I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

It can be very difficult to move on from someone you've loved, especially when you can not find a reason to hate them. It sounds to me like breaking up with him was something you chose to do for yourself, rather than because of something that was wrong with him. So it sounds like instead of moving on from him, you are more set on moving on for yourself. I think you are more of an expert on this and it sounds like you may have already set the framework for your self on how to move forward in your question.

learn more about yourself, find joy in little things.. become self-dependent, hangout with your friends and slowly he will become just a memory

Well, one thing that you can do is pray about your situation and hope for the best results. Also, you probably had activities and fun things that you used to do with that person. You might try filling the void created by their parting with some wholesome activities such as reading a book, walking your dog or cat, or if you don't have any hobbies or pets. Perhaps, purchase a pet, ie, fish, cat, dog; and/or start a new hobby. Let me know if this helps. Thank you.

Hating is never the right way of moving on from someone. Hate, anger, aggression are things that harm the bearer more than the person they're directed to. The key to properly move on from someone is acceptance. Sometimes it may happen that we have to break up with someone we're still in love with...but the main thing to remember is you must have had a reason to break up. Focus on that reason as much as you can. Convince yourself that you had to do this. Maybe you don't hate him or haven't fallen out of love with him, but you must have had some thoughts that caused you to end the relationship. Accept that fact and tell yourself that you did what you had to do at that point of time. You have given yourself the chance to seek what works best for you so that you get the fulfillment that one expects from a healthy relationship. Hope this helped. Lots of hugs and best wishes. :)

By finding a way to be happy with your decision! Rather than focus on the negative outcomes or the negative feelings, try to focus on the positives. If you are able to grow and gain strength from this situation, then you won't need to justify your decision by hating him! You can still have positive feelings toward him without being with him. Perhaps *not* being with him will allow you both to be healthier and happier people!

Who says you have to hate someone to move on from them? The aim of moving on is to be able to continue with your life without being affected by whatever person/experience you from which you happen to be moving on. There's no requirement to "hate" in order to move on, in fact, I've found it harder to move on from things I hate; it just makes us think about it even more. Like you said, you had to, that suggests what happened, was meant to happen! So, do your best to simply accept that it was the best and most appropriate course of action. Don't look for a reason to hate him, simply start to continue with life without him there like he was. This will help you to start to stop thinking about him, and stop the effect that he has on your life (also known as moving on!). Best of luck

Why do you need to hate a person in order to move on from him/her. Think in the positive side. If you don't move on now and come back together, you are certain that it won't work. Eventually, you would have differences and you would find plenty of reasons to hate him. But you don't need to go to that point of hating him if you move on now. Treat him as you treat a casual friend or acquaintance. Meet and interact with new people. Spend your time in more productive ways which also divert your attention. You'll notice the change

It's simple. You move on from someone with the same reason you broke up with them in the first place for. Why did you do it? What triggered it? And it will remind you of why you should move ahead, that's all. You don't have to hate somebody to move on from them. Some happy relationships do end, and that's okay.

You don't need to hate somebody to move on from a relationship: sometimes, it just doesn't work out the way we imagine, and that is okay. Treasure the memories you have with this person, with a happy heart, remember to be kind to yourself, and to not forget about the reasons for the breakup.

You can find peace with the fact that you both have mutual feelings for eachother and things didn’t end badly. Remember you did what you thought was right.