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I'm stressed out and when I try to go to sleep I can't shut off my thoughts. What should I do?

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I'm stressed out and when I try to go to sleep I can't shut off my thoughts. What should I do?
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Profile: DipityEnigma
DipityEnigma
July 9th, 2015 2:08pm
Well, an obvious solution is to speak with a Listener on here or join in group chats. You could also try listening to music. If you're really worried about this though, you could go see your GP and see what advice they can offer you. It might be a good idea to look into going to a counsellor too if you feel you need someone to speak with face to face that has no connections to your friends or family. Hope this helps. :)
Profile: Bastiiion
Bastiiion
July 9th, 2015 7:57pm
I had this problem recently, and I think what helped me was that because I was aggravated I wanted to just get up and do something. If I couldn't sleep, I might as well be productive, right? Well... Your body kind of makes up all kinds of excuses to NOT do that most of the time, so while I'm trying to fight to get up I'm kind of nodding off at the same time. Eventually I go to sleep, so sorry I can't provide an immediate solution.
Profile: Lilianautumn82
Lilianautumn82
July 10th, 2015 1:44am
In some cases where you are stressed out it helps to distract your brain with background activity; I am not talking here about the telly running in the background or your pc running with some gaming videos, as that only disturbs your sleep. There is something called 'white noise' which is a sort of background noise that does not disturb you during your sleeping activities but it still distracts a hyperactive brain enough to sleep without thinking too much. For example, some people find the sound of rain very relaxing; while we cannot have rain all the time there are songs and videos out there which play the sound of rain,while others may find peace in listening to piano music (for example on youtube search for Paulfromstokeuk he has some beautiful piano and instrumental pieces!) Put on one of those tracks for a while and set a timer for it to go off after a while, this way you give your brain something to be distracted by when you are in the process of falling asleep so you won't get annoying thoughts buzzing in your head!
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 5:39am
Listen to a self-guided meditation before bed. It will relax you and put your focus on something else than the rushing thoughts in your head. http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=22
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 12:32pm
The very first thing you should do is to take some deep,long breaths focusing entirely on the rise and fall of chest.It may help you feel little calmer,so when you are calm,rather than getting trapped out in thoughts,sort them out one by one and then figure out why aren't you able to fall asleep.Most of the times the fear and worry that "I can't sleep" is the reason itself why you can't sleep.SO first thing is to take out that tension and anxiety around the sleeping.It's the first step
Profile: PetalsOLove
PetalsOLove
July 10th, 2015 3:19pm
Well the best thing to do in my opinion is to try and play some calming music to relax your thoughts
Profile: butterflykisses27
butterflykisses27
July 10th, 2015 7:22pm
When I am stressed out and cannot sleep I get up and make myself a hot chocolate. I find if I continue to stay in bed I only think more and I know if I do this I am not going to get any sleep all night. So I find by getting out of bed. Going to make a hot chocolate. Perhaps putting on the pc and playing a game and or popping on a movie or picking up a novel and reading it. It helps slow my mind down. Makes me tired then I am ready for bed.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 9:02pm
I would suggest you to do hypnosis. Its a simple process to revert thoughts in a positive way. You should have 2 people to perform it . The procedure is : Close you eyes and breathe in and breathe out 5 times. Then try to loosen up your thoughts by going into the woods . Imagine you are alone and walk accross. Where you find a beach.. and water all around you. Try steppin close to the water and breathe. You fell fresh. Bow slowly step into the water there are 10 steps. Take the 1st step u feel the water on ur feet. Nw slowly step down to 2 3 4 5 6 slowly water is raising over to ur body. Now 7 8 9 10 and nw u r in the ocean bt u r nt drowning or feeling suffocated. But u swim and njoy the water. U see a treasure box .. u open it and u find 3 potions . Choose ur potions. Like 1 may have energy and 2nd may have love and the 3rd ... find happiness ir wateva u k Like.. drink it ... nd breathe .. u wil be energised and u wil rejuvated once u do this. Remember there shud be no distractions. And tell ur friend or a closed one to narrate this to u so that u can imagine and get ur stress away. My name is journeyoflife15 I am a listner here. If u need any help. I am here. Take care.
Profile: thateurasian
thateurasian
July 11th, 2015 2:38am
Try and think about a calm location like the beach at the sunset. Slowly breathe in and out. It'll calm you. Imagine you being in that location, walking around in silence and enjoying the landscape. Keep breathing in and out slowly and you will fall asleep very well.
Profile: Penelope210
Penelope210
July 11th, 2015 5:33am
Try and put your thoughts into perspective before you sleep, work out how each thought can affect you and the changes it could have in the bigger picture then make a plan of dealing with those thoughts in the future, write down your plan and then have a bath or whatever makes you totally relax and sleep.
