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How do I know if I'm in love?

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Last Updated: 08/12/2022 at 9:20pm
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Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 4:17am
You feel it in your heart and you always have that person on your mind, and you feel happy thinking of that person.
MightyMango316
December 16th, 2017 8:59am
Back when I was younger I used to use 'like' and 'love' interchangeably. Now that I'm older and have had more experiences and have become more self-aware, I've realized that it's quite simple: I know it's love when I want for her to have whatever she wants in life.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 10:08am
Its a feeling you get when you are with that person and when they leave how you long for there presence again. It is the one person who can turn the most awful day into an amazing day
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 3:54am
Falling in love is such a confusing feeling. It's when you care for someone and can't stop thinking about them.
MayEverheart
January 13th, 2018 8:15am
Love is a really personal thing. It can have one meaning to one person but an entirely different meaning to another. It's a really complex facet of human emotion and as cliche as it is, you're the only person that can really know if you're in love or not.
RainLover
February 4th, 2018 6:49pm
You can't stop thinking about someone, keep replaying all the good moments you had with them in your head... You want to spend with them more time, get to know this person better and want him or her to be happy.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2018 12:43pm
Usually when you're in love, you become shy and nervous around the person. You'll feel your heart flutter and you'll get 'butterflies' in your stomach. you'll constantly think of that person, and they'll often make you smile.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 11:38pm
When friendship feels very special and unique and to feel like you’re the most important person in their life.
BrodieAlexander
April 12th, 2018 3:34am
Wow, What a tricky question. Love is so different than what I thought it would be. Sometimes it feels like butterflies and passion and other times it feels almost nothing at all. Love to me is devotion, to stand by someones side and not quit. It is almost less of a feeling and more of a choice. I think you know you're in love when you consistently decide to put their needs above your own in a healthy and positive way.
Eleuthromaniac
July 13th, 2018 3:20am
Love is a feeling, chemically activates by an external stimulus and the release of oxcytocin. To be in love is a commitment, to know it is when you find yourself including the other person into your life and caring for them as you would yourself. You’ll know when your mind constantly wanders towards them, when you find yourself involving into their life patterns, interests, and attributing to their personality. You start to morph as a pair when you become in love and it’s a beautiful thing to experience.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 8:38pm
It's different for everyone. Warm fuzzy feelings for some, practical choice for some, lust for some etc. Some say it makes you happy, but some experience grief with it too. Love has the power of making you experience best and the worst of the world.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 10:12pm
love feels different for everyone, don’t feel as though you have to validate weather what your feeling is love or not, just feel what you feel
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2018 11:30pm
When you're in love, you'll often find yourself thinking about that person most of the time. You'd want to talk to them, spend time with them and be close, and all their "flaws" don't matter to you. Whatever they might share with you, it won't change your feelings towards them, which is true love. People who are in love often think about their future with their crush, and if you and your crush are a couple already, you two might talk about your futures together long before any of it actually happens. Whenever you and your crush disagree or argue, you try to resolve the issue instead of blaming one another or simply choose the easy way out. You want to be with this person, and so your best to stay together
Anonymous
September 5th, 2018 12:31pm
Love is very difficult to distinguish from infatuation (I know I've personally struggled with this for roughly four years). I think one of the easiest ways to tell the two apart is to consider it as such: if this person makes you feel as good as you feel when participating in your favorite hobbies, you feel connected to this person, and if this person brings joy to you constantly without having to force anything to work -- I'd say there's a good possibility you're in love. Infatuation, on the other hand, causes distress, panic, and sometimes anxiety when thinking about or being with this person and can certainly lead to some rather toxic problems down the road.
DONOTBEAFRAID2113
February 4th, 2020 3:14pm
You'll know that you are in love when, the thought of the person sends you with the most amazing smile ever, when the thought of meeting them the next day is so soothing that if yiu're in pain, you'll forget that the pain existed, you'll feel the other person when they are arround you, when the person texts you, just a "hey!" and before that you've been having a bad day, you immidiately for get about the bad day, you'll see that when you're with that favourite person, hours would fly by but you'll have no sense of time, it'll feel like seconds. You'll know that you're in love when you feel their pain, be sad when they are and be happy when they are as if you are connected somehow. That was how it was for me anyways. It is different for everyone but one or two of the things ought match each other
Anaiviv01
February 9th, 2020 6:38pm
This is the general rule: love is so overwhelming and “different”, it doesn’t leave you with the doubt. So if there’s doubt, it could be love or it could be not. How to tell the difference? Don’t ask others if you’re in love. Everyone sees it differently and your best option is to take some time to elaborate your feelings better. Oh, and let’s not get stuck in labels and definitions: love is a special experience that starts with you and within you; people can see the difference from the outside but cannot judge your feelings — because they cannot put themselves in your shoes.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2020 1:55am
Knowing you are in love is when everything feels right with that person. You are comfortable and can tell them anything. There is an abundance of mutual respect and care for one another and you both are genuinely happy. There is also a great deal of trust between the two of you that reaches all ends. Being in love is different than any other love you have ever experienced for anyone. It also includes seeing a future with this person and knowing in your heart that it is meant to be. Love is love, and if you force yourself to be in love without feeling anything, then it is not true love.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2020 12:15am
You will feel like there is nobody else in the world. When you see them, they will light up the room. No matter what they do, you will always have a special place for them in your heart. If you feel butterflies when you are with them, you are probably in love. You will be happy when you are with them. If you are in love, you will feel alive, and like nothing else matters. If you feel like they are just there, you are probably not in love. You will love to be around them, and always want to be with them.
circusmirror123
April 8th, 2020 6:22pm
This is one of the things that you just know! Love means something different to everybody, and everybody takes a different amount of time to fall in love. Your definition of love may be completely different to what somebody else would define love as. For me personally, I know I'm in love when I trust that person completely, and when I feel completely confident to be who I am around them. When I'm in love I feel satisfied with who I'm with and I can imagine a strong happy future with that person. Being in love with someone makes me feel better about myself too! Again, you'll know when you're in love.
