Why do I feel so numb all the time?
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I think feeling numb can sometimes develop as a subconscious defence mechanism to difficult circumstances. Having overwhelming emotions can be exhausting, and sometimes the brain just wants to shut down. Even though numbness doesn't equal happiness, it might feel more peaceful than dealing with certain emotions.
If you don't trust yourself, it's normal. Try to believe your soul and mind. And try be brave. It feels better.
Are you feeling numb from drugs? Dxm can make you feel nauseous and dizzy as well as numb. If not, try consulting a doctor or a professional about it if it continues.
There are many possible reasons, so I will address one that has been personally troubling for me. Sometimes, when you are experiencing many emotions at once, your brain experiences sensory overload. Consciously or subconsciously, you may then try to solve this by suppressing all emotion altogether. You just need to go through your thoughts one by one, and understand why you are thinking and feeling the way you are. Go one by one, and accept each feeling and thought. Don't try to convince yourself that you aren't feeling sad, or angry, or afraid. Understand that each feeling serves a purpose and doesn't control nor define you.
This is all of course assuming that sensory overload is the cause. There are many other possible causes, some being medically dangerous. See a doctor immediately if this numbness and is followed by seizures, strokes, trouble breathing, or persistent head pains.
You want to be told that you were hurt deeply. You chose to be numb. You can better choose to feel.
Once you use Logic, you'll exit your numbness.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2015 2:01pm
Sometimes we can become numb to disassociate from difficult feelings. This can happen after a distressing thought, or perhaps during a difficult period in your life. What I like to do when this happens, is to ask myself if I have had a distressing thought or memory recently that could have triggered it, or I reach out to someone to express and acknowledge how I feel.
Personally when I have feelings of numbness or apathy it really is due to some confusion. I think deep down we do actually care about our lives, the lives of others, but many things influence our path and direction that I think the numbness comes from being tired of hearing "you should do this" "you shouldn't do that" whether that's coming from external sources or your own internal thoughts. It is tiring and you go into a mode of stop stop stop I'm not going to try anymore, I'm done, and all of these things. So the thing that has helped me is first realizing this can be a cause of numbness. Other things that seem to help is looking back to when you did care about something, then go through what made you slowly not care about that anymore... again was that from other people saying you can't/making you feel you can't, maybe you had that one bad experience and you said I'll never try again. Once you breakdown the influences you may still have fears of moving forward and trying "once more" but first step is just look into what you want to pursue. Talk to others whatever form that is. Do the research and eventually you may regain a passion for whatever it is again. Or if you are numb from the relationships you have with others, I think the same introspective method still can work. Look at a good point you had with those individuals, look at then the things that occurred that separated you from others. No one is perfect so maybe you either look past the bad things that happened and forgive, or you can realize the friendship isn't worth it anymore (which is sad but sadness can be better than numbness as this helps to move forward). Whatever it is I think it is important to look back and analyze when you did care, find out what changed, decide whether you want to continue the path or move into a new direction.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2015 6:22pm
sounds like you are questioning the feeling you are experiencing constantly? or not feeling anything even, numbness?
Anonymous
June 21st, 2015 1:02am
it could be depression you could check on this site at the self help guides or take the test if you want to check
Anonymous
June 21st, 2015 3:44am
You may feel numb due to a lot of things. It really just depends what's going on in your life and holding you back from being really happy. You need to find what's making you upset, and change it or talk it out with someone to the best of your ability, and then change to be a happier person and not feel so numb!
Anonymous
June 21st, 2015 6:33pm
From my personal experience I feel numb when deep down I'm actually really really sad and I have let it get to the worse point which is when I don't know what to do about it and I stop caring about myself. The key is to make sure I don't get sad, and keep having distractions and happy thoughts and events.
