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How do I tell my boss I'm leaving? (nicely)?

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Profile: KNikolas
KNikolas
December 30th, 2016 5:56pm
"Unfortunately, I do not feel I am good fit here. I want to thank you for the opportunity you gave me by giving me this job."
Profile: BeyMyOncee
BeyMyOncee
December 28th, 2016 5:21am
I was working in a job I absolutely loved but I received a better offer and a higher position job offer in another place. I told my boss as soon as I received the offer and explained that I loved working with him and all of my other colleagues along with loving doing the actual job however I wanted to progress and expand on my knowledge. I also told him that I would happily work my notice period and explained that i told him as soon as I found out as I didn't want to leave him short handed (so he had enough time to look for someone to replace me). He said he understood, wished me the best in the future and said he was sad that there wasn't any promotion spots for me with his company at the moment.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2020 5:01am
Just be polite and respectful. You can give them further notice if you can so they can prepare for you being gone. Some places consider it customary. Just be sure to explain everything out in detail and be nice about it. You do not ever have to share more details than you feel comfortable with to your boss. But that individual does have the right to know why you are leaving, what date and the fact that you are leaving in the first place. You owe them that much at the least. Even if you do not like the job or the person, it is best to leave on decently good terms.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2020 12:10am
I would just thank them for the opportunity. I was honored to be part of your team. There are just other avenues I feel I want to pursue in my life. And I wish you continued success in the future. Thank you again for the opportunity I appreciate it. Short and sweet, I've always just gotten straight to the point. Thank them for the opportunity wish them continued success and went on my Merry way. No use in dragging it out and making it awkward. If you didn't like the job there's no need to criticize it, unless you're asked ways you think the job could be improved.
Profile: amiableSun7287
amiableSun7287
July 21st, 2019 2:37pm
Of course, this would depend on the relationship you have with your boss- a closer relationship might have more casual wording and specifics, while one that is more distant might be more generic and formal: Hi [Boss' name], I want to let you know that I've decided to resign from [position] to pursue a new opportunity. I appreciate the experience and learning I've gained while working at [workplace], but feel it's time for me to move in a different direction. I wish the best for you and [team/company/initiative/etc.] going forward. I am intending my last day to be [date]. Happy to discuss more in person/Thank you again for the opportunity to be a part of [team/workplace] [Signature]
Profile: BonViveur
BonViveur
January 7th, 2018 1:08am
You should speak to them privately, try to say something positive about your experience working for them, perhaps thank them for employing you, and simply tell them that you wish to give notice that you are leaving.
Profile: endearingWaves15
endearingWaves15
November 11th, 2018 2:55pm
Rule number one: never burn bridges. If you are leaving your for a better endeavor, do the right thing and give a proper notice. Write a resignation letter and hand-deliver it, on nice paper. There are many resources online that will help you craft a proper resignation letter. I've even seen people that have put their resignation letter on a cake and delivered it to their higher-ups! The important thing is that you don't burn the bridge and you leave the right way. Now, if you're just telling your boss that you're leaving for the day, simply clean up your work area and say "I'm leaving for the day. Have a good night." Firm, concise, and polite!
Profile: ReassuringRey
ReassuringRey
October 27th, 2018 6:14pm
First off, I'm so proud of you for thinking about how to approach your boss in this type of situation. It can be hard to explain this choice nicely and effectively and for you to stop and think about how to do it is truly something to be proud of. What I would encourage is for you to make a list on the reasons why you're leaving and go from there. Maybe it's for mental health reasons, pay, other commitments, etc., but telling your boss these reasons in an appropriate, calm, matter-of-fact manner can help you organize your thoughts, give clear reasoning on your departure, and show that you truly thought through how to approach this situation and that you still cared about the job you're working for.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 3:55am
Have a private talk with your boss. Tell them the good about the job first and then slowly talking into the topic. Talk about your future plan and how you planning on that.
Profile: ShaynaRae
ShaynaRae
February 5th, 2018 8:35am
Remember that your boss has their own career journey and has left positions too. You don't need to go into detail. For example, I quit my last job by saying a better opportunity came along that I felt would help increase my skills. I thanked them for all of their guidance and for the experience and wished them well.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2018 2:36pm
Explain that you have enojyed your job and that you appreciate your time there but you feel it's time to go on to something new
Profile: PrettyCupcake00
PrettyCupcake00
March 1st, 2018 6:42am
Hey love! You should hand him a resignation letter and whiling giving it to him politely make him understand the reason behind you quitting.
