How to forget my one-sided love?
peachicus
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Sep 21, 2014
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I'm in love with my best friend and have been for years, my heart is continually broken as she dates other guys and gets herself hurt by them. I tried to distance myself from her so I didn't get hurt every time she met someone new. But I couldn't stay away, I understand that we're not meant to be together but we are the best friends and I'd rather look after her and pick up the pieces when she gets hurt then let her go alone. Maybe one day when we are old and grey she'll see me. I will quietly wait for that time.
EchoEce17
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Jun 15, 2016
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Well forgetting a one side love is too difficult. I too used to meet him daily , I still love him . The things that have changes is just that i have accepted the truth, that he loves someone just like i love him . Forgetting isn't a solution to everything. There are somethings that are to be kept as memories throughout your life, to be reminisced whenever you wish to . Don't forget , just accept and move on .
Aventurina
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Oct 23, 2014
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Sometimes we are attracted to people, because their presence in our lives speaks to a deep unconscious need. We are often attracted to the people that we are attracted to, because of the emotions they illicit within us. Awareness is a battle half won... so what I do ask you the next time you meet her, is to ask yourself 'what am I really getting out of these feelings which are being aroused in me?' For a moment, look away from the person, but more on the process that occurs inside of you towards her. It could be 'the need to chase', 'the need to prove myself', 'the need to attain the unattainable'... check what is driving you to keep being attracted to someone who is not reciprocating your energy, and perhaps once you have figured it out, the next time you see her, well... it could be different.
winsomefish
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May 20, 2016
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You don't have to forget it. You just have to realize that love doesn't have to be returned to be felt by you, and that not having it returned doesn't mean it has to be painful. Presumably you love this person because of who she is, not for what she can do for you. Just enjoy the feeling of caring for another person.
Anonymous
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Sep 1, 2016
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I know it can be so tough. We so want the other to love us as we do. We wait, we hope, we cry. But the truth, we suffer alone. All the anxieties, heart beats racing, all the depressions, all ours. The one we love seems to be much happier and relaxed. There is where we need to face the reality. The reality that you are to take care of yourself. You are worthy of much better than those day and night sufferings. Gather courage, and walk away from the one-sided tormenting thing, walk on a path that deserves you better. Even though it may be much tough, but that's the only right path. Walk with people who care for you better. Who knows? Tomorrow, the same person you once one-sided loved would come to love you without you asking. And who knows? Tomorrow, something beautiful may meet you on your path of courage and freedom.
SageBunny
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Jan 2, 2015
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Remember that you don't know everything about this person. Perhaps you're fantasizing about how wonderful she is, when in reality you may not at all be compatible. Enjoy being her friend, but understand the difference between fantasy and reality. Try to find someone real that can make you happy. :)
moabher
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Nov 17, 2014
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in fact you are lucky that you will see him/her everyday , it's better to face your pain better than hiding from it you need to to know that each one have his perfect mate that he will meet one day and maybe it's not the one you match with , you should act normally smile and trust yourself , be gentle and decent , cheerful , calm
meeting that person everyday will make you used on it and then you will find by yourself later that you must go on
DivineShalomnew
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Jun 10, 2016
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hmm....a perfect question for me :) I guess. Actually we should not try to forget that one side love . We should accept 2 truths . One is Yes I love/loved him , second one is , he/she doesn't love him at all. You should not afraid to accept the truth . When you accept it , you will see the change internally. be confident about yourself .
GoldenSnitch86
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May 20, 2016
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Its not easy to not think about love when someone's on your mind - more so, when you have to see him/ her everyday at work, in college/ school or otherwise. I believe, it's a very gradual and long drawn process, and it comes with great pain. To start with, accept that you guys can't be together - know that you can't force anyone to like you back. Also, one formula doesn't fit all but, one thing that in my view helps is, focussing on why you are at the place you are. If you are in office, try and spend more time on work. In school, focus on studies/ classes a lot more, and try to excel there. Make genuine efforts to make a friend circle that is outside his/ hers. These are all small steps that inch you closer from moving on.
Anonymous
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Nov 15, 2014
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In my experience realize that we are grieving over the loss of what could of been is paramount. Also, to keep oneself distracted and to limit their interaction with this person is important.
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