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I don't identify as either gender consistently. What does this mean?

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Anonymous - Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
April 10th, 2015 10:00pm
Essentially it means whatever you want it to mean, but I would guess you might relate to the idea of having a fluid gender, which is a gender identity that can change depending on the day. There might be a particular set of genders you switch between, and they may be drastically different, or they may be similar. There is also gender flux for if you find your gender more fluctuates rather than changes completely. Also keep in mind "either gender" isn't accurate, as there are far more than two genders. Your identity may lie somewhere on the non-binary spectrum -- genders that aren't wholly male or wholly female. These identities include being genderless, as well as terms that describe being partially one gender and partially another (or several others). Gender identity can be really confusing, but it's okay if you don't know what label suits you right now, which pronouns you identify with, if you change your mind later, or if you don't want a label at all. It's okay to take your time figuring it all out. Your feelings are real and valid no matter what.
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Tias1899
February 8th, 2015 6:03pm
The term for this that's usually used is Gender Queer, which can be an umbrella term or an identity. If you feel like you flip flop between genders, it's likely you're gender fluid. If you feel like you identify as neither, it's likely you're genderqueer. Remember any and al identities are valid and whatever you feel is who you are is right :)
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melodyowl130
April 3rd, 2015 4:04pm
This could mean many things - you can be genderfluid [your gender switches constantly between any gender], or maybe even agender [identifying as no gender].
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Anthony563
January 12th, 2015 6:46am
I would most likely think that you're Non-binary which means gender identity that don't fit within the accepted binary of male and female. People can feel they are both, neither, or some mixture thereof. Though it's really up to you what you'd like to label it as, you don't even have to label at all.
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Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
July 8th, 2019 1:59pm
That would mean that your identity fits the non-binary spectrum. Being non-binary means not identifying 100% as either male or female, and that's a totally valid identity!
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 9:35pm
Not identifying with either gender means just that! There are terms such as gender queer, gender fluid, and more if you're looking for a definition as to what you feel that you could be.
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ceruleancacti
November 13th, 2017 2:42am
It means that you are genderfluid and identify with qualities perceived as both "feminine' or 'masculine' depending on the day, hour, minute, etc. You have the freedom to not be boxed into a gender binary. In fact, some would argue there are infinite types of genders, versus just male and female. This means you are fluid with your gender identity.
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effectator
October 9th, 2017 8:03am
This could mean several things. Maybe you don't feel comfortable with the way you present yourself in terms of your gender, and wish you could look a bit more masculine/feminine/androgynous. That could mean you're experiencing a bit of gender dysphoria. Maybe you sometimes you feel secure as male, sometimes you feel secure as female, and sometimes you feel secure as neither, or both. That could mean you might identify as something like genderfluid, or genderflux. Maybe you just don't feel like "male" or "female" apply to you, and you might be agender/non-binary/etc. The first step to discovering more about your gender is to ask yourself: What would make me happiest? Would you be happier if people referred to you by different pronouns? Would you be happier if you started wearing skirts, or started wearing a binder? Would you be happier if people started referring to you by a different name? For some people like myself, sexuality can be easy to figure out. I know I'm pansexual and can be attracted to anyone. I'm still, however, trying to learn about my gender. All you have to do, though, is keep learning and surround yourself with people that want to help and encourage you to learn about yourself.
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BalancED
July 31st, 2017 1:51am
It can mean whatever you want it to mean. That may sound vague, but the gender spectrum is so broad that often people just choose whatever term means the most to them! I have friends who identify as agender that sometimes feel pulled towards male, female, or other. Others identify as genderqueer, or genderfluid. Taking the time to read about the different gender concepts can be a great way to find what works for you.
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marquesBloodbrother
May 8th, 2017 2:44pm
There are many different genders. Some people identify as both at once, with one sometimes being stronger than the other. Some people, like myself, switch in between genders, which is called gender fluidity. You can look up "List of gender identities" and read to see which one applies to you
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Jason144
July 4th, 2016 8:44pm
It means a person is Agender, which means they don't identify as male or female or any other gender.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87
June 27th, 2016 8:55am
You could be Bisexual or some other gender you can google to know more about different types of gender and what they mean to be sure.
Profile: freshLove97
freshLove97
June 13th, 2016 3:50pm
We all have a lot of different traits. No man is 100% manly, no woman is 100% feminine. This is normal.
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Probius
May 24th, 2016 7:22pm
It might mean that you are gender fluid. Some people's gender identity changes over time, and can be one thing one day, and something else on another day. This is okay, and says nothing bad about your character.
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Mark5
March 7th, 2016 9:20pm
It could mean that you identify as genderqueer or genderfluid. Typically people who identify this way feel masculine on some days and feminine on others, or neither! Often they will prefer gender neutral pronouns or use the pronouns depending on how they identify that day. Perfectly okay to identify this way!
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GentleShadows
March 1st, 2016 7:47pm
You may be genderfluid, dear! And I know how that feels. Gender fluidity can be a little odd at first, but once you get used to it, it's easy to deal with. I, for example, have found a pattern in the fluctuations in my gender. Of course, you could also be some other form of non-binary too.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2016 9:56am
It means you might have a gender identity outside of the gender binary.
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ashbradbury42
February 22nd, 2016 6:50am
It means you are gender fluid. Your gender changes frequently. It's perfectly normal. There are plently of online resources for nonbinary people.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2015 6:57pm
Not identifying with a single gender is usually known as being gender fluid or non-binary. It can be scary to think about it, and it can be even scarier to talk to someone about it. Starting with someone you're close to can help. If you're worried about talking to somone who knows you so why not chat to a listener anonymously!
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amazingHeart17
November 29th, 2015 7:07pm
Well there are actually a lot more genders other than just male and female. You could be genderfluid, non-binary, bigender, trigender, etc. You don't have to rush to put a label on yourself, but just know that there are plenty of people who identify the same as you do, and not defining with one particular gender is completely normal!
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CupcakeAce
November 27th, 2015 1:09am
you could be genderfluid, which means the gender you identify with fluxuates, sometimes on a day to day basis.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 3:09am
It means whatever you'd like :) It could be that you're non-binary, or genderfluid. You identify as whatever you identify as
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oopsolie12
September 14th, 2015 12:49am
with personal expericence it can mean that you are genderfluid or another gender but i can't lable you. you know you (:
Anonymous
May 30th, 2015 3:16pm
You could be still trying to figure out who you are or you could be agender / non-binary. Give yourself time and you will soon figure out who you are.
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plumnectarine
May 17th, 2015 11:56pm
That would mean you're gender queer or gender fluid or whatever. You don't like the boy or girl labels that much, that's cool
Anonymous
April 15th, 2015 9:44pm
This could mean that you're still figuring out how you identify or it's totally possible to be gender fluid, or agender, or many other labels. Don't limit yourself and give yourself plenty of time. :)