How do I stop myself from falling in love?
Anonymous
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Dec 24, 2015
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To be honest, it's pretty funny for me when people ask that because you can't. But see this when you want to stop something that mean you are afraid of repeat a bad thing, but the thing is no one is actually afraid of falling in love, what we afraid of is being rejected.
mommabearmaylia
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Nov 5, 2015
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Hun, I', afraid you cannot stop yourself from falling in love. You can how ever, give yourself reasons to not pursue the feelings for whomever it may be. Find red flags, toxic attributes, and fatal flaws about the person. Respect yourself in order to gain the will power to leave what will not grow you, strengthen you, or make you happy, or benefit you in the long run. If you resist long enough, you will learn to be happy without that person, and the feelings will eventually go away.
Anonymous
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Aug 28, 2015
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Love, or rather true love, is something that you can't really truly suppress. Maybe for some time you can tell yourself that you must stop falling in love, or that you simply can't love someone, but at some point that feeling will come back. If you want to stop yourself from falling in love because you're afraid that it will cause problems, then let me say this: there is nothing wrong with falling in love; what you do with it is the one that causes problems. When you fall in love, it does not necessarily mean that you MUST pursue that person or make that person love you back. You must think to yourself first what appropriate action you must take.
KiaBigHeart
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Sep 5, 2015
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You can't. But love is such a wonderful feeling. I haven't fallen in love for a while now, and I really miss that sensation. I know it isn't easy, but love is what really makes you feel alive.
silverSound86
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Jul 20, 2015
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When I want to stop myself from falling in love, I ensure that I draw boundaries around me. I don't allow a person or people to cross that. I keep communication short and simple and keep to myself beyond a point. I distract myself by immersing myself in activities that need my attention. For instance the theatre or music or something totally random. I may be doing this either because I don't feel ready enough to get into a relationship or have other pressing priorities which need my attention. I avoid the person who has caught my fancy and avoid obsessing about her. The human brain at any given point of time, can hold one thought. I ensure that thought is something else and nothing to do with my conflicting emotions. When I have consistently followed this pattern for a while, the feeling I have had for that individual is put in the backburner and I can get on with my life.
AHumanBeingJustLikeYou
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Sep 14, 2015
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Try focusing on improving yourself daily. A hobby or some kind of dedicated activity can distract you from human tendencies like falling in love, while improving yourself at the same time.
Sandra42
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Sep 19, 2015
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Work hard on becoming emotionally independent, so base your happiness solely on how you treat others and what you do in your daily life, not on how you are treated. The stronger relationship you have with yourself, the lesser you need other people to reinforce your self-worth.
indigo177
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Dec 20, 2015
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I don't think there is a way. Falling in love is a natural process; you can't force yourself to love someone, just like you can't force yourself to stop loving someone. Obviously it's usually good to fall in love with someone if they also love you back, but it may be different if the other person doesn't feel the same, which someone is hard to accept. But this doesn't mean you can 'force' to feel differently about them. If their feeling towards you isn't mutual, the best thing you can do is keep yourself busy with projects so that you don't physically have time to think about that person. Over time, your mind will become used to not thinking about them due to lack of time, and so the feelings will eventually start to fade. You may wake up one day in the future and realise you never really loved that person anyway and perhaps it was more of infatuation than love. But overall, you can't stop yourself from falling in love, you can just learn to control your emotions so that it doesn't affect your everyday functioning.
LateNightKnitter
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Jan 20, 2016
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Ahh... a tricky one. I guess this very much depends on what you personally define as love. Some see it as the tingly feeling in your stomach, others a deep passion for another person. Sometimes caring about someone so much that you feel you are in love with them, can become a bit of a problem especially if you are currently in a relationship. My advice would be - try to picture them as a very good friend, rather than a potential lover. Overtime your mind will start to see this person differently.
endorphins
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Oct 25, 2015
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Fall in love with yourself first! The stronger relationship you have with yourself, the lesser you need other people to reinforce your self-worth.
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