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Lacking ambition or just practical?

InquireWithin November 30th, 2020

I don't really have anywhere else to process this dilemma, which is related to approaching 50. Maybe someone has some insight or idea for how I can move forward, even if only just a step. Even a step would be good.

I've been working full-time most of my life. I've gotten into a rut--surprise surprise. It's easier to just stay in my lane while watching friends and family zoom by me, professionally or personally, even in this time of Covid. What if you just don't see the purpose of the rat race? What if you see no need to rack up more educational debt just to maybe get a degree in a field you don't really want to be in anymore, for a job that *might* materialize one day? I'm no great shakes in school, just an average student. I paid off my student loans. Why put myself back in that spot?

Then I read posts in other forums, from young people age 18 to 28 or so, who are posting worriedly about life and wondering why they haven't figured it all out by now, and I just feel bad for the world they are coming up in. At least I had options when I was their age! I've got nothing to worry about, compared to them. I'm learning that "figuring it all out" never stops... it's just the questions that change form.

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I'm only missing the cheese image, but there's plenty of that in the text above.

Does anyone have thoughts on ambition vs being practical and sensible?

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Riverswancycnus November 30th, 2020

@InquireWithin. Im not ambitious either. I do have a degree but I have no desire to rise to the heights of my field. I would rather have a balanced life. The main thing is, are you happy the way you are. If so don't worry about it. If not think about what you would rather be doing and how to get there. I agree, school is too expensive at our ages unless it's a short course or you have a burning desire for a new career.

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InquireWithin OP December 1st, 2020

@Riverswancycnus

Thank you, you nailed it on the feeling I have. I don't need or want to be tops in my field. That's just more responsibility and headaches and anxiety. Some people thrive on that but not me.

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MeaningfulSilence December 6th, 2020

@InquireWithin

Hello to you!

I think it's more important that you follow what makes you feel well and at peace with yourself, no need to compare yourself to others, we are not all the same and it's prerfectly fine yes

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thoughtfulmomma December 6th, 2020

@InquireWithin

I have goals and strive for things, but I don't know if I'd call it ambition. I don't need to rule the world and have everyone bow before me. I like me. I like being level-headed and practical and reliable. If other people want to run that rat race - good for them. But I'm not signing up. Maybe that makes me boring, and I'm okay with that. Because I know that people always come to me to look for calm in their storms.

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InquireWithin OP December 8th, 2020

@thoughtfulmomma

Thanks for your comment! I sometimes worry I am boring or maybe I have FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) that seems to be epidemic these days. :)

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