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(This one is for asexuals.) Why don't I feel sexually attracted to anyone? Am I broken?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 13, 2015
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No, you are not broken for not experiencing an specific form of attraction. There is no standarized test to determine sexual attraction (defined as a pull or allure towards doing sexual activities with someone); its all about how you feel. Lets say you never really felt like wanting to eat meat, you mihgt want to eat cake instead or chocolate or an other foods...its just that meat never seemed "attractive" to you, even when sometimes you might think it looks good or when you sometimes ate it the "spark" that made others go crazy about eating meat is just something that is not coded in you. And not experiencing that is totally okay. So in short, there's nothing wrong with not experiencing sexual attraction as their is nothing wrong with expiriencing either (or even experiencing it on rare ocassions). Being/Identifying as an asexual will not turn you into a unicorn, you will still be very much human as the rest and will be just as valuable and whole as the rest of us.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 18, 2015
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You are not broken. Re-read that as many times as you need to. You're not broken, there's nothing wrong with you, ignore anyone who tries to tell you differently because they are wrong. We don't feel sexual attraction for the same reason allosexuals do -- it's just how we are, whether by genetics or otherwise. If asexuals are broken, then people who don't like pizza are broken, too, and that's just silly. Lots of people have a hard time understanding us, which leads to acephobia we end up internalizing. It's hard to fight against it when so many refuse to believe we exist, but their ignorance does not make us less whole, nor does our lack of sexual attraction make our lives worth less. You're not broken. You're wonderful just as you are.
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Anonymous on May 3, 2016
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Nope! You're not broken, you just don't experience sexual attraction. That's cool, I don't either. You're awesome.
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Anonymous on Apr 25, 2016
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Sexual attraction is a way for species to reproduce and make new offspring which further reproduce and so it is a cycle. Now for humans, this is also true. However, due to overpopulation humans are evolving to becoming asexuals because their is so function and "need" to produce offspring at all. Hence, LGBTQ+. These are the groups of the future and the percentage of people not marrying at all has increase as well as divorce rates. Nonscientific scriptures state that being LGBTQ+ is the future "species" of humans in the future. So relax and be happy because you are the future of humankind.
Profile: brightWind53
brightWind53 on Jun 2, 2015
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You are not broken, and you are not alone. I'm a demi-pan-romantic asexual. Sexual attraction is not the same as sexual activity. Just because you don't feel the need to "tap that" does not mean that you are unhealthy or "broken." Some people aren't attracted to certain genders, and you just aren't sexually attracted to any gender. Sex is not love. You are human and perfect. I can't explain to you why you don't feel sexual attraction to anyone because it would be like trying to explain to my brother (aromatic asexual) what having romantic attraction is like. I can tell you, however, that you are not sick or broken, regardless of what you are told. Some people are homoseual, some heterosexual, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, (insert the lists here) and so much more. You're asexual. That's it. You are more than your sexual attraction, love, I promise. *Pardon my vehement response.* I hope this helped
Profile: TashHereToCare
TashHereToCare on Jun 28, 2016
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You are not broken. It is totally normal not to feel sexual attraction. There are so many people living like this and their happiness lies outside sexual intercourse.
Profile: Idontevencare
Idontevencare on Jul 2, 2016
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No. There's nothing wrong with being asexual, and while I understand it cam make you feel like an outsider in this sex obsessed world, it's completely natural and there's nothing bad about it. I'm asexual, and I'm very happy with that. You don't have to feel broken just because you're asexual, because you're not broken.
Profile: SylvanGrantaire
SylvanGrantaire on Mar 13, 2018
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Hi! I'm an asexual too! No, we aren't broken. I thought so when I was younger, but now I realize... we're okay. :) I enjoy how free I am to love (sexless love) so many more friends in so many more ways than if I got tunnel-vision on having sex with them. I view my asexuality as freedom! Love is like a soda in the bottle of life. Sex is like a glass. Sexual people pour from their bottle of love, into the glass of sex. They drink/receive love through the glass of sex. We asexuals are free to chug the soda/love right out of the bottle! We skip a step, and it isn't always socially acceptable, but we love too, and I find that beautiful! You and I are people - worthy and capable of love. Sure, we go about it a different way, but that doesn't make us (or them!) any better or worse. Let us rejoice in our free love, unfettered by the constraints of sex!
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supportiveCupcake42 on Dec 14, 2015
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No, you're definitely not broken. Asexuality is perfectly common and I know many people who aren't sexually attracted to anyone. Remember asexuality is so common and very natural, don't sweat it!
Profile: cynderislame
cynderislame on Nov 1, 2016
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No, you're not broken at all! It's like how some people are sexually attracted to some genders and others aren't- asexuals just aren't sexually attracted to anyone. And that's perfectly fine! It's very important to remember not to blame yourself or to think you're broken, and to work your hardest to accept the person that you are.
Profile: Floral
Floral on Feb 10, 2015
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Not feeling sexual attraction towards people is completely normal! Just as feeling sexual attraction is normal too. Asexuals don't feel sexual attraction towards people at all, but it can change throughout a persons life. It could also be due to depression or other issues. So if it's something that bothers you or you want to change, you can always speak to your doctor about it.
Profile: Herequeerandcheering
Herequeerandcheering on Nov 24, 2015
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That's just who you are. Nothing is wrong with you. It's normal to feel this way. Your not alone. You are not broken.
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SnoOnTheBluff on Oct 24, 2016
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You are not broken! You are a wonderful whole person who experience life differently! This is not bad! In fact I have found that being asexual leaves me time to think of lots of other things.
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marquesBloodbrother on May 8, 2017
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No! Of course not! It is normal for people to be asexual. I don't know what makes us asexual, but it's probably the same reason some people are gay and others aren't.
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naturalBlossom98 on Apr 30, 2018
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You are not broken. You are a human being who is attracted to other things, like inner beauty, physical attraction, emotional attractions and other amazing things about people. A lot of people don’t experience sexual attraction and this is a common occurrence.
Profile: Fairy
Fairy on Aug 25, 2015
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Not at all. Nobody is broken, and not experiencing sexual attraction is certainly normal. Some might say common, in fact :) There's a large asexual community out there that only feel romantic attraction towards people IF THAT! There may be no specific reason why you're not sexually attracted to anyone- that's like asking why your hair isn't naturally blue or why cats aren't born with wooly hats. It's natural and you should embrace it and certainly not be ashamed of it ^.^
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 6, 2017
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No of course not, just like some people prefer men or women or both etc, some just don't and it's ok
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Anonymous on Nov 19, 2017
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Not even a little broken. It's so easy to feel like you can be, though! I really get where you're coming from. Being attracted to people is honestly hard to explain. It might have some biological factors, if you still want to look it up. But at the end of the day, you are who you are, just like bisexuals are bi, transgenders are trans, and queers are queer. It's one of the little-lovely things that makes you YOU
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 21, 2017
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You're not broken! You belong to a beautiful community of asexual people and we all accept you for who you are!
Profile: EveMarshal
EveMarshal on Feb 14, 2017
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Nope! you're not broken, maybe you're not type of a person that's usually into it, unless you found the right one that suits to your taste and preferences,
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