How to stop hating your mother?

first of all , you must ask yourself some basic questions to overcome that obstacle. consider asking yourself some basic questions such as “why do i hate my mother?” , “does she deserve this?” , “would making peace with my mother be helpful for my mental health?” , and “is my mother the cause of any anguish, sadness, or fear caused in my life?” by answering these basic , open ended questions , you will find the answer to your question. to add, please keep in mind that you were a part of your mother for almost a year. you guys have went through so much together so please do not let a simple fight ruin such a beautiful blessing of having a mother.

Recognize that she did the best she could with the information and resources she had available at the time. No one is perfect and adults (just like kids) are just trying to figure it out as we go along. One day, one event, one problem at a time. And remember that hating someone is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies. Hating her doesn't accomplish anything except giving you extra baggage to carry and icky feelings to have to process. Forgiving and getting better is a more powerful statement than hating her any day of the week.

I do not know your mother and I do not know the reason you hate her. I just feel like I need to point out that you are not obligated to love your mother. She is human and humans make mistakes. I am assuming that the two of you have a complicated relationship and there might be big mistakes on both sides. You know how you just do not like some people? Maybe your mother is one of those people for you. Also when there are big mistakes made, forgiveness is not an option for a while. You are not obligated to forgive and love. But, you should behave in a healthy way. Consider your role in the way your relationship has evolved and take responsibility for your part and leave her part to her. Behave as mature and balanced as can be expected of you. Do not seek confrontations. A good way to manage emotions on a certain subject is to get away and minimize contact and dependency if possible. (If you really want to stop hating, often the key is forgiveness, but that is a hard road in itself.)

That very much depends on the situation. If she actually has behavior that is harmful to you, the best thing might be to take some distance. If you can't take distance because you're young and live with her or depend on her financially, perhaps try to confront her. Honestly though, ultimately, that sort of situation is really case by case, and I would need to know more in order to actually help you with it. I encourage you to connect with a listener. You might be surprised what comes out of a conversation with them. Good luck and good courage!

You have to be able to understand that she’s only doing what’s best for you. Although at times it feels like she’s trying to control you or what she’s doing what’s best for her, Patience is what’s going to get you to the other side. And not only that, but you have to try to see things from her perspective. Whatever you did to make her treat you the way that she does so you can hate her is going to reflect on your actions in the end. So just go back and think about what you did what did you do to make her treat you the way she does. How can you fix it? And how can you prevent this from happening again. Maybe stay within the boundaries she said score try to be flexible with a maybe

Learn more about her; her past, childhood, and struggles. Gleaning a sense of what she's gone through and the experiences she's had will help to better understand her and why she is the way she is. Forgiving her even if she doesn't ever apologize or even know how she's hurt you. Seeing her as a flawed human being who may be thinking and feeling a lot that you don't know about. Writing her a letter that you can either share or not share with her. Hearing about her past can also possibly show what you two hold in common. Laughing at some behaviors instead of holding anger and resentment feelings.

1- Ask yourself what benefit will I get hating my Mom? 2- You won't be happy hating someone. 3- let's start positive thinking to live happier. 4- "Hating" affects you negatively and you know that well 5- Offering Love makes you stronger. 6- Think about all helpful actions she ever done 7- Try to remember and feel all lovely moments you shared together. 8- Do you think your mother deserves your Love ? if yes, so you can start thinking positively about her. If No, You deserve to remove any negative feelings to love happier. 9- A self help guide about family stress: https://www.7cups.com/family-stress/ 10- Good job! you are doing great job trying to doing a positive action towards your happy life.

It depends on why you hated her in the first place. My mother wasn't great although there could be much worse. She hated everything I did and made it clear. Weather it was heading a dungeons and dragons club or joining a sports team. I hated her but then then minutes later she would laugh with me or buy me something as an apology. Being mad made me seem like the enemy. If I could stay mad or Express my emotions, maybe we could have talked about it. Yet not all problems can be fixed with a conversation. So honestly, as someone that still hates their own mother, I don't know.

Firstly, consider what makes you hating your mother. If it is physical, emotional, mental, economic, sexual etc abuse, then it is ok that you dislike her past or present behaviour. If it is due to just disfunctional dynamic in your family (without abuse), you need to understand firstly that most family dynamics are disfunctional to some degree and that you are not alone. Furthermore, try to consider your mother's emotions and thoughts when she does something what makes you hating her. Maybe she does it in her love towards you but she can't express it in the way you will be able to understand her.

You first have to find a place in your heart to see if you have room for forgiveness assuming you hate your mother for a reason. Try to go and talk to her and understand her reasoning of why she did what she did or why she is the way she has been acting. Baby steps! Your goal is to not hate her, not be best friends! Be reasonable and communicate to work through your issues. Though I may be missing parts and bits of the story but, forgiveness of key. Remember the saying forgive but not forget! You are taking her actions into consideration but working to get past it.