How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm transgender?

This is a tough one but one that must be handled nonetheless. If telling him that you are transgender results in a breakup then it would have ended soon anyways. Not telling someone that you are in a relationship with that you are transgender is not fair to either party. Having the boyfriend find out by accident or from friends is never good and could end up very bad if tempers flair. There is no excuse for violence but it is a real possibility. The easiest answer is get out ahead of this, get all the cards on the table and deal with whatever the outcome may be.

Well, there's no need to be afraid because when a human being loves you, it's because of your personality and not your face. But I definitely understand if peoples feel insecure about it. So, if I were to be a transgender, I would want to make sure that my boyfriend is open towards the LGBTQ+ community. If not, then I'd introduce him to it and slowly get him interested and lets him accept it in a whole. After that, I would slowly reveal myself to him by telling him about my past and that I'm not born into the world like that. But if I were to be safer, I would've told him the moment he confessed to me that he likes me just to prevent any conflicts.

Personality, I told my boyfriend I was transgender when I truly knew he loved and trusted me, my relationship worked out but I suggest asking him about it seeing his opinion on the matter, he might dislike them maybe not tell him or do, it depends on the guy your dating. My relationship worked out for the most part, I first asked him his thoughts, then deduced that he's fine with transgenders, hint at it for a week or so then tell him, the out come is different for every man but it just really depends, you do you though if he doesn't like that about you then he's probably a bad boyfriend.

You shouls start telling him the way that it feels to be born in the wrong body. Explaining how your insides feel different from your the outside of your body. Besides that you should try to explain how this is not going to change the way you think, since it's just going to be part of yourself. Also, you should try and get to an agreement and see if he is willing to stay in the relationship, since things are going to get some kind of though on some aspects. In case that he doesn't understand completely and would rather stay away from the relationship, you should try to explain the way you would like him to stay as a support on the process that you are going to get into.

I would just tell him how it is. If he really loves you, he will accept you. Make sure to give him time to process it and answer questions he may have. He's more likely to accept you this way! A tip on how to come out to anybody is waiting for the right time. Let's say it's Christmas if you celebrate that. Don't tell them while you're opening the presents! Maybe wait for a secluded time afterward. Another tip is if you're too tongue-tied, write it down. you can read it off while talking to him or leave a note where you know he will see it. You can then spend a few hours at a friend's house while he processes it a bit. Amazing job on building up the courage to come out! It's very hard to do and I respect that. I wish you the best of luck! You got this!

Sitting down your significant other and telling them that you're not who you appear to be is a nerve-wracking experience, but hopefully this will help you or anyone needing to come out and be who you truly are. First, make sure to set the stage. Don't just bring it up randomly at the end of a conversation, rather try and make the focus of talking to your boyfriend at that point be "coming out". As for actually saying "I'm transgender", you can either say it right from the get-go, or have a lead-up to it. Either one works depending on the dynamic of the relationship, but make sure that you hit these points: a) you are transgender (and explain what that means, because you'd be surprised how many people don't actually know), b) what your future will look like (explain your transition as you see fit) and c) what implications that could have on your relationship. Make sure to hit home that in order for you to be who you truly are, you HAVE to do this but that you want your boyfriend to know. It's hard to think about, but be aware that for some people, having a partner come out as trans is a deal breaker in a romantic relationship, but for others they are fine. I'm Female to Male transgender, and when I first came out to my girlfriend at the time (who was a hardcore lesbian), surprisingly she loved me enough that she was willing to let me transition and change how she identified (to bisexual) because even though my gender was changing, who I was fundamentally as a person was not. Coming out is a colossal step to take, and in order for it not to break a relationship apart, communication is CRUCIAL. If your boyfriend is willing to stay with you through your transition, keep in mind they have to go through a small transition themselves, from having a girlfriend to a boyfriend (or boyfriend to a girlfriend). They'll be doing some soul searching as they grieve the loss of one person and the birth of another and this is normal. Hopefully this little blurb helped whoever asked, as it's what I wished I heard when I was coming out.

