealing With A Covert Narcissistic Passive Aggressive Wife?
by Spearman60
Last post
 July 16th
...See more I've come to realize after 40+ years of marriage, that the root of our marital issues is her covert narcissistic passive aggressive behavioral attitude.  I had always put the blame on myself a lot for some of it, and even beat myself up over it both emotionally and mentally.  It's been a long hard struggle a lot of times dealing with this in her.  After becoming more aware and educated in it recently, I really see it in her now.  She may not be a full fledged covert narcissist, but she has many of the traits for sure.  The main issues with her is she has a lot of pride, she's somewhat self righteous, self centered, has very little empathy, and she's quite passive aggressive in her attitude with me. At the beginning of our marriage and dating, I was too ignorant and stupid to realize what I was getting into.  The signs were there, but I wasn't smart enough to see it then.  Physically, I was attracted to her back then, and thought that in time, the marriage would get better and improve.  Then after two kids, things were still challenging and over the years I just stuck it out because of moral reasons.  I was always taught that divorce was not an option.  However, I considered divorce after the kids were gone.  But I didn't go through with it.  I've always been a person of commitment, so it was a hard decision.  Now it's even harder being so embedded in this so called life with her. Right now, because of her behavior, I'm miserable and deal with depression a lot.  Some of that depression has to do with being this late in life and change is hard.  Family relationships, friendships and the financial situation make it hard to consider separation, but then again, I don't want to be miserable the rest of my life.  Hope in her changing... well, there's very little hope in that.  Narcissists don't change.... so I've heard anyway. I hadn't shared anything here in a while, and thought I would come and "unload my brain" on this and maybe some could offer some helpful advice.  And maybe I could do the same in this thread.  I'm not kidding when I say I'm miserable.  Maybe you are too?  Feel free to share what you like.  Supporting one another does help... 😊
Looking for assistance to navigate life...
by GreekCatPerson
Last post
 July 4th
...See more For those who don't know me, I'm a 49 year-old man in a wheelchair with a spinal cord injury. I'm a returning citizen, and I have had a heck of a time finding a job, finding a place to live. I have certain needs, but for the most part, I am independent.  During my incarceration, I suffered a mental break down and I have been diagnosed with severe depression and generalized anxiety disorders. I have symptoms of PTSD, I get overwhelmed and get stuck in a constant flight mode.  My journey towards recovery has been extremely slow, extremely full of obstacles, and I keep making mistakes. I have no family, and no real life friends that I can lean on for assistance (emotional, physical, financial).  I am not looking for financial assistance from any one individual. I have applied to dozens of apartment complexes, I have contacted 211, findhelp.org, HUD, my state's housing development authorities, everything I can think of, but to no avail. The answers range from "we have a multi-year waiting list" to "we don't do business with felons." At this point, I am looking for ideas, for help, for something new to try that does not involve being constantly overwhelmed. I have been looking for government grants and loans to buy and retrofit a house to live somewhere quietly, and peacefully. Does anyone have any ideas? Does anyone have any pointers?
Starting Over at 52
by lightTree6221
Last post
 June 29th
...See more I turned 52 in May and a week later I was fired from my job, well my placement as an independent contractor. Not because of my age, but because of my "schedule". I was also working on my PhD for this job and had just finished all my coursework. I only have my dissertation to go. But now I don't know what to do. My health is very poor and the job I had was great because I set my own schedule, meaning that if I felt poorly I didn't have to work on that day. I am now worried about finding another job, because of the pressure it will put on me. I'm struggling to figure out what to do and feel like I have no prospects. When I was divorced at 35, at least I had my health and could work...now, I don't know what to do. I'm grieving for the loss of this job, the loss of the clients I had, and the loss of my health. Not sure which way is up anymore.
Cheri’s Connection Corner - Being Mindful of the Present Less Worry
by SunShineAlwaysGrateful
Last post
 May 29th
...See more Hello beautiful 50+ Cupsers!! 🙌🙌💕💕🙌🙌💕💕 Worrying is quite natural in life. Sometimes it can become so intense that it can cause mental exhaustion and prevent you from doing the things you need to do. It can rob you from JOY. Do you worry?  Browse and answer any question or questions you prefer.  How can worrying be seen as a misuse of present potential?  What are the potential consequences of worrying too much about the past or the future? How does focusing on the present moment help in personal growth?   What does it mean to focus mindfully on what is in front of you?  Can you provide examples of how one might apply this advice in daily life?  What mindset shifts might be necessary to embrace this perspective fully?  Is there a balance between planning for the future and being present in the moment? If so, how can that be achieved? 
Cheri’s Connection Corner - Self Care by Distancing - People & Situations 🙌🙌💯💯🙌🙌💯💯
by SunShineAlwaysGrateful
Last post
 May 28th
...See more Hello 50+ Cupsers 🙌♥️🙌♥️ Self care is often doing things to unwind such as meditation, or walks, or yoga, and soo many other things that you ACTIVELY engage in.  But did you know that self care is also simply putting distance from people or situations that cause you stress? Sometimes you still may need to keep either in your life ie family or workplace etc  however the strategy to not engage and or limit your time will easily provide the peace you seek and the peace you need in your mind space. Your boundaries need to be respected and sometimes due to a situation you develop new ones as necessary.  Answer either question(s) prefer … all responses welcomed.  How do you know you should distance yourself?  Have you had to personally distance yourself from people or situations?  What strategies did you use that worked for you? Did you develop new boundaries that serve you well?
I would like to share the challenges I face with being disabled.
by calmMango9611
Last post
 April 28th
...See more Hi Community: My name is Mango, and I am one of many community leaders, within the 50+Community here at 7cups. I would like to take this time to share my Challenges I face, everyday with my disability. For those who do not know, I have a learning disability. The challenges I face with that: I have a hard time with numbers. I can read, but I have some issues with remembering what I read, sometimes. Tests are sometimes hard for me. I sometimes do not understand, what people are saying to me. I do not drive. I am on disability retirement. I have to have help filling out the paperwork, when it is needed, to keep my benefits coming. I love to help others, but I am limited, because I do not drive, so I am grateful to 7cups, and for the internet. I have had both health challenges and mental health challenges. When I was a teen, I suffered from really bad depression, for which I got help for. I learned coping skills, and how to communicate my feelings. Now, as an adult, I try my best to help others. What I would like from this community: Empathy Respect Love Online-Hugs. Kindness Understanding So when I do not respond to your questions, right away, I am either busy or my disability is acting up, which does happen to me. I will get to them as soon as I can. So please be understanding and do not get offended, if I have to ask you to repeat something more than once, while in the chatroom. Also, please forgive my spelling mistakes, if I make them in the chatroom and in the forum, spelling can be a challenge for me. Please be mindful, that I sometimes have to leave events early. If I forget to come to an event please be understanding, that I did not do it on purpose, but it was my memory. I was born with my disability. Doctors claim, that my disability, was due to a lack of air at birth, but who really knows, the true reasons behind disabilities, and including learning disabilities. Please do use people's first language, when speaking to me. You can look up on google to find out, what people first language is all about, and what to say and not say to people who are different/disabled. You can also, look up what ways will help people with disabilities, and what ways will not. If you have any questions, please ask them below, and I will do my best to answer them. Thanks everyone for listening and taking the time to read this.

