How can I learn to control my emotions when I don't even know what they are?

Think of ways of coping. For example breathe in and out, or writing a story based on you, or even a story from random. Talking to your friends, family or teachers. Homework or studying. Basically focusing yourself to something else rather than your feelings.

It is all about learning what emotion is what, once you start to learn and understand your emotions, it may become easier to "control" them, If you don't know what they are you can't control them. Take care!!

Why do you want to control your emotions ? C'mon, emotions are meant to be expressed and if it's a positive one it may make ones day.

If you are teenager, just take it easy, emotions are like bubbles, first they are just flying around, flowing free, and then, boom, dissapear... Its magic :) we cant explain perfectly how our brains work, just give it time...

Be sensitive about yourself. You obviously can't control emotions if you are not aware of what's the root of a certain thing that leads to your certain emotion.

Personally I dance and it helps me to let my emotions out. Put all my power into my moves. Just to dance I feel weight less. When im angry or sad I dance.

You can control your emotions by relaxing. You may feel depressed or not your usual self and the best way answer is to calm down and take a deep breath. Also, express what you feel by writing, painting, or doing your favorite hobby.

This is a good one! Something I have found that helps for me is writing. I have several of those college ruled 70 page notebooks that one might buy for school, and I have a lot of pens. I basically always have a notebook that I am currently writing in, and whenever I feel a certain way, I just sit down and write for a while! This REALLY helps me when I can't seem to figure out what exactly I feel, but I know I feel bad. I might feel angry for what seems like no reason, which makes me even more upset! But, after writing about my day for a while, I eventually am able to write about why I feel angry. Writing has helped me understand myself so much, and it helps me calm down :) It allows me to say things that are hard to say out loud, and it is a place to get everything off my chest. I keep these notebooks private, and my friends and family respect that. I can also share my notebook with certain people if i choose so! It is really up to you what to write about and when to write. I start my entries with the date and time, and then just let loose! Sometimes I write in sentences, other times I just write lists of thoughts to get them all out of my head. I can always go back later and read what I wrote, and usually I can see even more clearly why I felt the way I did. It is all about learning yourself really, and getting in touch with your mind. With writing, I have learned to recognize patterns in my emotions, and I can see certain things in my life that affect me. It is a great feeling being able to calm myself down through writing. And I am usually able to come up with my own solutions to how I am feeling, therefore controlling my emotions better as time goes on. Maybe you can give it a try! If you don't like to write, you could also type a little bit of your thoughts out on the computer! You also don't have to save what you write, you could throw it out if you wished, but getting it out and getting a clear mind will definitely help you feel more in control! :)

Feel what your body is doing, tense or relaxed muscles, fast or slow heart beat, and shallow or deep breathing, and see if noticing what your body is doing helps calm extreme or long felt emotional states

The easiest way to control our emotions is to think of the consequences that we might have to face if we display them. You might not know the exact emotions going through you but you might have a general idea of what is troubling you. When I go through such moments, I take time to sit down, meditate for a while and try to organize my mind.I go through things that bother me and find out the exact reason for my distress.This helps me sort my emotions and if I know what is troubling me then I can go further ahead and try to find a solution to the cause of my unhappiness.

Accept the feeling even if you cannot label them and be nice to yourself. Trying to push against them will only make them persist.

Take a deep breath and realize you have all the time in the world to learn how to control your emotions. Take it one day, one hour, one minute at a time. Maybe find a hobbie, I like to work out when I'm feeling anxious and confused about my feelings, it really helps!

Its difficult to allow ourselves to feel our own emotions fully, and even if we do, in the moment that feeling is all there is - it's difficult to compare to anything else. This seems even more so when we are in a distressed mood, it absorbs us and it's hard to imagine anything else. For me it works to focus on my heart. For some reason that place can sum up a lot of my feelings. Try to find one word to describe in what state your heart is. Broken? Scared? etc. Then you can go from there to find what sort of help you might need.

Personally i think you're better off accepting your emotions rather than fighting them. After all, emotions are what makes you, you. Trying to understand what you're going through and what you're feeling can be very difficult. If you find that your emotions reappear after a specific event, try avoiding that event or anything that may trigger you to remember it. Stay positive.

It may sound a little cheesy but try meditation - just sit by yourself in a quiet room and focus on emptying your mind of everything. Close your eyes and just sit there for a while. It's even better if you can work it into your routine as a regular thing. Writing your feelings down can also really help you to get your thoughts in order which is really helpful for self-reflection.

It can help just to relax for one second, just stop and breathe. I then like to write down how I'm feeling at that moment and can establish what emotions I'm feeling and can then control them from there.

That's a really tough question am in the process of trying to find the answer to this question myself at the moment am just trying my best to work my way through that particular emotion at that moment although this is a hard thing to do

I understand what you mean. This is extremely difficult to handle, but you should try to breathe. Give yourself some time to just relax- try dedicating a half hour to relaxing and breathing deeply alone. You need to get over these emotions you are feeling, which may be very difficult.

By learning self hypnosis and mediation,a person can succeed to control emotions or atleast to tackle them better.

Okay, not knowing emotions is one of the meanings of depression so, the best way to control and manage your emotions is to understand yourself by searching deep in yourself and what's the stuff that makes you feel your emotions , you have to understand that everything is based in thoughts, accurately believing them, if you believe something this is gonna hurt you :| and will have effects on you . for example if someone calls you and tells you your house is burning you gonna turn sad and angry but if he tels you that he was just joking you gonna relax , that's only because you believed that your house was burning ... that's why you have to manage your ideas and thoughts and don't let them be like real for you, if you believe that you can succeed you gonna succeed!

Clear your mind and think logically if there is anything to be upset about. If there's not then distract your mind by taking on an activity until you feel better.

It's always helpful to distract yourself from it. Take deep breaths, inhale and exhale consistently. Stay away from all thoughts.

Emotional intelligence is a natural skill for some, but an acquired skill for most. Sometimes writing down your feelings, and sorting through them can be a helpful way to assess your emotions Talking with someone is always an extremely useful way to help learn what emotions you are feeling and how to control and deal with them.

You can learn to control your emotions by understanding what triggers affected how you were feeling.

Start of by trying to figure out what you are feeling, what is causing it, and who do you trust to talk to about this? Then go from there and figure out ways you can control, or just change how you are feeling by daily actions or by making bigger positive changes.

I recommend that you try to figure them out here or by talking to a therapist. Doing this would help you to know what your emotions are and what they mean and then you could take control of them.

The first step is to breathe in and out, and stay ourselves. Emotions are not a bad thing in itself, but sometimes we need to control them because of a specific situation, or because they are hindering our lives. Breathing in and finding peace helps us identify these feelings, and control them if need be.

Force youself to keep yourself busy with something that would make u happy or at least distracted from ur emotions till u get used to it and it becomes normal.

Just by listening to them, try and understand what they want to feel, listen to them. Just like you listen to a teacher or a friend.

Think about the triggers you're facing in that situation. Once you feel a certain way you may be able to compare that to a prior situation resulting to a possible motive for your emotions.