Profile: cheerfulJoy79
cheerfulJoy79
July 11th, 2015 12:39pm
You could take a look at the sleeping well article that is under the self help guides here on 7 Cups of Tea, it might help you!
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 5:06pm
if you have an apple device, use the sleep well app. It will help you relax and fall asleep. it works beautifully.
Profile: delicatePillow38
delicatePillow38
July 11th, 2015 9:46pm
when you go to bed, try listening to some quiet soothing music or some of your favourite music and lying in a cool, dimly lit room, i find this helps me when i can't sleep.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 5:08am
It may help to leave a notepad or notebook and a writing utensil near your bed, like on a nightstand. When you feel the stressful thoughts intruding, try writing them down. It can help you let go of the thoughts. If the thoughts are keeping you up because you feel you have to attend to them, assure yourself that the thoughts will be there in the morning, right where you wrote them, and that you can take care of them in the morning. Breathing exercises and meditation can help lots too - there are plenty of exercises for both available for free with a simple Google search!
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 9:17am
When counting sheep and a glass of warm milk fails, there's a few different strategies you can take. Consider your sleep hygiene; is your bed a place of comfort and relaxation, or do you use that space for homework or to do your taxes? Do you shut off all sources of noise and turn off all lights before bedtime? Do you stare at bright lights, like that of a TV or cell phone before trying to sleep?
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 12:15pm
listen to music(light music), think of something happy, make thoughts about good things in the near future. sleep with someone else if you can. talk to someone that makes you happy before you go to sleep.
Profile: Haley622
Haley622
July 12th, 2015 9:42pm
Try to write out your feelings, drink some tea, play some calming music, think of calming thoughts, and remember that sleep will help.
Profile: AllEars124
AllEars124
July 15th, 2015 3:44am
Make sure you're electronics and food are put away about an hour prior to your bedtime. In addition, I usually inhale for four beats and exhale for eight and I repeat. (I'm a musician)
Profile: DivingDeep
DivingDeep
July 15th, 2015 4:51pm
Try to watch some videos on Youtube about the topic. Meditation, sleeping music...try it and see if it works :)
Profile: OrangeSlices
OrangeSlices
July 16th, 2015 2:57am
Count some sheep, listen to relaxing music, try some meditation methods, try sleeping in a very dark room to calm your thoughts and focus on your breathing! This is what I do when I can't sleep and my mind is busy, I really hope this helps~
Profile: evie1920
evie1920
July 17th, 2015 3:26pm
Try and listen to some calm music at night,or drink a warm glass of milk before you go to bed.This often helps a lot
Profile: Kittty98
Kittty98
July 17th, 2015 10:22pm
Try and write down your thoughts before you go to sleep, also you can try and not go on technology for an hour before you go to bed
Profile: awesomeShoe25
awesomeShoe25
July 18th, 2015 3:53am
I have found that if I am in this state, my facial muscles are not fully relaxed. Get up, walk around the house for a little bit and then lay back down. Make sure all of your facial muscles are fully relaxed, including the tiny muscles around your eyes, and focus on your breathing.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2015 6:21am
Think of a place that calms you. For example the sound of rain or the sound of a beach! As you think of this try and relax your body and drift into sleep.
Profile: dreamingFlower
dreamingFlower
July 18th, 2015 9:39pm
I would try meditation it truly helps as welll as calming music that makes your mind drift of to sleep and gets your thoughts away from the stress. I recommend nature sounds or meditation music .
Anonymous
July 19th, 2015 4:11am
I would definitely suggest guided meditation it can be really helpful. Or even just listening to music as you fall asleep may be helpful
Profile: gentleGemini82
gentleGemini82
July 22nd, 2015 3:33am
Reading a book seems to help unwind and relax your thoughts, if you read a book you are more than likely to get a peaceful rest and taken your mind off of your stress
Profile: Wolfgirl15
Wolfgirl15
July 22nd, 2015 6:12am
I've had this problem before. What I have learned works quite well is shut your eyes, and imagine a blue sky. Then imagine all of your problems being in a balloon and slowly floating away. It calming and makes you only floating on the balloons floating away.
Profile: VanessaD92
VanessaD92
July 22nd, 2015 2:19pm
Practice deep breathing. It can be the most frustrating thing in the world to learn, but once you have learnt it, sleep is so incredibly peaceful.
Profile: poptart99
poptart99
July 23rd, 2015 1:52am
relax like you are going to sleep and dont think about tomorrow or the past think positive about what youd like to dream about (: