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Why do I feel worse after crying?

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Profile: PupperDoggo
PupperDoggo
November 10th, 2016 4:42pm
I have to say that I do not usually feel worse after crying. I usually feel exhausted emotionally and physically and I am ready to lay down and relax. I purge all of my high emotions through the crying and I am then able to think very clearly and rationally. If someone said that they do not feel better after crying I would probably ask them if they feel that the conflict that caused them to cry is resolved in any way. If not, I would ask them to reflect about the situation a little more.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 4:21pm
Because crying drains your energy, making you feel even worse as you were already emotionally drained, but also physically exhausted.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2016 3:44am
I also feel a lot worse after crying. And I have times where I cry a lot, and the reasons might be justified or not, but I always feel worse. People have told me I'm "lucky" because I "can" cry and they can't...for whatever reason...but that's because they would feel better after crying, which I don't. In any case - I guess it could be either of these reasons: 1) I see myself as weak if I cry (and I'm female), 2) I know I have absolutely no reason to cry, and most importantly 3) because I cannot control it.
Profile: CaringLotus
CaringLotus
January 25th, 2017 10:48am
Probably because you feel shy/shame because you were showing your negative emotions to the outside world. Most people like to present themselves from their best side to others. This forces our real emotions into a kind of bodice. By crying we actually showed what was really going on. When crying with one understanding friend I usually have not these kind of shy / shame feelings and the benefit of being comforted.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2017 2:18am
Spending time crying and getting feelings out is very important. Perhaps after you cry, that immerses you deeper in your experience or maybe you need to spend more time in touch that way.
Profile: scrollworm
scrollworm
March 16th, 2017 1:34pm
Because there is self-pity and guilt when you cried. To feel better, calm down and meditate. Listen to a soft music. Go to a quiet place. If you are ready, talk with someone.
Profile: Sofiasocial
Sofiasocial
May 4th, 2017 8:08pm
Sometimes this is because you feel weak, or that you have let down yourself or others. But you must always remember that crying is ok, you are not weak, infact you are so so brave and no matter what things will pass and you will be happy again.
Profile: Yneigma
Yneigma
May 10th, 2017 4:53pm
You tend to feel worse after crying do to the fact that an overwhelming sensation beclouds you. You mind and body is in between a state of being dazed and numbness, causing you to feel worse. However, after this act of crying/sobbing, you may need a moment to yourself to just breath and relax. Taking the moment to clear your mind after an emotional moment will make you feel a bit sad, but you'll have the time to restore your mind frame and proceed with healthy and sensible actions to the road of recovery.
Profile: SearchFor
SearchFor
July 23rd, 2017 5:17am
Crying can be highly carthatic but can also get you stuck in a cycle of dwelling and acting upon negative emotions. Crying expresses emotional pain but does nothing to actively resolve it by itself. Crying is natural but we have to move on afterwards and that is the challenging thing.
Profile: Tinkerbell8
Tinkerbell8
October 22nd, 2017 7:21am
What are you crying about? Is not reliving for you? Maybe the tension of crying could make you feel more vulnerable
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 3:50am
Crying is often a way to express how we are currently feeling but it can also pull other emotions from beneath the surface that you may not have known you felt.
Profile: emilyb1999
emilyb1999
November 23rd, 2017 2:35pm
you may feel worse after crying because it psychologically makes the person feel depressed, crying as a societies opinion is a sign of weakness however this is not the case.
Profile: InFairness
InFairness
December 16th, 2017 1:12am
There is a stigma attached to crying, that if you do so you are weak, dependent, an emotional mess etc. This is not true. Crying is a natural way to relieve tension in the body, a way to express oneself, and personally if you can cry openly then in my eyes you are a strong individual.
Profile: Northe
Northe
December 21st, 2017 1:09am
Crying isn't fun. It's messy and can be incredibly draining. Even so, the feeling after crying is significantly better than how someone would feel over a long period of time while keeping these feelings in. I know that sounds incredibly cheesy, but in my own in experience, this has always proved to be the case.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 4:26pm
Maybe your not getting the comfort you need or someone telling you it's gonna be okay when you do. Just be positive everyone cries and it's normal to express your emotions.
Profile: Natalia90210
Natalia90210
January 11th, 2018 3:07am
Sometimes we don't want to let others see our feelings, so whenever we cry (with or without people) we feel exposed, like if they would judge us. But we don't have to feel that way. I personally think crying is of the most beautiful acts of braveness. Because crying you can let your sadness/stress out, so there is nothing wrong about crying. It's actually good if you think about it.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 3:26am
It's because the problem is still here. It wont go away till its fixed hon. But its like that for everyone that have problems even me.
Profile: DragonWrites50
DragonWrites50
January 31st, 2018 3:55pm
For me, it depends on the reason why I'm crying. Sometimes, I feel that crying makes me feel better. It's a release of emotions that we are trained to keep in. I think that crying in some cases is extremely beneficial, because one notices that when one holds back tears, their bodies have a reaction that can be painful, such as tightening of the throat and tensing of the body. I think that we are hurting ourselves many times when we refuse to let ourselves cry. Sometimes, however, we feel that it isn't the time or place to cry, and so we have to hold back our tears...right? The stigma of being too emotional damages our ability to express our emotions healthily and properly. There are times, however, when crying does make me feel worse. Those are the cases, I feel, when the tears are just a lashing out due to holding in my emotions for too long, and so they are essentially wasted, because they are tears of frustration or anger, not tears expressing the true emotion that they were meant to express originally. Could be fear and anger then too, but being held back for so long, they are just an overflowing of all the emotions I've held inside. I think it comes from learning how to have a healthy relationship with one's emotions that determines if you feel better after crying or worse.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2018 3:17am
Crying is an intense emotional experience that takes a lot from us. It also brings many things to the surface that we may not have been paying attention to before. Many things can lead up to the moment when we finally cry, but often it is a build up to overwhelming emotions. When we cry we are fully experiencing our grief, sadness, frustration, and other feelings. We can't simply put those feelings back into a box and forget about them. Before crying, maybe it was easier to ignore the strong feelings. After crying, we are far too aware of how we really feel. Look at what you feel after crying, and think about why you might feel those things. It may give you clues to what you need to do next to find some peace.
Profile: HeartKnocksCounselling
HeartKnocksCounselling
April 5th, 2018 8:17am
Because crying takes a lot of physical energy from us. Crying is also often associated with negative connotations as being 'weak' or 'helpless'. Sometimes, after the cathatric release of tears, we may be faced with the reality in front of us again and feel worse than before.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 10:33pm
You generally feel worse before you start to feel better. Crying releases hormones and can be exhausting.
Profile: awesomeVision52
awesomeVision52
April 28th, 2018 2:51pm
A lack of emotional insight may restrict the mind's ability to transform an upsetting moment into something positive
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 8:22am
Sometimes crying helps you to get it out of your system. Sometimes it may not and you will feel worse afterwards. That is completely reasonable but if it persists, you should talk to someone about how you feel and what makes you cry. Or try to do something you enjoy directly after you cry, this may help
Profile: ClareBlissfulSoul22
ClareBlissfulSoul22
May 31st, 2018 2:11pm
This could be your attitudes around showing emotions. I used to think it was a weakness to cry and I would get angry and hide my face in shame if I cried. Later I learned this belief around showing emotions especially emotions like crying, sadness, anger was not welcomed by my mother so she would say stop, shut up, look at the state of you, you are a mess, you need help etc and I had unconsciously taken on these negative beliefs. When I accepted that emotions are not negative they are to be embraced. I started to enjoy having a good cry. Start gentle letting yourself cry at a movie. Listen to a piece of music that moves you to tears and see how crying is a form of expression from the inner parts of you. Embrace it as you would embrace a small child. Be gentle with yourself. You deserve it.
Profile: Catlover456
Catlover456
June 15th, 2018 12:32pm
After I cry, i feel worse too. For me its because crying makes me even more sad, it pulls me into more sadness. It may be different for you though.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2018 12:51pm
Because after you're crying you let out all of your emotions and of course you let your guard down every time you cry, that means you're in the most vulnerable state of yourself when you cry... And crying drain your energy
Profile: RiverOfDreams
RiverOfDreams
July 22nd, 2018 5:04pm
Crying takes a lot of energy. It's a release of endorphins which tries to bring you back up, but you may still feel the root of the issue is still unresolved or building up. Try to find out's going or change areas if you feel like you're experiencing an issue for more than 10 minutes. It might just mean you're not ready or able to deal with it right now and shouldn't push the issue with yourself.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 7:29am
You just tired you body out. It is a natural reaction to a strong emotions. You may feel worse because you may feel like you are showing weakness, which isn't true at all. It is better to let your etomtions out then to let them bottle up and mess with your life.
Profile: RumpleSteeleSkin
RumpleSteeleSkin
July 28th, 2018 6:18pm
Sometimes you feel worse after crying cause it drains you. All your negative emotions come piling out, and you cry more and longer and more intense. Crying is not a bad thing-honest. Crying allows your body to dump a lot of bad emotions in us. Hugs
Profile: quietday01
quietday01
August 5th, 2018 5:48pm
If you've just had a long, hard cry, you may be feeling a bit dehydrated and pretty exhausted. Crying is a completely normal way to express any emotions you may be feeling, but make sure to take some time afterwards to drink some water and wind down in order to take care of your body. :)