Why am I so scared of coming out when I know my family fully supports LGBTQ rights?
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You are worried how the society will react to you. But that doesn’t really matter. Because you have the most precious gift for a LGBTQ member, and that is your family’s acceptance and support. So don’t be afraid anymore to
taste the rainbow!
Anonymous
November 21st, 2017 9:10am
There is always the feeling of risk. Even to people you know will support you. Coming out is a very vulnerable experience. Its OK to feel anxious to be that vulnerable and raw to people. Just breathe. You'll get through this.
Anonymous
September 15th, 2015 11:14am
It's totally normal to be afraid to come out, may the family be to a very supportive or totally against it. I think the fear of telling your parents that you're not what they thought you once were can be very frightening, or being afraid to let them down and disappoint them. Though since your family is supportive of the LGBTQ community, maybe that is a small comfort, knowing that they already accept it even though you're not out yet:)
Anonymous
November 7th, 2017 8:20pm
It's possible that you think they will see you differently, and you don't want your relationship with them to change. If they support LGBTQ+ rights in general, it may be difficult to know if the reaction would be different from the principle of supporting LGBTQ+ rights to applying that to their own child
Sometimes it's very scary to be vulnerable about who you are to anyone, even if you know they will be accepting. If you don't feel ready yet, that's fine. Take your time, you will be you for the rest of your life! The most important thing is that you are comfortable sharing that part of yourself with your family, on your time!
As LGBTQ* people we face a lot of stigma and challenges that many don't. Even if your family is supportive, being open about who you are in the current political climate can feel vulnerable and daunting. If your family is supportive, you might consider coming out to them first and asking them to keep the information private until you are ready to share with the world at large.
It can be scary even if you know they will support you! Even if they support you, people tend to associate normalcy with heterosexuality.
its ok to be scared, nobody's journey of self discovery is easy especially when we reveal vulnerable aspects of our self to other people as well as the degrading homophobic influence that we experience from certain people , but you can take comfort In knowing that your family fully supports LGBTQ rights, take your time, be brave, and learn to accept yourself because if you cant how do you expect others to accept you. all the best :)
Maybe you doubt something or someone. Good for you to be ready before u fully come out and to know that yoou choose what u wanna be and you are happy and thats all that matters.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 3:58am
Just knowing others haven't been fully supported leaves the same thought in your mind whether or not you know your family supports LGBTQ rights.
Because it is a huge change, nevertheless. The thought of them still changing the way they look at you, will always be present, even if you know they'd love you the same. It's kind of a change in our life, that we now need to let others know about, and accept.
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