43 and of little value

Its never too late Abraham begot a child in his nineties, dont lose hope if you ate still alive , just do the necessisty come to Africa and get a woman they are ready to produce for anyone. Just get money Asap

@supalark Hello :) I think nobody should talk about himself or herself as 'insignificant'. Each and every soul counts.

I became a father for the first time being 39. You say as if everything was lost, but you are still in the game! :) The times when 40 was the age limit to have a baby (for both sexes) seem to be over.

Cheers from the other side of the 50 :)

There are so many biological fathers who have never done anything for their children at all. You had the opportunity and were blessed to raise a child. You should be proud of that. We aren't all here just to have children.  Some people contribute to the world in better ways than this. There are people who raise children who wreak havoc on our world or fail as parents. Where did you fail? You haven't at all. In fact in yhis dangerous overpopulated world we live in. I think you did the world a justice by raising your son. Your thoughts are a heavy burden to bear. Ironically youre still very much young enough to have children still. Although your partner might not be. So the opportunity isnt completely lost. Why live with regrets if this is the choice you made when your child was younger. I think you did well. I am sure you are a great father. Your bloodline doesnt measure the significance of that at all

@supalark

You know,

There's a pretty famous Youtuber that goes by the name of Technoblade.  Well known by many for his skills in Minecraft, his sense of humor, and his legendary catchphrase "Technoblade never dies!"

August 2021, he announced to his community that he'd been diagnosed with Metastatic Sarcoma; a relatively rare form of cancer.  Taking it all in stride, he joked that if he lost his arm he'd just play Minecraft with his feet, and that it was about time that he was nerfed. 

His cancer took a turn for the worse, and he passed away June 2022.  He was 23 years old, hadn't had children, and wasn't even in a relationship at the time.  So with your logic, he didn't do anything of value; right? 

Not quite

His catchphrase is still going strong, as his and other communities strive to keep his memory alive.  It doesn't matter if it's 1,000,00 or just 1 person; if someone cares for you then your life means something.  You'd be surprised by the things that people are remembered for.  Something as simple as asking how someone is can mean everything to someone who needs it.   You won't be gone when you take your last breath on this plane, you'll only be truly gone when you are forgotten.   I don't care how "insignificant" you think your life is. You may only be one person in this world, and that may make you feel small; but never forgot that YOU ARE the world to someone.   

@supalark I hope you're well! It definitely hits hard when you realise you can't have biological kids anymore, and the time and efforts you've put not knowing this, hurts!

But you've had the chance to raise your partner's kid - that's a big deal! You have cared for that person and raised them to the best of your capability; even if not biological, you've fulfilled all your responsibilities, and loved them like a dad would! - This makes you a father!

Not having your own kid hits home, but look at it this way - not having one must have allowed you some liberty and freedom to do what you like, which you may not have otherwise been able to do if you had been occupied with parenting responsibilities.

There are a lot of kids in this world who do not have a loving home - you can look after them as per your capacity. If you cannot adopt or foster one, you may sponsor one's education, or food, or clothing requirement, or anything that you deem appropriate.

Some people are loving parents to their pets, too! Love comes in a lot of forms, so, look at this as an opportunity to love your partner to the maximum; you can make time for self-love and pampering.

Being a biological dad may have been a good thing for you, but given that did not work out for you, try to look at the upside, however difficult.

I understand you must have gone through a lot of stress, pain and trouble not knowing what you now know. But it's not too late for you to start enjoying other aspects of life. All you could have done was try, which you did! If that did not reap fruitful results - that's okay! You have a long, healthy life ahead of you! Find something that you love to do, and keep yourself busy with it in your free time, do nice things for your loved ones, or even strangers! Make the best of what you've got, and that may eventually bring happiness in your life.

Take care,

@supalark

You are so much more significant than you’re giving yourself credit for. You raised a child, and just because he’s not biologically yours you still stepped up in a father’s role. I’d say, good for you! 

Well done! 🌹❤️

@supalark

We’re very different in age but I want to say that nobody should ever say that they shouldn’t be born and this is coming from someone who would say the same things about themself as well. You’re doing amazing and raising that kid as your own is so admirable and it doesn’t matter if they’re not your biological child.

@supalark

Midlife crisis..

You are 43. You can have children

Hard realities tho. 

Change is needed I expect

Hello you are worth more then you think. You raised that child. Some biological fathers are awful and not worthy of the term father. I am sure your child loves you and sees you as father.

even those that do raise their own children/procreate - they will be forgotten in generations to come

that is of no fault of anyone just the way the world is

what matters iis the here and now and the here and now I am telling you that your family loves and values you

and so does this community. You are not insignificant