Because it's far easier to manage feeling nothing than to feel more than your body and mind can handle. What happens when your computer screen gets overloaded with spam? You quit.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2015 8:44pm
You may be feeling numb because you are feeling a lack of emotion. I used to get this feeling accompanied with emptiness, because I felt that I was not doing anything productive that I enjoyed. Or, this feeling could possibly be a result of not knowing how to deal with a certain emotion. If you do not know how to respond to a certain feeling, sometimes it may seem easier to simply not feel any emotion at all.
Because, I don't feel loved. I feel like nobody cares, and nobody understands me. I feel alone really. There's no way to really answer this question, because the list goes on which is sad and numbing itself.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 7:36am
Physically or emotionally may I ask? Are you numb emotionally?
Why do you think this may be? Break-ups? Friends backstab you?
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 9:21am
Maybe you've been hurt so many times that things don't affect you as much as other people. you feel numb
Perhaps you have taken on so much that you are maxed out mentally. Numbness may be caused by anxiety. Anxiety numbness is actually very common - both physically and psychologically - and is often made worse by the anxiety that many experience as a result of that numbness.
Typically a person will feel numb because they're so overwhelmed with emotions that they can't organize and identify that their mind just diconnects. To make it easier to deal with until you're ready.
Sometimes in life when we get hurt enough or when we go through rough times a lot. we convince ourself that we don't care, this can sometime result in training your brain not to respond to much situations as we have locked it down. Because your brain is the source of messages, when it can't do that we feel like we re numb and we don't feel anything emotionally because we re not receiving any messages from the brain.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 6:59am
If anyone reads this who is possibly feeling numb inside I am so very sorry. Speaking from personal experience it absolutely sucks and I apologize for that feeling. Numbness can come from any sort of things but mine has come from years of bullying, self hate and depression that has not been helped except by my own means to be honest. But to ansser why you may feel numb is that something is missing or you use that to hide how you truly feel and need someone to talk with or about before that numbness becomes a part of you and will be so much harder to control.
Based on my studies and training, numbness can come up as a response to unresolved trauma and/or increased isolation due to depressive symptoms. Ways to break out of it depend on creating new coping skills that can positively impact brain function-hardwiring more empowering habits as opposed to negative behaviors that can leave us feeling stuck.
I frequently feel numb when I am so overwhelmed by too many things going on that I basically shutdown. It happens to me when I have so many things due and exams that I shutdown and feel completely numb, and the things that used to interest me do not, until I get a handle on things again.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 6:49pm
you are the expert of yourself. Maybe there was a thing or a person who made you feel this way.......
I feel so numb all the time because i got used to feel and deal all these problems and happenings. Even at times where I should be breaking down, crying and complaining but I just smile and talk to myself that it's ok, I'm used to feel like this and there's no point in crying, nothing will change my status quo. So, i will just go with the flow because things will be better and being numb all the time helps me to stop my urge to end my life.
When you are so used to pain you start to go with the flow, you let the pain take over your entire soul.
Emotional numbness is a common symptom of depression. If you haven't already, it's a good idea to seek help if you are feeling this way.
Usually when I feel numb, it is because I am thinking about every negative thing going on in my life all at the same time and trying to fix them all at the same time. It's a bit like trying to catch 10 markers that were tossed at me at the same time, and I catch none of them. Then I try and remember that if I just pick one, the yellow marker lets say, I can handle catching that one out of the crowd for now. The rest I will fix, one by one, in time.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 11:08pm
It could be because of sadness. When I feel really depressed sometimes I feel really numb. Sadness can do that kind of stuff to you sometimes.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 3:20am
It may be your way of coping, what you will have to do is develop a sense of empathy to finally feel emotion. Try charity or volunteer work. It's proven that when you help another you feel better about yourself. It will take some time but don't give up.
Feeling numb is an often overlooked sign of depression. It takes a lot for me to feel strong emotions and I used to think it was just my personality but it's not. Depression makes people apathetic to their surroundings by creating a feeling of distance from yourself and everything else.
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