Is it normal for dads to touch your thigh? I do not feel comfortable when this is going on.

It is not normal for a father to be touching your thighs. I am sure that this makes you feel very uncomfortable. Maybe addressing your dad to find out why he is doing it may help resolve that internal conflict that you are feeling. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him not to do it. In the event that does not work, go to someone else that you trust and tell them about this event. It may be a sutel way of Grooming you for something more. Please do't keep silent. Tell an adult. I really respect your strength in posting this question. Please stay safe.

Hey there, thankyou for reaching out. They say, there are 2 kinds of touch - a good touch and a bad touch. People feel warm and caressed with the good touch, it could be a handshake, a pat, or a hug. Specially touch from known ones and loved ones feels more comfortable and warm. However when a touch makes us feel uncomfortable or uneasy and makes us question if it is okay or not - it might be a bad touch and never okay to come from anyone be it even a loved one or someone we respect. It is normal for parents to hug their kids or pat their back but personally I don't think touching thighs is appropriate specially when it appears you're feeling uncomfortable about your father touching your thigh, which appears falling in the category of bad touch and so normal to feel uneasy because of it. Super okay to reach out to someone who you confide in to share about it, or if comfortable to politely ask your father to not touch as it makes you feel uncomfortable ~ hoping he didn't do it intentionally, please do be mindful of the situation, in all cases remember you deserve to feel safe and comfortable, and voice your discomfort. Take care 💛

It can be normal, but it depends on the family. Don't feel pressured to accept something you dislike because "it happens to other people." If it makes you uncomfortable you should definitely speak up! You should not have to deal with any unwanted behavior that you don't want to experience. If he doesn't respect you and continues doing it, you should let an adult or someone you trust know and get their help. It's possible that he didn't intend to be inappropriate, but how you feel about it is more important. It can be intimidating to speak up but your safety and comfort matters more.

Hi, I think that if your dad is touching your thighs in a way that makes you uncomfortable, it probably isn't normal. It's possible, of course, that there is no inappropriate intention but either way if it makes you feel uncomfortable it's worth asking him to stop, and saying you aren't comfortable with it. You don't need to justify your feeling uncomfortable, and he should stop if it bothers you. His reaction to your asking may also help you understand whether he mean anything by it. Good luck, and remember that if someone behaves inappropriately towards you, it is not your fault.

It's surely not normal for fathers to touch you in any way that make you feel uncomfortable, because that is a form of sexual harassment and could lead into worse things if you ignore it. Fathers are there to be there for you emotionally and physically also take care of you, not doing things like touching you in a weird way. You have to stand up and tell him No and stop because he will keep doing those things if you don't speak up. But if he continues you need tell an trusted adult before it gets worse. YOU CAN DO IT.

I wouldn't be able to say if it was normal for fathers to touch their children's thighs, but if you feel uncomfortable then it's obviously something that isn't okay for you. It doesn't matter if it's normal or not if it makes you uncomfortable if you know what I mean. If this continues to happen and you remain uncomfortable about the situation then you can try to reach out to someone with who you can share this, perhaps another trusted adult. No one should be touching you in a way that you aren't okay with, no matter who they are. Personally, my father has never done this to me but I can't say so for others.

If you don't feel comfy, let it be known. If he continues doing it then you need to talk to someone about it. Its not normal. My father used to do it to me till I told him I wasn't comfy and then he stopped. He understood that I didn't take it as play and I took it seriously. I'm sorry that this is happening to you and I'm sorry that you don't like it. if it gets WORSE then you need to tell someone for sure so that they can help you.

You asked if it was normal, and I think it can be. Different people have different relationships with their fathers and I even knew some females who were comfortable changing around their Dad. However you stated that you are uncomfortable and that's the answer. It's your body and if someone is doing something to your body that makes you uncomfortable you're allowed and should tell them that you're uncomfortable and that they need to stop. To me, whether or not it's appropriate lies in how the person responds. if they apologize and stop it's likely it wasn't meant to cause you harm or distress. If they get defensive or refuse to respect the boundary it's inappropriate in my opinion. I don't have a relationship with my Dad as he passed when I was young. I was excited to get a stepdad and have a new dad but felt uncomfortable around him but couldn't say. Later he would not adhere to boundaries and was not a good person, so I also think it's important to trust your gut. I don't make my children hug or kiss anyone if they don't want to - even family, because it's important for me to teach them that it's their body, they have ownership over it, and they have a right to feel comfortable in interacting with people.

I personally would not consider that appropriate, but the answer depends on your personal boundaries and what you do and do not feel comfortable with. I have a sister and my dad has never put his hands on her thigh - for any reason. My parents are big fans of showing physical affection, but they'd never touched me or my sister anywhere other than giving a hug and touching our arm or shoulder. If you feel uncomfortable with your dad touching you that way, you have every right to voice your concern and ask him to stop doing that because it violates your personal space.

Hey! Defining normal is difficult but if you feel uncomfortable with it then it's not okay. What his intentions are, I don't know but that doesn't matter, it isn't okay if you aren't comfortable with it and you have said this to him. I wonder if you have said this to him because if he is still doing it, then that makes it a bit more wrong. Sorry you are feeling uncomfortable and all the best. Do feel free to connect with a listener if you would like some more 1 on 1 support, we are a friendly bunch!