How to forgive yourself for hurting someone?
UntilThen
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May 24, 2018
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Everything you've ever done has been to maintain your idea of physical and emotional safety. Whatever you may have done in the past, was what you felt the need to do at the time. This doesn't mean it is okay that you hurt someone, but it does mean that you do not need to feel guilty. As long as you are improving and pushing yourself to be better than you were, there is no need for guilt.
Anonymous
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Aug 16, 2018
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I've been there. I think It depends; if that person already forgave you and you're just thinking too much about it you can always ask them again and make sure everything is okay between you two. Then it would be ideal to have some time to yourself so you can think and realize that the version of you who made that mistake is now in the past, and the actual you has improved as a person, because no matter what, mistakes are the best way to learn and now you know what you shouldn't do to hurt that person anymore. Remember that you're only human, and you don't have to punish yourself too hard for something that you did in the past and that is already settled. You can always be better. Remember that.
Kylisawesome
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May 20, 2016
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Well, just remember that you are human, after all. Everyone makes mistakes, including me. Just take it easy, and treat yourself nicely. What's done is done, you can't change the past. The one thing is you can do is remember to not hurt anyone in the future.
SilentSerenityy
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May 22, 2016
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The first step to forgiveness is an apology. Apologise to them and ask for their forgiveness, then you can finally forgive yourself.
Thistooshallpass46
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May 29, 2016
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Accept that what you have done is wrong and try and make it up to that person by getting them to forgive you
Anonymous
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May 31, 2016
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You have to forgive your self when you have hurt someone or else you will never move on you have to stay postive and think that you are a changed person.
Anonymous
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Jun 2, 2016
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Forgiveness comes from within. And sometimes we have to forgive ourselves and let ourselves accept our own forgiveness, if that makes sense.
If you have hurt someone, depending on the situation, it may be a normal process of the interaction between the two of you. For example, if someone had romantic feelings for you but you did not feel the same way, this is not something that can be controlled. As long as you are honest, but sensitive and caring about their feelings when you explain that you are not interested in them, this should be okay.
If you feel you have hurt someone above and beyond something that you consider a normal activity, such as an act of betrayal, ask to speak with them and talk about what happened. Explain to them why you did what you did, and accept that you made a mistake. Honest, open, and truthful communication will go a long way. Ask for forgiveness and work toward making amends with the person; while the memories of what happened may not go away, the feeling of hurt can be repaired over time.
NimbusSkyRain
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Jun 23, 2016
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Remember, no one is perfect and that its ok. Guilt is a heavy burden to carry and it's never worth carrying. This doesn't mean you don't try to make things better. Try talking to the person you hurt, they may appreciate knowing that you upset about what you did, it shows that you care.
Anonymous
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Nov 7, 2016
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If you are in a situation where you hurt someone else, it is most important to resolve that problem with them directly. If you ask for forgiveness and apologize in a genuine way, at least you know you have done what is right and it is then easier to forgive yourself knowing that you have made a step in the right direction.
Anonymous
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Nov 14, 2016
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I only forgive myself for hurting someone, if the person I hurt has forgiven me. Which often takes time.
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