I do understand that this is something that is very difficult to deal with, but the very first thing you should have told him was that you are transgender. It is very dangerous being apart of the transgender community and keeping a secret like that from your partner. Everyone is different, but their have been some cases where people don't act appropriately after finding something like that out. I can't tell you how to tell him, but please make sure that you do so soon. Just be honest with him. If he is wroth anything he will understand. He may or may not stay with you, but he may respect it.

Sit down and have a calm conversation. Tell them in a quiet setting at a time when you are both having a good day. They may show responses of shock, maybe be upset, confused and they might have some questions. Prepare yourself for the initial shock and for the questions that might come your way. Just because he might initially respond that way it doesn't mean that he doesn't care or love you. Think about what you want to say to him and how to say it. It might be scary but once it is said then you will feel a huge relief.

You can try by giving him a clue about that first, and see how he react. If he seems ok with that, try to have a sit with him and talk slowly and explain yourself carefully s that he will not misunderstand. If he shows not a really good reaction at first, you have to find a better and soft way to tell him, so he will understand and not feel mad or something. And make your position clear so that you can explain yourself and why you not telling him since the first time. Good luck for it

Choose whatever you are more comfortable with, whether that's texting, calling, or seeing in person. And before you spill your nice tea, I think it would be a good idea to establish some foundation with him, asking whatever has been on your mind to secure that you are comfortable with him. The slightest green light, you should go for it! Love who you are because you are awesome! Your feelings are as important as his are to you. I admire the journey you are on, I hope you encourage yourself on the daily because you deserve it! Just be you, that's all a person could ever ask for.

Well, it's a very personal decision. You can catch them off guard, or you can plan the whole thing out perfectly. Whatever you do decide, I recommend that you use a scientific explanation to explain your transsexuality. Tell them that you have gender dysphoria, and explain what it is and why you needed to take the steps to feel right in your body. Stay calm, and get ready to answer a lot of questions. Do not get defensive, and try to respect the fact that they might have some tough questions and could become confused or angry. Just be positive and open. With all this said, it is important to go out and meet people. Pushing people away won’t make you feel any better or bring you any happiness. Don’t be afraid to develop feelings for someone just because they might not accept you in the end. Putting yourself out there and making yourself vulnerable is the only real way to find love and make lasting relationships. And in the meantime, just continue loving yourself and being the only person you need to make you happy.=)

Decide what you need to tell your partner about your identity. You can do this by planning what you would like to say ahead of time. If you are nervous that you will forget or get off topic; you can write down the things you want to talk to your partner about. Be honest and direct. Gather as much information as possible to discuss with your partner. Some people know little about the life of a transgender person. You may need to help your partner understand. You can tell them stories and carefully explain your situation. Explaining your needs can also be quite helpful. Choosing a calm, private and relaxing time to talk can also be helpful. You can also try practicing the conversation your going to be having before hand. Most importantly; try your best to practice some self care. 😊

Wait for a calm time when emotions aren't running rampant. This can make a conversation smoother and help you explain with less interruption. When you do tell him, just be honest. Explain to him that your body and mind are not in agreeance. You know yourself better than anybody. If he does not accept you for how you are, maybe he wasn't the best person to be with anyways. It would be the same as not accepting someone because of their eye color, weight, or skin color. Being trans* cannot change just because someone wants it to. If he doesn't love you for who you are, mayhaps he only sees skin deep. There are many people in the world and for one bad reaction, there will be at least one good one. I wish you the best of luck. Stay strong.

It is always best to be in a comfortable, open environment. You may also want to explain to him what being transgender is all about. Once you feel he understands, tell him softly that you are thinking that you might be one yourself. It is always better to ensure he feels that he is part of your transition. Once you have told him, give him some space, as this is big news and he will need to prosess. It is better to consider the possibility that he will not accept you before hand, even though it is unlikely, it can happen. If it does then it is important to remember that if he loves you for who you are, then this is part of that and it's up to him to accept you. There is nothing wrong with you, you are an amazing person. Never forget that.

