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Tracy-Kate Teleke, PsyD, M.A., LMFT
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I assist adults and couples in CA experiencing relationship challenges and interpersonal struggles including anxiety, depression, and a myriad of other life challenges.
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Death is something that comes for everyone, and will of course be something that you think about. That being said, We don't know what happens for sure after death. That's why I like to try and focus on the living. For all we know, We've only got one chance at life, So might as well try to make the most of what were given. Enjoy the little things in life like sunsets, or a good song. Cherish the people around you that make you happy, Just take things one day at a time. If today is a rough day, Tomorrow is always a brand new day to try again. Things might look like all rainy and thunderstorms, But at the end of every thunderstorm, The sun always comes up and a rainbow might just make it's appearance.
Death is a terrifying thing indeed, one of my worst fears. I choose to embrace it, however. To do something worthwhile during my life that will make me proud and not afraid to die. To leave my mark engraved on the universe, to live every moment like my last.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2017 3:13am
think about life and what you love about it and just go and enjoy the simple things like your lover's laugh or a nice sunset
Thinking about death can be very time consuming and very detrimental to mental health. When you find yourself thinking about death, try to replace those thoughts with thoughts about people you love and care about. Remind yourself that you are important and valued.
Do you feel you absolutely need to stop thinking about death? I ask because, life and death, dark and light, can't exist without each other. Thinking about these things can lead you to finding your inner wisdom and learning about who you are. Obsessive thoughts about dying, however, can be dangerous. Do you idealize suicidal thoughts, or do you think about plans to die? If you're making plans, please reach out for help. Here or anywhere. You can't think about death if you're dead.
All people have anxiety about death, and it can be triggered to everyone. The fear about human inevitability is an overwhelming thing to come to terms with and more often than not, it can be all encompassing. Coming to terms with the inevitability to life is a hard step for anyone, but in the end, its not a bad thing to think about it, to think about what will happen to the people around you, and slowly come to terms with it is one of the only ways to truly confront it. Confronting the chaos and generating personal order throughout your thought processes can be very comforting and soothing throughout the journey of life.
There are lots of personal accounts on a multitude of medias that can help people overcome the fear of death, or at the very least be at peace with it. At the very least, living a life overcome by fear of death detracts from living a life that is whole and full of all the benefits of life itself. Finding peace in it, the fact that you will die, that the people who you love will die, and the people you've never met before will die is just a part of life, but its a part that you're not alone in fearing. Surrounding yourself with people who understand this fear, who love you and want to help you overcome this fear by being honest about it might be one of the steps, be it with your social network, or by looking on the internet.
Everyone is scared at one point of another and its normal, but living a meaningful life can help you overcome this fear, even if its gradually and at the very end, knowing you lived a life concentrating on life, rather than death will help you feel fulfilled and sometimes, thinking about the future, a little closer to now, rather than the then is the best way to handle your fear.
I am glad that you actually are acknowledging the reality of death unlike most people nowadays who think like they are immortal and they cheat , manipulate , take advantage of others for their own benefits. Would they do that if they accept that their time on this planet is limited and they are not going to take riches with themselves when they leave this world.
Reminder of death makes us humble , kind , generous , affectionate and compassionate towards mankind. It pumps in the feeling that we need to do something beneficial for the society , for our future generations. So I think ACCEPTANCE is needed to derail this train of thoughts that makes you anxious. Accepting the fact that you still have an opportunity to make you dreams come true ,to find the love of your life , to raise a child that treat others well, to leave behind a legacy that would be cherished by your successors. Quoting a thought of Chuck Palahniuk , " we all die . The goal isnt to live forever , the goal is to create something that will."
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 12:52am
Start thinking about life. Everything and everybody dies. There's no way of avoiding that. Living is a bit difficult, yes, but you get to live only once. Better to live, try and fail, then give up and die forever.
Look to the present, and look to the things you cherish. You have to know that you are significant and valued, and that you are surrounded by people who are very endeared to you.
