I'm love with my best friend, but she's straight. What do I do?

Being in love with someone who doesn't return your feelings is hard. Only you can decide if you want to spend time with her, knowing she's not going to return those feelings, or reduce the time you spend together so it'll be less painful for you. Either way, if you truly care for her, you'll be gracious in understanding that her feelings don't mirror yours. Some people in situations like that manage to build strong friendships, with just a bit of wistfulness underneath - much like someone knowing that they can never share a steak dinner with a vegan friend. Others find that too painful, and move away. There is no right answer; the important part is to recognize your feelings and accept hers, even if they're very different.

Hmm that's a very tough situation to manoeuvre. My suggestion from personal experience is you can never hide how you truly feel. In fact, there could be a chance they may already be aware. If you are honest at least you are not lying to your self. It is probably one of the toughest things to deal with is your feelings, but the best thing is if you just let them know what's going on. If they are your best friend chances are they love you one way or another so be honest to yourself and to them.

I came out as pansexual in the 9th grade, my freshman year. My bestfriend at the time was an open lesbian. She truly was in love with me, at that point. I let her down easily, and she still depended on me as a very close friend. The best thing for her to do, was to accept the way things were, and to modify herself and her actions to make the situation work best for her. She knew I did not feel the same, and accepted that. She was okay with us being just friends.

Okay. I have been through this same experience as well and I almost lost my best friend, so be cautious. I know you'll hate this advice because i hated it too, but you should try to either stop loving her or conceal it really well. For me, i ended up losing interest when she told me she was straight and i told her i used to love her. She ignored me for three days. I'm just saying, be super duper cautious and don't get heartbroken.

Respect both your feelings and the potential feelings of your friend, meaning you should be honest with yourself and acknowledge that you have feelings for her. If you think your friendship is strong enough, tell her how you feel. If she rejects those feelings, you shouldn't feel angry or upset at her, instead respect her feelings and acknowledge that you deserve someone who will love you back.

I’ve actually had this experience myself and I can understand that this must be a really hard and conflicting situation for you. From my experience, on the one hand I had this crazy love for my closest best friend and really wanted more than a friendship but on the other hand (seeing as she’s straight!) I had quite a fear of losing our friendship! You have a a lot options here based on what you think will help this situation the most. It may seem risky but sometimes being honest with your best friend and having a conversation can clear up many thoughts and feelings you have and getting it out in the open can be relieving for you. However this could be an uncomfortable situation (on both sides) to be in so only so so if you feel would be appropriate. Another option of many would be to completely accept and acknowledge your feelings which you’ve done really well on doing, and try to move on. You can still maintain a healthy friendship and although it may take time to get over, and the feeling may never completely get away, it is completely still possible to remain as friends. I really appreciate that this is a hard situation and wish you the best of luck!

I would say do something that feels right to you. I had been through this kind of situation too. I live in a boarding school and fall so hard for this other girl who is my roommate and also my best friend. I know that she is a straight, and so I never want to show her any affection, but it was hard because everyday I wake up I would her there in our room, so I started avoiding her. Avoiding her worked for a while, until one day where I had an emotional breakdown. I realize I still like and still want to talk to her like we used too, so I made a come out to her. I told her everything, it was emotional, but we had a talk about it and now we're still friends. I am not writing this to urge you to come out to your best friend. You don't have to make a come out to anyone if you don't feel ready too or if you don't feel like it. Again, I would say do you think is right for you or something that would make a difference in your life, in my situation I decided to make a come out. I hope my answer is helpful.

Respect her feelings. Love is not always sex. Tell her how you feel and see. What if deep inside she loves you back

First try talking to her indirectly about your problem like telling her you have a friend who is love with her best friend but she's straight and ask her if she was that straight friend how would she react and if says she wouldn't over react and try to understand then tell her that you are the one who is in love with her.

If she’s straight you must respect that part of her! And you’d have to decide if you tell her, you might risk losing your best friend.

Talk to her about how you feel. It might seem scary but it's the right thing to do. Her response might surprise you and it will be better to get your feelings out in the open so you can both talk about it. Best of luck!!

I would suggest that you tell your friend the truth about your feelings, but explain that you understand that she is straight and that you will always respect her boundaries.

Been there, done that. It's the absolute worst and you can't do anything about it. You can't force yourself to stop loving her nor can you force her to love you. The one thing that could possibly bring you a little peace of mind is telling her. Personally I never had the guts to do so, but sometimes I look back and wish I had, just for my own comfort.

