Why do I always say things I don't mean?
ImyourFriend18
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Mar 22, 2017
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Because in that moment when you say them, you don't think straight. You are angry, or broken, or hurt, anything, and you don't realize how much can words hurt. You probably have so many feelings inside of you, which want to get out but you hold them inside, and then you say words you don't mean to; it's how you deal with your emotions.
PoliteOcean
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Aug 31, 2015
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Sometimes emotions have a funny way of taking over the person we really are or are really meant to be. It could be a difficult thing and difficlt situation especially if it causes pain or regret in the end to yourself or to someone else. If you feel this is something that is affecting your life or relationships, you could try looking into a counselor or therapist. Or even a support group like Emotions Anonymous to discuss your feelings.
Anonymous
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Oct 12, 2016
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Because I cannot control my emotions and I do not know how I feel. And how to express myself. I am lost in my world of thoughts that does not make sense.
Glareofyesterday
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May 20, 2015
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Because you simply choose to. In my opinion no one can make you mad but you choose to become mad and speak without much thought
Anonymous
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Mar 15, 2015
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It could just be a defense mechanism? I used to say things to people and didn't know why because I didn't mean a word of it. Sometimes we say things so we don't seem vulnerable and to express false feelings to someone.
Brittneym101
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Feb 24, 2015
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You usually say things you don't mean when you're upset or agitated at something or someone. So instead of saying something nice and respectful, you end up saying negative, harmful and/or things that you don't mean and also to keep from accepting or telling the truth for example If I say that I hate my ex boyfriend when I know that I don't I just don't want to accept the fact that I do still love him. It's basically a you laugh to keep from crying kind of thing.
AbsoIet
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Sep 29, 2016
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Maybe because you're scared of putting your true feelings and emotions out there because you think people might not understand, or might judge you.
lovelyLynx18
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Jun 21, 2015
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Maybe you said it in the moment of a heated conversation. If you didn't mean it, tell the person that you didn't mean it.
GayGuyListens2975
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Oct 29, 2016
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Saying things that you don't mean to say usually are due to your brain being stressed and causing you to underthink what you are saying and not thinking of the future effects of the words which is why you typically don't realize the accidental comment is unintentional until after it is said and after your brain begins to focus back in. This is most common in arguments and moments of anger.
Anonymous
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Feb 23, 2015
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Sometimes we don't want to hurt the person we love or we are just a people pleaser. Learn to say the things that you mean so that you don't hurt yourself. Love yourself more!
PixelPeculiarity
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Nov 17, 2016
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I say things I don't mean when I don't know what else to say. Sometimes, I say things that I shouldn't have said and I have to live with the fact that I did say it. It happens though.
ChristineBernadetteScott
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Jul 14, 2015
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In a state of panic, people usually say the first thing that comes to mind. Which sometimes they don't mean. It's a usual anxiety response to do so.
Anonymous
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Mar 17, 2017
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Sometimes we say things we actually don't mean.. Maybe because we are angry at someone or something. Thinking logically before saying things.. Giving a pause before saying anything may help
Anonymous
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Jan 6, 2018
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In a fit of anger or in frustration, we say things we don’t mean when we lose control of our emotions. We act first instead of thinking it through, and hurt the other person with our words. We all say things we don’t mean - to our friends, family, or even strangers. What’s important at the end is to build up the courage to apologize and correct yourself when you have the chance. Your family and friends will only then understand that you didn’t mean what you said at first.
Purpleauroras
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Sep 25, 2016
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Because when I'm upset, I confuse my feelings with my current emotion and I express myself incorrectly. Or I hide my true feelings behind indifference because I'm afraid of expressing myself.
cristiana33
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Oct 4, 2015
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It might be a choice you are making without really having the intention to say them like that. That usually happens when we are trying to protect ourselves and our strong walls of protection tend to make us respond quickly in a hurtful way for others. Try to analyze why do you say the things you say, to whom and how you could change them. It will take a while to improve, but it only comes down to how willing are you to be more vulnerable/open to others.
Serenequeen713
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Aug 31, 2017
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I say things I don't mean when my feelings are hurt, I feel attacked, and I am in a state of range or fear. I try these days to remember my first thought is normally wrong and try to rethink my words before they come out.
FlowerInDisguise19
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May 4, 2015
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You may be feeling anxious meaning that its stuttering your speech? Or maybe you get confused with your words? Hmm or sometimes we as humans dont know how to express ourselves in words, its true, so we end up saying things we don't mean by accident. You just gotta try and find your best means of communicating your feelings/thoughts to people :)
anonymousXangel
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Sep 29, 2015
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It might come out of anger. You might've been caught up in the moment, and the words just came out wether you meant them or not.
iamia23
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Jun 6, 2016
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Sometimes, you might say things that you don't mean because your afraid (of something or someone) and not being real to Yourself.
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