You were not born to worry about death, every living being has to experience it, so why wasting your precious time thinking about it? Life is short enjoy it, embrace it, live it, live every second of it. Do the things you love, travel, eat, read good books, spend time with your family and friends learn new things, do good deeds, and most importantly love yourself. Life is really precious, just live it and stop thinking of negative things. Your life has a value, a meaning, if you didn't you wouldn't be here, so embrace it. Surround yourself with all the positive things in life. Feel every moment of your life
Think of all of the positive and things you are thankful for. Think of the people who love you and would be devastated when you left.
Up until just a little while ago, I used to be rather morbid. The theme of death seemed to surface often in my thoughts, conversations, and creative outlets. Everybody is different, but one of the things that helped me was just doing my best to surround myself with positive things. While I still do express my negative emotions, I don't encourage and embrace excessively death-oriented behavior. That translated more specifically as myself trying to limit the morbid side to my humor, artwork, and writing and also not reading, watching, or listening to really angry or depressing music. That might sound like I'm just shutting out my morbid side, but I think instead by doing so I'm able to focus on the more positive things in life :) .
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 7:55am
When you start thinking about your life, and all the things you can do and try. Life is all about experiences, so go and get some!
We were not born to die, at least not today.
Think about life. You get one of each. One you can somewhat control and enjoy... and one is simply inevitable.
Death is inevitable it has to come when it does don't think about it how just think it will when it will and live the moment
Figure out how it makes you feel when you think about it, figure out why you think about it and what causes you to think about it. Adress those feelings and situations. If you want to stop thinking about death it's up to you to make the mind-move from where you are right now to where you want to be.
The better your acceptance regarding death, the lesser it will bother you. Try thinking why you've been having these types of thoughts , and work on that . For example , it could be your anxiety fueling these thoughts , or some previous unprocessed trauma . There might be stuck feelings as well . Also , try identifying your triggers , introspect why the triggers exist , and get help for managing them if the activity which triggers you is essential , for eg driving . Otherwise , removing/preventing those triggers can be helpful in the short term .
When I find myself thinking about death, I don't try to fight it. Instead, I try to ask myself why I feel this way. If I can't seem to find an answer, I don't beat myself up about it. It is not my fault I feel this way and it isn't my fault for having these thoughts. It's okay to feel down at times. Sometimes, you just need to let yourself feel in order to move on. I can't control the hardships that the world throws at me, but what I can control is my reaction to the situation.
The best way I have found to stop thinking about death is to first distract yourself with anything art, cooking, cute puppy videos on YouTube and then continuing to be mindful and present.
Ok, on June 17 2020 I asked myself this question why do I fear death, cause no one has come back alive. So that‘s my reason for thinking about it. But as for you I have no information on why you may be thinking about this. These are my conclusions is that you want to die, or you just curious about death or that death is just something we learn to talk to ourselves about. So as for me when you want to stop thinking about something try to do something that prevents you from thinking of death. So probably no horror assassin movies or cemeteries ok. But to be real the thought of death is normal cause it’s going to happen. It’s something inevitable but there is always now, the present that we should worry about. So try to do other activities and learn that death is not something to be scared of cause it going to happen and that how life is. Wish best of luck with this. :)
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2021 6:05am
Death is something that cannot be prevented. A lot of people say that the moment you are born, your death is also decided. Thus, death can be scary and its normal to be scared. But the question is why worry about something that is beyond our ccontrol? Rather channel your thoughts on things that you can control in your life, to make things better, personal self-growth, etc. Diverting the mind is a practical way. Personally I too get scared when I think about death. However, thinking about something that is not predictable and uncontrollable is not going to make my life situation any better, it's rather gonna make it worse. Accomplish and go for whatever you want to do in your life
Best way to escape thought's of death is to help others. Keeping ourselves busy with something worth, something we love doing will help us celebrate life. That is my take on life. people will die everyday and fear death because ultimately they feel they havn't done much in their life. Once gets the sense of incomplete, something lacking in real life. If we can find purpose of our life and have the sense of completion then death is never a terror. It would be work well done. So keep celebrating every precious second of our life with purpose and gratitude.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2018 4:23am
Take time to focus on the big picture. Do relaxing exercises, and put time and energy into something beneficial. For example, you could take up sewing, exercising, or baking if you really wanted to. Just try and take the focus away from something negative. It also might help to talk to a therapist or close family member or friend. just talking about it might help. If none of these work you could seek advice from a psychiatrist or physician who might be able to provide medications that can make the thoughts more manageable. The journey itself might be hard but you have to remember to keep your head up! c:
i concentrate on all the things in life which have brought me joy, be it family, friends or time spent alone. Also through thinking of all the exciting memories that i have yet to make. life is a gift and i do my best to treasure it. I find something that would make me happy in that moment (usually food), or watching a movie, meditation also helps too!! I also try to distract my mind from those dark thoughts by talking to friends and family. it is very important to talk to someone, someone will always be there for you.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2021 6:49pm
I think the first question and the one I'm more curious about is "Why do you want to stop thinking about death?".
