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I'm love with my best friend, but she's straight. What do I do?

Profile: tinysnow
tinysnow on Nov 15, 2017
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There are a few ways to go about it - you can try taking a small break from your best friend, you can be honest with her, or you can ignore the feelings in hopes they go away. I recommend one of the first two, but be sure to consider her feelings before doing either.
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Profile: MayMorgan
MayMorgan on Nov 18, 2017
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Love is really tough, and sometimes the best thing to do is confess the feelings even if you don’t think you’ll get the answer you want in return. Being honest with friends is always best, and it can lift a weight of keeping the secret if there is any.
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Ah, the dreaded forbidden fruit situation. Many of us in the LBGTQ+ community at one point or another have likely gone through the same situation and it can be very confusing. I find honesty to be the best policy in this case. Establish with yourself the goal you have in mind; are you happy just loving from afar? Or will your love affect your friendship because you want more? Once you’ve figured out what you personally want then it’s time to explain the feelings you’re having with your best friend. Remind them the value you place on your friendship and that just because you’re having these feelings this doesn’t change. You can discuss it and both move forward from their. However you should never attempt to force your sexuality on anyone else. Always be respectful of others boundaries.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 1, 2017
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That can be very hard but it is important to remember to respect her sexuality in the same way you would want someone to respect your's. Even if you are in love with her or just have a temporary crush on her, you have to try and move on. I know it's hard to do but it's the only possible way to resolve this without trying to convince her to go out with you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 3, 2017
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Something that I have experienced, and first step is to actually figure out your feelings properly, do you actually like her or do you thinks she's pretty? And then figure out if you are mixing your feelings with her being your friends cause I was close to my bestie and I felt tht I really liked her but I jus had mixed my feelings up cause I was just close to her and she was the first girl tht I was really close to, and if you actually genuinely like her, then go for it, ask her cause it's better then holding on ur feeling for her and making things awkward, if she's your friend she'll understand even if maybe she doesn't share the same feelings
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 15, 2017
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Ask yourself if being in a relationship with her would be something that would benefit you or if it would be better to have her as your best friend. Sometimes, we can feel like we are falling in love with someone we are really close to, but when we actually think about how it might work out, it's not as fun. So it's important to think about where you want your friendship with her to go. Weigh out the pros and cons, and make sure to keep reality in check.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 20, 2017
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I think you should talk to her about it! I know it's hard to do that, but I did that to my friend and we became closer after! it may not work out that way, but at least you will get this weight off of your shoulders.
Profile: Kanga
Kanga on Feb 10, 2018
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All you can do- be a good friend and respect his/her sexuality. Let them know that no matter what you will still be there friend, and that the feelings you are having are not meant to harm your relationship.
Profile: InaudibleVoices
InaudibleVoices on Feb 11, 2018
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Having had personal experience on this matter, I suggest you accept the fact and move on. If you're certain they're straight ,and not bisexual/pansexual etc. , then there is no point in confessing, since it might distance them.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 16, 2018
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Honestly, you can't ever know what she's going to do. I think that honestly, you should take a stab at it. Maybe she likes you too! You never know.
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