Saying hello, looking for a friend

hello and welcome forceful, we'll be glad to help you whenever you need

I have EUPD (BPD) and have no friends either.... Except my cat. How to make friends is one of the greatest mysteries of life.

And greatest challenges too 😅🙌🏻

@searchmoon

Whew the social challenge.. trying know how someone will react or whens to much that you are telling someone ✧ \ ( > o < ) ﾉ ✧

I’m not sure how to make friends to be honest. I’ve tried mom groups but my anxiety gets the best of me every single time.

@forcefulOceann You are a stronger mom, I hope your baby is getting better.

@forcefulOceann

Hi! Welcome. I'm also a mom and depressed and anxious mine is turning 19 (oh my gosh i cant believe 8 just said that!) But I've been there, by myself. I would love to get to know you and maybe we have something in common.

I feel like we have the same energy lol Idk why and I'm sorry if this is weird or something but I felt that I had to say that I think we can relate to eachother! 😆

@forcefulOceann - wow, Im so glad that your little one has recovered! Welcome home to her!

I know what it is like to have a very sick baby and struggle with your own mental health. I have been there, and walked through some dark days during that time. Please reach out to me or another listener if you'd like to chat 1-1 about what you are thinking and feeling. Take care, and rest when you can!!!

-Purple

I’m so glad you are reaching out! I remember how lonely it can be being a new Mom! We are all here for you!

Hi forcefulOceann

congrats on becoming a mommy!! Motherhood is the hardest, tiring, frustrating yet most rewarding job there is! I’m a mom of 4, though my kids are ages 8-15. I had a very hard time transitioning to motherhood. I had Post Partum Depression before it was acceptable to talk about. That was such a dark time. But I am so thankful to say I made it through!

My husband has BPD so I am familiar :) my husband teases me that I have “BPD type 3” because I also have some symptoms of hypomania.

im here if you want to chat!

@reliableSky3269 thank you for sharing a small part of your story. I am sooo glad you made it through to the other side of PPD. Many moms don't get the help and support they need at such a crucial time in their lives. Look at you, surviving and encouraging others! Great job!

Ty @purplelady568 💗

Hi

Hope u r doing well.

We can connect in the evening hrs at 10pm

If that's fine with u

@forcefulOceann how are you doing?

Hi I’m here if you ever want a friend to chat with, have a great day

@forcefulOceann Hello. I hope your baby gets to feeling better soon that has to be hard. Glad you are all home from the hospital. I have bipolar disorder and I havent talked to my therapist in a couple of weeks. I'm going to chat with a listener I think. This place has proven very helpful to me. I hope you make lots of friends who are understanding of your mental health. I also joined NAMI and highly recommend their support groups too as a supplement. Anyway welcome and nice to meet you. I am happy to meet you!

@forcefulOceann

Hey, congratulations, I wish you strenght

As you're a mom, I just really wanted to tell you that I terribly miss maternal affection that my own mom doesn't provide me, I'm always kinda jealous of those children I see their mother is gentle with, so I hope you'll make me jealous too :)

@Sun38294

I feel this. I lost my mother at a very young age. It's something I think about often in regards to my psychological development.

@MooRooster

Do you know any effects it can have on psychological development ?

@Sun38294

Well I'm not a psychologist so take this with a grain of salt, but I have formed a hard exterior in which I don't open up to much of anyone because I expect no one cares and I value sternness above anyone else I know, likely because most of the parenting I experienced growing up was paternal guidance which is useful but oh so cold. Also, however embarrassing this is to say, I've formed a mother complex in which I seek the affection of older women and have an impulse to talk to them, likely because part of me is trying to fill the void that growing up without a mother has put onto me.

@MooRooster

I get the seeking affection in older women part, I have teacher attachment

@forcefulOceann Hi dear one. If ever you need some help, I'm more than happy to be there for you. I don't promise to be around 24/7, but we can smile together when I can. My (long distance relationship) girlfriend is bpd - I strongly suspect she is, she has not told me so far - my twin sister is bpd, maybe I can help you out with that. Unfortunately I don't talk to my sister anymore, it's been a year since I found out about that. My sister was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in the first place, but my regular contact with her opened up my eyes about a misplaced diagnosis. On top of that, she does not get to see a doctor, go figure.

Cheers 🤗 and welcome.

@forcefulOceann feel free to reach out anytime, I forgot to mention that.

@forcefulOceann

I like bpd friends. They always try to form a co-dependency. Only one case when it turned out bad and it was this guy who got angry at me whenever I talked to or hung out with anyone else.

Hello welcome to motherhood. I too I'm a bipolar maybe we can be friends

@forcefulOceann Hii, I'm a rising junior in high school, so I'm not a mom. But I do babysit frequently, and I have two younger siblings, belonging to my stepmother, that I watch over and care for a lot. One is almost two, and the other is 8 months now. I feel like a mom to them. I know it's not the same though.

I also struggle with a few different types of anxiety and would love to be your friend. Please feel free to reach out any time you just need someone to talk to. Being a new mom is tough, and I'm so proud of you for making it through a sick baby. You're strong, don't forget it.