My first advice would be to be completely out to yourself first. Knowing who you are and being confident in your identity can be extremely helpful when coming out to others. I would recommend doing it in a quiet, private space that you can talk comfortably in. He might be confused or sad or any number of other feelings and you have got to be prepared for that possibility. His feelings don't make your feelings and self-identity any less valid though and no matter how he reacts it's important to know that. I wish you the best of luck, Ency.

Hi! The truth isn't always easy,but it is what it is. If he doesn't accept you for who you are,that's on him. You are amazing and will find someone amazing him or someone else. He also deserves to know the truth and he will either accept it or not,but whether it is good news or bad news,you can trust that the 7 cups of teas family will always be here for you 24 7 and we are ready to hear everything you offer to tell us. Good luck and make sure to catch us up on the news after.Bye!

Coming out as transgender to your boyfriend can range from scary and difficult to exciting and liberating. It’s different for everyone. There’s no one right way to come out. When you decide that you’re ready to come out, give yourself time to think through how you’ll do it and what you’ll say. After you decide what you’ll say to him, and how you’ll say it, be prepared to wait as he digests and accepts the new information. Give him the time he needs to think about and try to understand what you’re going through. Don’t assume that everyone will react negatively. Some people may surprise you with their openness and acceptance. That is all that you have to keep in mind! I hope this gives you the confidence to come out to him. Wishing you the very best!

I have been through this exact situation. What I did was I asked them what they thought of transgender people and the LGBT community. If I got the positive answer then I'd ask them what would happen if someone they loved was transgender, if they came out with a positive answer like "I'd love them the same no matter what." Then at the end of it I'd ask them if they loved me no matter what. If it was a yes then I'd tell them. If the first two questions were negative then I wouldn't ask or talk anymore on the subject but that also meant I'd have to review my options as to my future with them. Remember though and let them always know that you're still the same individual that they know and love you have just shown another aspect of yourself.

Be honest. In relationships, honesty is one of the most important things you can have. It builds trust, and hiding things from the S/O can cause stress, unnecessary worry, bitterness/resentfulness towards oneself for not being able to say what they want or need to. Have a sit down with your S/O and be honest with what you need to tell them. Know their views on the topic and be receptive towards their decision and reaction. If you are too nervous, or in some way unable to say what you need to, write down what you need them to know and let them read it. It could help to have gentle music playing on a low volume so there isn't any silence, as well. Be understanding and patient with him, and know that he will likely need some time to process the information.

First off, you need to respect the way this would make him feel. If he isn't attracted to the opposite gender that you are transitioning into, then it's likely that the relationship won't work out. And that's okay. Just sit down with him and explain what Gender Dysphoria is and how it is effecting you, and what your transition would mean. If he respects you, whether or not you stay together, then that's great. If he doesn't, then he isn't someone to stress over. I recommend explaining the biological cause of your mental condition and how transitioning is your treatment for this condition.

I think honesty is probably the most important foundation of a relationship. The best way would be to be as transparent as possible but at the same time, one would need to be calm and patient and give the person space to fully understand this. It's important to be aware that people may not initially react well but if given space and time, they may be able to understand and get around it better. I also think that this something that should be discussed quite early on in the relationship, just so both individuals can go into the relationship with full disclosure.

you meet up with him in a quiet place like a costa or starbucks and maybe order a drink and tell him that you are transgender. break the news slowly and be calm as it can often be difficult for other people to understand as well as difficult for you to have to explain it. make sure he understands what this means for the relationship and the two of you to avoid awkward conversations later on. if it makes you feel more comfortable tell a friend first and bring them with you but try to not bring too many people

Telling someone that you are transgender can be difficult, especially if you are unsure of how they will respond. All of us want to be loved and accepted for who we are, so it is natural for you to want this expression of you to be received positively, especially by the people you care most about. One of the best practices you can try for when preparing to tell your boyfriend that you're transgender is to ensure that you have open and honest communication between you. Do you feel like your boyfriend is open and honest with you? Do you feel like you are able to be open and honest with your boyfriend? Do you both feel comfortable sharing intimate aspects of your lives with each other? Knowing that solid communication and a strong support system is there (or starting to establish both of those aspects of the relationship) is a great first step. It also helps to have external support systems (meaning, support outside of that primary relationship) to help you on your journey.