Profile: GodBeTheGlory12
GodBeTheGlory12
May 15th, 2022 9:39pm
Its never easy to convey to your supervisor/HR personnel you are leaving an organization especially if you are on great terms with the staff and team members . Nevertheless, life is about constantly moving in directions that foster our growth and development to ensure we realize our true potential at heart. The first step is to ensure you arrange an appropriate time to verbally communicate this decision to your direct supervisor. During this meeting you can opt to give details on why you came to the decision to part ways with the company and also your willingness to assist with facilitating the transition of your role to your replacement. Secondly, a well written, concise and brief letter must be drafted and presented to your HR personnel within the timeframe (usually 2 weeks) as outlined by the institution's policies and procedures to formally notify your decision to resign. Finally, it is best to convey appreciation for the experience gained as well as the opportunities that enabled your growth while apart of the company. Always keep the tone of your notice positive and respectful despite the circumstances under which you have decided to take leave. Hope this helps !
Profile: SundancerPipeholder
SundancerPipeholder
May 19th, 2018 2:10am
I have been through this many times, every time I told my boss I had another job they gave me more money. Explain to them you have another opertuinty for more m9ney and advancement, no hard feelings. Never burn a bridge you may need that bridge later
Profile: SoothSayer42
SoothSayer42
June 3rd, 2020 8:48am
First, dont let them hear from elsewhere. But regardless of that, once you have finalised your move, have a meeting with them. 1 on 1. Sit down and let them know that you have come accross this wonderful opportunity and you think that it will benefit you in so and so way. And that you have decided to take it up and pursue it. Tell them thanks for all their support and help in the development of you career. Give them honest appreciation for anything they have done. If you were dissatified with your job for some reason, tell them in the nicest way you can possible. Then offer to work with them to ensure your transition wouldn't affect their team/plans. You will give all necessary knowledge transfers and transition meetings. Train some people in what you have been working on. Work out this plan with them and say that you're committed to help them out with the transition uptil your very last day. Ask them for their feedback on you as well.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 10:58am
I have learnt a lot from all my colleagues here and appreciate your leadership and support in helping me grow in my career. The time has come for me to pursue my interests in other areas, and I am sad to let you know that I have to leave you all.
Profile: SmilesToSmile
SmilesToSmile
May 2nd, 2020 8:57am
If you've decided to leave your job for a new opportunity, its always a good idea to do so gracefully. If possible, give your current employer sufficient notice and if you're willing and it's relevant to your employer, let them know if you're happy to help with creating interview questions or assisting in finding a replacement. In terms of telling them you're leaving be sure to thank them for your time and the opportunity to learn and develop skills. A tactful way to explain why you're leaving might be that the new role allows you to learn a new skill set or fits your personal circumstances/lifestyle focus better at this point in time.
Profile: Everydaysuperhero13
Everydaysuperhero13
August 19th, 2020 6:52pm
Hey boss, I want to say thank you for giving me the opportunity to work here. I’ve learned a lot about this field and myself. I think that I have learned and done all I can here and think it’s time for me to pursue other challenges. I appreciate the time and opportunities that have been given to me. I want you to know while I always have my best and I hope that I was as good of an employee as you were my supervisor. I wish you and the rest of this staff nothing but the best.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 11:22am
I am leaving. Good bye and call me if you need me for anything. You have been wonderful but I need to see the world.
Profile: Missgypsy007
Missgypsy007
April 8th, 2020 10:56am
I would ask to speak to my boss and have a face to face meeting. When she is available to sit with me privately, I would proceed to tell her that I have enjoyed working for her and that it is time for me to move on to another job. I would thank her for everything she had done for me and what a great boss she has been. I would ask if we could stay in contact in the future because I appreciate and respect her as a boss as well as a person and would like to maintain a connection.
Profile: FriendlyFlounder
FriendlyFlounder
April 5th, 2020 9:39pm
I think you should explain to your boss why are leaving. Reinsure them of your relationship with each other and just be honest. Express your opinions, feelings and emotions. Your tone and choice of words is also very important in the situation. You should establish what you're going to say and how you are going to say it before you decide to talk to your boss. It's important that if at any point during the conversation, you say something you think has been misconstrued, that you apologize and explain yourself. You should also tell your boss that you needed to do this for your own well-being and that if at any point during the conversation that they are hurt, upset, or disagree with something you have said, that they make it known to you. It's important for you and your boss to have an understanding during this situation. The most important part of relationships are communication and reciprocation. I hope everything goes well!