WrenSimon
April 12th, 2020 7:33pm
A lot of people believe love is a feeling. It’s actually an action. It’s a combination of care, respect, knowledge integrity, attention, affection, and open and honest communication. Many people who have not done the work of critically evaluating their attachment styles tend to confuse love with cathexis or lust. Love is love is love. We love our parents and friends from the same place we love our romantic partners. The tendency to over identify with our romantic partners and put too much stake in ownership/exclusivity and being loved in return. True love is unconditional and you will know it because you will want the best for them; even if they decide the best thing for them is not you.
Daniela27
April 15th, 2020 7:58pm
If you feel that you experience comfort and happiness by being around this person, and if this person is someone you would take care of or be concerned about their wellbeing, then that is love. For me, to love someone is to do anything for that person. I would talk to them often, ask how they are doing, develop a strong relationship with them, and see them smile and laugh. To be in love is to make time for them often. Falling in love is a wonderful sensation. There is harmony, peace, and infinite amounts of happiness. If you see yourself smiling constantly every time you see this person, you know you are in love.
LightfootListener
April 22nd, 2020 2:48am
That person will mean the world to you. You will see their name float onto your screen and feel happy about seeing it. They will make you feel at home anywhere, and make all of your problems seem easily manageable. Love is a hard topic for many people because they dont know what to look for, but when you find the person you are meant to be with you will know and it will make a world of difference. Love is a strong feeling too, not subtle like enjoying someones company or enjoing being around them, it is a feeling that when used correctly can change your life.
PsychoPhysics
April 30th, 2020 5:57am
When you're in love, you start seeing your crush as an extension of yourself, so when they're hurt, nervous or really excited about something, then you experience the same feelings as them. However, knowing you're in love feels different for everyone. Scientists have proven that there are actual signs for when someone is in love. For example, people reported having new interests and personality traits after entering a loving relationship from a study collected in 1995. Of course, if you're already envisioning a future with them, you may suspect you’re in love. However, those signals don’t always indicate that it’s the real thing. After all, in the beginning, your excitement around this new relationship can cloud your ability to see whether there’s real potential for a long-term relationship. For many, it just takes time and gentle care to know that he/she is the one.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2020 4:44am
No one else can describe your love for you. Its a feeling in your inner heart. Sometimes we are in love but we get it as love in a months time. People care for each other as friends, but love is beyond friendship and sometimes its selfishness too. Let the time come to your side, till that happens let her feel your tenderness, your love but don't go for passion. It's not love. Don't mix it up. Take care of her until she really understands your love. Girls usually feel the protection of a boy within weeks. She will understand you.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2020 5:15pm
Love is a magical wonder, and sometimes it just comes unexpectedly. When you find love, your heart will guide you and you will know. Like life, love has its own path for different people and has its own obstacles and milestones throughout its path, but falling in love brings you the utmost happiness and it makes you enjoy life, and makes you look forward to doing things you love. It also helps you realize who you are as a person and makes you see life from a different perspective. The answer to your question is in your heart and I can't say a definite answer, but love itself is a beautiful part in the journey of life.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2020 1:15am
This is a great question. It can be really tough to figure out whether or not you're in love with someone. Other emotions, like affection, fear, anxiety, and desire can get in the way. For me, love is about sacrifice, or giving things up for another person. If you are only infatuated with another person, you probably won't have a selfless desire to do nice things for that person, or give up your own time and resources for them. If you're trying to figure out if you're in love with someone, consider asking yourself how often you think about their wellbeing. Ask yourself how often you experience the desire to give up your own time or resources for that person, without getting anything back for yourself. Good luck; you've got this!
Asher
June 6th, 2020 7:16am
I would explain love as being with someone you can't live without. When I was younger I loved someone that i thought could be my whole future, but it didn't work out that way. I should also clarify that love takes time. You have to work at it non-stop for it work out. Love can make someone really grow as a person. It can be found when we aren't looking. But most importantly it change a lot of things. It changes us as people, changes how we interaction with people. It changes the stories of our lives, which is magically in it's own sense.
CalmCourage
June 7th, 2020 12:48am
Hey there, that is a great question! I guess it could be different for everyone but in my experience you spend a lot of your time thinking of them. Thinking what nice things you could do with them. You can feel you respect the person what they do and get excited by where they are going in life and want to help them in any way you can. You feel that excitement when you see them and can't help but smile. You laugh together and can tell one another things. You're not hiding who you really are with them. I guess in the first stages though you get the excitement, the nervousness the anticipation. Hope this helps.
Cajacks4
July 2nd, 2020 6:08pm
I know that I am in love when that person is the only person I want to talk to. When I go to sleep I wake up thinking about that person. I only want that person and I want to wake up next to that person every day. That person brings joy to your heart. You plan a future with this person and talk about the future with them. You know what makes this person tick. You can tell what the person is thinking and what they are feeling. You know what to do and what not to. You do not want to hurt this person instead you want to help them grow and see them win.
Hopeforjoy
July 8th, 2020 3:50pm
If you think about the person in a deeper way of understanding and wanted to have relation with them always....Feel uncomfortable when you don't have answer from them.. you feel so loved when they are around you even if they might not say by their words. You can even observe the changes in yourself regarding the thoughts and the behavior you will have when you talk or listen about a particular person whom you love. First of all you will be talking to them a lot of hours and the hours that you spent will be like seconds to you..