I feel you. I, too, am in love with a close friend of mine who is straight. You really only have two options: 1. Accept that she isn’t into you and move on 2. Wait for her to like you back (if she ever does) Most people would say to go with the first option, but I know how hard that can be, so honestly just do whichever one feels more right to you. And yes, many people have been successful with option 2. So just don’t be afraid and confess your feelings to her if you think that’s the right thing to do. Who knows, maybe she’s questioning her sexuality?

Have you talked about it with her? Think about if you should talk about it with her if you haven't already. Sometimes you just gotta move on. Take care!

As a queer person that’s struggled with the same thing - it might be best to try to get over her. I know that’s easier said then done, but you have to respect her boundaries. Of course, a lot of other things can play into this - if she’s ok with you having romantic feelings for her and your relationship with her in general. Falling for straight girls hurts, and to be honest, it usually doesn’t end well. But if she is ok with you having feelings for her, just...see where it goes. Don’t make her uncomfortable, respect her boundaries, and make sure to communicate with her,

The only thing you can do is tell her how you feel and go from there. Even if she doesn't feel that way about you at least you will know and not have to question it. Unfortunately you can't force someone to be into you, but given that you are friends this is a secret that will weigh you down the longer you hold it in. Just be honest with her. Don't have high expectations because from the sounds of it she is 100% straight. She may be flattered though. Who knows. If it's nawing at you , tell her

If you are certain she’s straight, I recommend you try to find a way to get over your crush. Talk to somebody, try not to stalk their social media too much etc.

Talk to her about it. If she’s your best friend she’ll understand and for all you know, she’s straight but questioning. Let her know how you feel and she’ll let you know how she feels. You’ll never know if you don’t try. If it doesn’t go your way then that’s okay! Just take a deep breath and you’ll find your way around it. Just make sure you’re safe and secure before telling her how you feel and make sure you’re ready for the situation. The fact you’ve admitted it to yourself is a great start on its own. Your doing great. We’ve all had moments like this!

You love your best friend but they do not date same gender. Almost everyone has this problem once in a while. Short and simple, tell them. You are their best friend and they should understand you. Best friends are always there for you.

you can gently let her know how you feel about her , who knows maybe shell feel the same way.

You can show your love for someone without putting the pressure on them to love you back in the same way. I think it is important to not expect your friend to change for you, but loving her is not wrong. You can love her without needing her to love you that way. If she feels uncomfortable when you express your feelings about her then you should make sure you are acting in a respectful way that doesn't push aside her needs. Your needs are valid but you cannot force others to reciprocate or have the same needs as you.

It is quite difficult to deal with such situation, mostly it makes you depressed and frustrated because you are unable to express how you feelings and sometimes you just wish that it never happened, telling your friend how you feel can put your friendship at risk but that's the risk you have to take, just tell her how you feel and tell her that if she doesn't feel the same you are still happy to be her friend, make it comfortable for her to understand. Also be ready for the rejection and don't be sad there are many girls out there.

If she's straight there isn't anything you can do but move on. You have to accept it. I'm in the same situation but working on moving forward. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything goes well. If you feel comfortable, maybe tell her the feelings you have? You could work through it together if that's something you feel is possible. ♥️ I hope it goes well for you and that you're able to move on in a healthy way. Also know that even if the feelings are very intense, that doesn't always mean its a sign of something that's meant to happen. If she's straight than you guys are meant to be friends.

Tell her how you’re feeling, let her know so that you don’t have to keep this feeling locked inside you. And hey, you never know if she just might be into you as well.

Let her know how you feel and that she should accept you no matter what. Do it face to face and don't be too blunt

Having had personal experience on this matter, I suggest you accept the fact and move on. If you're certain they're straight ,and not bisexual/pansexual etc. , then there is no point in confessing, since it might distance them.

Honestly, you can't ever know what she's going to do. I think that honestly, you should take a stab at it. Maybe she likes you too! You never know.

Always be true to yourself, how you feel, what you need, and what you want. When you're true to yourself you cant let yourself down. Be transparent, and honest. If they're your best friend they're gonna take you seriously, and they will respect your decision to be honest. They might not feel the same way, but in the end you've done what you wanted, and what you felt like was the right thing to do. Of course the outcome may not have been what you personally wished for, but you've been true to yourself, and you've done something about it.

That certainly sounds like a very stressful situation you're in. It's okay to feel how you're feeling, it's natural and healthy to be attracted to whoever you are. It might seem very hard, but showing your best friend that you respect both her and her choices will leave you both with a stronger friendship. There's nothing wrong with being in love while still respecting who caught your eye. If she states that she feels like she is straight, then being there for her even if she feels a different form of love towards you is the best course of actions.