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Are you where you thought you'd be by this age?

User Profile: victoriousblue17
victoriousblue17 May 2nd, 2023

Romantic relationships, kids, housing, career...all that stuff. Are you where you thought you'd be? Have you done something you never imagined you'd end up doing? What would surprise your younger self?

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User Profile: LonleyCheese
LonleyCheese May 2nd, 2023

haha i'm a boy now, that's kinda funny. no girlin' for me anymore :)

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User Profile: victoriousblue17
victoriousblue17 OP May 2nd, 2023

@LonleyCheese Wow that's an interesting one! When did you make that decision?

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User Profile: LonleyCheese
LonleyCheese May 2nd, 2023

@victoriousblue17 around age 12 or thirteen is when I realized, woulda been cool if i'd realized before i started ahem growing up a bit more if you know what I mean though

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User Profile: diplomaticWater8954
diplomaticWater8954 May 3rd, 2023

Actually, no. Life went entirely different. I’m trying to make up for lost time, but much of it is in the books. With what I have left to accomplish I wish things would come together easier, however I know all of it takes a lot to accomplish. I want to feel well inside my own skin and to be this way with others.

User Profile: jitterbugz7
jitterbugz7 May 3rd, 2023

No I am not. I became disabled early in life. I have macular degeneration, thyroid disease, diabetes, and a host of other problems. I am severely bipolar, to the point I am no longer able to work. I am surviving off the system and savings and praying my disability case gets approved. I am living in the housing projects, off benefits like foodstamps, and a life insurance policy i cashed out early. All I have left to comfort myself is my art, something I always took for granted but has become my identity and my way of achieving "flow". I still have hope, that my art could someday give me a way out of my poverty.

May 6th, 2023

@victoriousblue17 such a good question to reflect upon!

am i where my younger self wanted me to be?


sort of! but yes, my younger self would be amazed and happy with the way my life is presently. they will also be proud of me for all the growth and progress.

User Profile: goodSpruce3041
goodSpruce3041 May 6th, 2023

I am by no means where I thought I'd be at this age. My dreams never came true. My twin brother committed suicide, and I lost my sister to cancer. Then I got cancer. I survived it, but sometimes I wish I hadn't. I have nothing to look forward to but old age and poverty. My life has been one long stretch of emotional pain and loss. I hate my life. I can't believe I ended up like this.

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User Profile: LadyTii
LadyTii September 24th, 2023

@goodSpruce3041 I'm really sorry that happened to you. I resonate with your statements, especially about not wanting to be here. What is motivating you right now?

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User Profile: loyalBanana8410
loyalBanana8410 May 6th, 2023

The fact that I really actually earned money to be able to support myself will have definitely surprised my younger self.

User Profile: Melissa3483
Melissa3483 June 15th, 2023

Hello I am Melissa 39 single mom never married. Engaged 3 times long story with each of those. I am not where I thought I would be at this age. My younger self was selfish I thought I knew everything & all I wanted to do was drink & party. So I guess all my life choices has me where I'm at today.

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User Profile: Oldsoul1618
Oldsoul1618 September 17th, 2023

I can relate so much, all them long stories and all them useless desires, all the choices i dont really regret but logic says they have lead things to be the way they are now, like the years have slipped through my fingers ( as they say ). I just want to thank you for sharing,i find your reply so inspiring. And i really dont know why do we always feel better knowing there are others with stories similar to ours ? I wish you all the best in life and may all your hopes come to life. Im Turning 40 next summer and i was never married.

User Profile: LadyTii
LadyTii September 24th, 2023

@Melissa3483 This feels familiar. I thought I'd be married by now and part of an awesome family. I thought I was great and others would see it. Now, I think so lowly of myself. It's like this isn't even my own life

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User Profile: cloudySummer
cloudySummer June 15th, 2023

@victoriousblue17 No, I'm not where I had thought I'd be. I'm much more conventional, and didn't make much from what I was given. My younger self would probably be surprised about the amount of self-knowledge that I've gathered, and about the complete lack of purpose.

User Profile: Astraeuss
Astraeuss June 15th, 2023

honestly i would probably be really surprised i’m alive right now :’) but go me we are still a round 😎😎😎

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User Profile: LonleyCheese
LonleyCheese September 22nd, 2023

Wooh!

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User Profile: Gettingbettertoday
Gettingbettertoday June 15th, 2023

@victoriousblue17

I have never had any expectations or hopes for what the future would bring.