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I think there could be a variety of reasons one would want to stop. Perhaps you have a fear of death, in which case I'd wonder what you're afraid of and when and why that started.
Perhaps it's a trigger, then again I'd wonder, how do you feel when you think about death? Is there anything that caused that?
It could also be that you spend a lot of time thinking about it and feel stuck because you can't find an answer. Well, what questions are you asking yourself? What thoughts are you having? How did that start? (When, how, etc.)
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I think the first step would be to catch it when you think about it. Acknowledge it. If you're confused, sit with that. Act curiously towards your own mind.
https://youtu.be/vhurfjC72Hk [fear of dying, interview with psychiatrist, doctor]
You can stop thinking about death by thinking about the happiness and success you have gained in this life with the help of your friends and loved ones. Once you leave this world you do not get an option to return. And this is your life. You should not be thinking to give up on this life because of some issues which will be solved sooner or later. These issues are not so worthy that one may start thinking about death in order to get rid of these issues. You are precious and worthy and you can not that to yourself
Anonymous
May 5th, 2021 5:03am
It’s important to live in the now and to try and do things you love. Although death is inevitable, we should always try to live the best life leading up to it. Try new hobbies or meet new people, try to find things that make life good. Living it to the fullest is always really important. If you constantly think about when you die you won’t live it to the fullest, and you’ll regret that someday. To sum up, it’s always important to immerse yourself in things you love to do or try new things, and to surround yourself with positive people, so you can enjoy life. Don’t focus too much on death for now. Hope this helps
Stop thinking about death...that's a hard one. Personally, I do this a lot. It always comes back now and then. I think it depends on the person. For one, you could distract yourself. Learn a new concept, such as something school related. It helps to really indulge yourself into something. If that doesn't work, you have to think. Maybe there isn't a point to life if we're being real. But there isn't a point to death, either. There will be good times. Cherish those and look back on it. Some people don't have a single person to go to. You may be one of those people. I want you to realize who you have, or find someone to care about, and of course to equally care about. Find a reason to stay. Purpose isn't handed to us. You have to create it yourself.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2021 11:16am
Nobody likes to think about death, if given a choice. But when one does, its when they are going / have gone through something that deeply hurt them as an individual - emotional, physical, financial or otherwise.
To stop thinking about death, one needs to move away from that deep emotion. And if one has to do it all by themselves all alone, its exponentially tougher. The most successful or fastest way to get there is, ironically enough, is to remind yourself of exact opposite of death - That is "life". You got to remind yourself why your life is important. It could be for the people that love you or that depend on you. It could be for the beautiful things or experiences that you are yet to achieve or go through. And to do any of that, you got to be alive.
Life is universe's largest wonder. And you are lucky to be blessed with this wonder.
When we are lonely and feeling hopeless, our mind often drifts away and starts seeing things in a negative way. This often happens as well when we are idle. Although distraction is just a bandaid to our problems, this also keeps us from thinking of these negative thoughts. But talking about it with someone who can understand us better is usually the best way for us to appreciate life better. If we need help with this, it is important for us to reach out to the authorities so that we can cope with our feelings better. Another way we can do to stop ourselves from thinking or feeling this way is to remind ourselves of our goals in life.
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