It's best you do it in person, and in public. Understand that no matter what he says, you'll have to accept it. I'm a trans guy and I understand how hard that conversation can be. When it comes down to it however, you need to hope for the best and then prepare for the worst. If he does end up breaking up with you, please know that you have people here to support you, and you can always reach out to me or another listener here as well. I hope it all ends up okay for you, best of luck!

It might seem scary, but being upfront and honest is important in this situation. Sit him down, face-to-face (if possible), and explain as best as you can. Prepare yourself for a line of questioning, either out of curiosity and try to maintain your composure (though it's hard in emotional situations such as this). Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst, if he is not accepting, you do not need him. Also, what helped me to come out was talking to friends that knew of my situation. They supported me unconditionally and I believe this would help you a lot as well.

I think the hardest part about being trans was opening up to my partner and letting them know that I needed to physically transition. I had so much shame inside me about it, I'd kept it in for so long and convinced myself that I was crazy or abnormal, or that my whole world would collapse if I said those words. I guess I had to do two things, both say I was trans, and let my partner know that I needed to physically transition. In the end, I just related it to something I did - I said you know when I do ______, well it's a bit deeper than that. I've struggled with this for years, but I'm struggling to keep it in any more, I'm actually trans and I need to physically transition. That kind of opened the door to it, and a lot of feelings that I'd kept hidden. It was a relief to be honest at last, and to work as a team to help manage things together.

You can sit them down and tell them in a calm manner that you are more comfortable being transgender and it makes you feel happier and like yourself. Make sure you tell them( your boyfriend) how important it for you and in no way they are responsible for it and explain to them it is your personal choice. Elaborate your reason, make sure you tell them in a way that they don't feel excluded nor do they feel like they're in the wrong. You can ask them their thoughts on this matter and try to work out the matter taking both yours and theirs opinion into consideration

I know it's hard to tell him and i've never had to deal with this so I don't exactly know how to relate how you feel. But I can tell you and myself believe in yourself. Don't put yourself down just because you are transgender. I have people like that and it's sad to see the way they are treated just because they are a different sexuality. I want to help people to not feel alone. Knowing that they aren't alone. We believe in everyone and that it may be hard but we are here for you to help you understand yourself and how to help yourself.

I told my ex by first just slipping how he felt about transgender people as a whole into a conversation. It helped me to establish first of all whether he was transphobic or an ally. That is probably an important step to take because otherwise you could come out to find he is a transphobe, which could be damaging. Then I began to subtly ask about how fluid his sexuality was e.g. how he felt about dating enbies, masc females, femme males, and finally, transgender individuals. Knowing how fluid he is with the gender identities of his partners allowed me to assess the probability of him staying with me and reacting positively to me coming out. Then, finally, come out in a nice and quiet area where it's just you and him and where he has the option to go and leave to think about it and fully understand the gravity of what you have just told him. Don't be offended if he wants time alone, it's natural he will be potentially shocked by this information and will want to think it through. Good luck!

The way I did it with my boyfriend was ask him if he had any trans or at least LGBT friends or family. This is a good way to "test the waters", so to speak, and find out how much he has supported the transgender community in the past. Then, remind him that you love him, and tell him how your gender identity has made you feel, how long you have been transitioning or considering transitioning, Let him know about pronoun and name changes, and make sure you are patient with him as he adjusts to your new identity! As long as you are loving and direct, your boyfriend is sure to understand and help you in any way he can.