Welcome, friends, to the 50 & Over Community Online Community at 7 Cups of Tea. This is a place where anyone dealing with 50plus issues can meet with others and share ideas and community together. The name of our community is “50plus” but the community is open to all people, adults and teens (teens in forums), that are interested in discussion topics that people midway through life face and beyond.

We are here for serious and lighthearted discussion, for dealing with challenges and having fun. You are not alone; we are all here with you 💙

Main Forums: Discussions Schedule and Topics , New Member Welcome ----   Check In ----   Games, Quizzes and Fun  ----  Wellness and Health   Challenges We Face   ----  Enjoying Life Hobbies, what gives us joy, creativity, ideas, poetry, art, music  ----   Team Tools and Announcements   ----   Welcome, friends, to the 50 & Over Community Online Community at 7 Cups of Tea.

Please let us know what works for you and other ideas you have that will make 50plus a supportive place for you.

Please respect others opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. If something occurs that seems objectionable, message me and send link soulsings  

For more detailed information about how to behave in the forums and in 7 Cups in general:(these are copy and paste until the Dev Team fixes links permissions)

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Community Guidelines

Here are the guidelines for the 50plus Sub Community at 7cups to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.  Here are Community Guidelines

Fifty Plus Forum Guidelines 

https://www.7cups.com/forum/50plus/QAsDiscussionsResources_1770/50communityforumguidelines_305799/?post=3280924


50plus is a place where anyone dealing with 50plus issues at this time of life can meet with others and share ideas and community together. We are here for serious and light hearted discussion, for dealing with challenges and having fun. You are not alone, we are all here with you.

Please let us know what works for you and other ideas you have that will make 50plus a supportive place for you.

Please respect others opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. If something occurs that seems objectionable, please send a message to with a link so they can easily find the spot.   http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings

Please refrain from religious talk that is about the benefits or details of your religion. This includes talking about religious figures in your religion, the consequences of not believing in your religion, the detriment of any other religions, and any other religious talk that may state the exclusive benefits of your religion or may trigger others that have other beliefs.

For more detailed information about how to behave in the forums and in 7 Cups in general:

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