Profile: SirJayalot
SirJayalot
April 4th, 2020 5:36am
Be sure you know exactly what your message is before you approach your boss. Even if you are leaving on good terms, the conversation is likely to be awkward and difficult. You don't want to stumble over your words. At the same time, you want to be firm in your decision and prepared for any potential questions or objections your manager brings up. Are you prepared to say no to a counteroffer? What if your manager asks you to reconsider and suggests picking up the conversation in a few days? What if he or she gets emotional? (It could happen, especially if you're a key member of the team, or you have a close relationship with your boss.) Keep the meeting professional and, above all, don’t give in to the urge to vent about your job. Just some things to consider IMO ;)
Profile: NoelLikesSunsets
NoelLikesSunsets
March 28th, 2020 5:02am
You could try explaining to your boss that you are interested in pursuing another path to develop some different skills that your current job can't provide. It provides some closure for your boss to know that you want to try something else, but does not make your boss feel like they are the ones at fault. Sometimes, you've just got to spread your wings and try something new! It can be nice to share with your boss some good memories or things you learned from your time with them, and to let them know that you will take these skills you developed with them into the future with you. :)
Anonymous
March 21st, 2020 12:42am
You can ask for an in-person meeting with your boss, and thank them for the opportunity that you got to spend with them as part of the team however a new offer presented itself and after much consideration with myself (and my family) I ended up going with the new position. However I will look fondly upon the time I spent here. And I definitely want to keep in touch. If they wrote your reference letter thank them for that as well. Then be sure to tell them when you're leaving and that you're willing to help train your replacement in the meantime. Also be sure to say goodbye to the rest of the office and leave on good terms.
Profile: kindDreamer9743
kindDreamer9743
March 8th, 2020 1:46pm
The best way to leave your current employer is with dignity and do not burn your bridges as that could come back to bite you later on! simply ask your boss if you could speak to him at the end of your shift and out of ear shot from other colleagues and tell him/her its time for you to move on and try something else although you have enjoyed working there (whether you did or not) and you have learnt a great deal which your very grateful for as well as the opportunity to work there, by the time you deliver this message to the said boss its best to follow it up with a polite written resignation stating the length of time you intend to work your notice and always leave on a positive and a handshake.
Profile: StroggCore
StroggCore
February 10th, 2020 10:38am
Had a same problem when I decided to quit. It was hard for me, to be honest. Because my boss was a cool guy. But I wanted something bigger. I opened my own office at Coworking platform and started to earn money. My boss was not only a cool guy, he was also a smart one. And so, after I left, we met again and become something like partners. We have a cooperation right now: if he has too much work to do, he gives a part of it to my guys and I do the same stuff with his people.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2020 6:01pm
tell him/her that you will be taking up a new job opportunity or you will be leaving and that you enjoyed working with him/her. don't be rude, but just hope that he/she will understand, it is not your fault for leaving. let them know it not their fault you are leaving, make sure they know you enjoyed working at the company/ in their business, but you can not continue in the future. just do your best to be kind, and don't lay the news down the second you're leaving, let them know maybe at least a week in advance preferably a month.
Profile: OneBeathAtATime
OneBeathAtATime
July 1st, 2018 8:08am
Tell them (even if you don't mean it entirely) that you appreciate the opportunity and experience it gave you. Give a 2 week notice if possible. If you really love the job you're in but things are not quite nice there (atmosphere), maybe ask and give feedback of how it could get better.
Profile: bellarina74
bellarina74
February 1st, 2020 11:06am
Making the decision to change the organisation you are employed by can leave you feeling extremely anxious. Transitioning to a new job is stressful enough without having to worry how you boss is going to take the news of losing a team member. It is not an easy conversation to have, especially if the company has invested a lot of time in training you. However, you need to do what is best for you and what is going to make you happy. Whilst we all like to think we are indispensable, we are not. Your boss may initially unhappy but they will find a replacement for you soon enough.
Profile: jade2019
jade2019
February 17th, 2019 8:43am
Explain an opportunity has been presented, that would better your career. I would compliment your boss/co-workers and the company, and say how grateful you were for the opportunity they originally gave you. I would go on to say how much you have learned from them, and any admirable qualities your boss has shown you. Thank them for anything they may have taught you. Ask your boss what they think you could work on, and what you already do well (engage them and appeal to there egos). Make sure you adhere to notice time in your contract before leaving. This should encourage your boss to give you a good detailed reference.