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I know someone who sent a long email/text to their parents, I did after getting a new haircut (it gave me confidence and someone else made a cookie, wrote "Gay" on it and said "well, you are what you eat." in front of their parents and ate it
Your parents know you better thank you might think. Choose a moment where you feel they have some time to listen. Maybe start to talk to the parent you have a stronger connection to first. In the end it does not matter - just talk to them!
I know it'll be hard to come out to your parents fearing the outcome. Some people would like to do something fun like sending a letter or poster to their parents saying a cool pun like " By the way, I'm Bi", while others would rather take a serious note on how to come out like sitting down the whole family and straight up tell them who you are. It depends on how you want to but if you mean how to get the courage to tell your parents is practice accepting yourself for who you are. Like the saying " Love yourself before you can love others." Once you can love yourself you can then tell your parents.
Whenever you feel ready. You have plenty of time. And if you feel the need to come out with a letter, an email, or any other way that isn't face to face don't listen to anyone that says that's a cowardly way to come out. It's necessary for some people who are too anxious to speak openly about it.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2016 8:31pm
I can't really give advice telling you what to do or what not to do. Every person, situation and indeed every family is different. But I can tell you that no matter what you decide is best I am still here to talk to you and that it will be okay no matter what happens.
When I came out to my mum, i simply sat her down and told her that i was bisexual and liked both men and women. I suppose it sometimes isn't as easy as that but you just have to be true to yourself and say it how it is. It is who you are.
Stay calm and get them together and sit at a table, coming out is very simple and easy if you just stay calm and tell them.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 7:20am
Be gentle, and firm. They might not like it at first, or at all, but, you should always try. Stand your ground, and don't be upset if they don't react how you want them to.
I know it's hard to come out. Trust me. I've been there. But, first find out if it'll be safe. Find out if they're homophobic, against the LGBTQA+ community, Transphobic, or anything like that. If it's not safe to come out, PLEASE. DO NOT COME OUT. If it's not safe, I suggest you come out once you're in a place where you can take care of yourself and they cannot throw you out of the house. If it IS safe, then you can bring it up in a car ride, at dinner, or just bring home a lover of the same sex (if you have any sexuality related to dating the same sex. Ex: Bisexual, Pansexual, Homosexual)
When and only when your ready that is the most important part and also when you are most comfortable with you sexuality :)
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 5:43pm
There is never going to be the "right time". You will, though, find a time where you can sit down with your parents together and come out. Tell them how you really feel, and tell them how you have felt that way for a long time. Understand whether or not they approve, but remember that you can't change who you are and that they will have to learn to accept it now or later.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 3:17pm
Coming out is a deeply personal journey. There is no right or wrong answer, some people choose to do something fun, and light, like making a rainbow cake, some decide to just bring home a date, or some sit their parents down and have a conversation with them. There are a million ways to come out, and what ever you want to do, it's up to you!
There are lots of ways to do it. If your parents are the more accepting type, try something fun like baking a cake in the colours of your pride flag! If they're on the less accepting side, try sitting them down for a talk. Be prepared to answer any questions they have. And just because they don't automatically respond greatly, doesn't mean they won't soon. If you don't want to do it in person, try writing a letter explaining everything. Remember: If coming out may put you in danger, it's best to hold off until it's safe to do so!
there are many different ways to come out, but before you do any thing you have to make sure that you are safe. This is very important to you and them and you should feel ready!
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 7:32am
Tell them: "This is who I am and if you think you can stop me then you need to think again." Be who you are no matter where the opposition comes from. Be Garnet (Steven Universe reference)!!
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 8:19am
Coming out is hard, espacially to parents. You don't know how they will react. You just need to pick up a calm situation, and just introduce slowly what you want to tell them
You can come out anyway you want. The way I came out to my parents was first asking them their opinion on LGBTQ+ issues, so I could judge whether they would accept me or not.
I wrote a letter to mine. I found it was too awkward to talk to them in person, as I was only just starting to come out. Educate them as best you can so they can be supportive and understanding.
Sit your parents down and calmly chat with them. If you know your parents are against lgbt then try to make then understand. The major problem with coming out is that many people are already conditioned from birth to act a certain way during situations. Explaining it to them and having understanding is the best way to go.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 2:58am
If you're afraid of coming out to your parents, a good first step is to talk to close friends you're comfortable with first. Maybe practice some things you'd like to say. It's scary at first but the weight off your chest is definitely worth it.
Coming out to family can be a very difficult or a surprisingly easy process. It just depends on the people you're telling. With parents, however, just be careful that you're not still dependant on them if you think they will react badly when you tell them. But otherwise, just be honest with your parents, tell them all you think they need to know about your sexuality! Good luck!
It can depend on your family's stance on LGBTQIA+ individuals and the community.. If they are open and accepting, then, congratulations: now's the time to think up a way to come out to them! you could sit them down, and tell them seriously, make a surprise party, bring it up casually in conversation, or be really creative about it! My personal favourite is to bake a cake with rainbow on the inside, cover it with plain white icing and write in black writing icing, "Surprise!" or "I have something to tell you..." And then get them to cut the cake! *cue confetti canons* ;) Whatever you decide to do, make sure that you will be safe once it happens and if you are unsure of how they feel, always have a backup plan, like somewhere to stay or someone who will support you, just in case things don't go as well as planned... Good luck!
Come out to your parents. Be yourself. Be honest to yourself. Tell them how you feel.. Keep in mind they love you no matter what. Sometimes it takes time for some parents to assimilate a new reality for them but they will eventually do it.
Personally, it would be best to write a letter explaining everything and put it somewhere they will find it. Be somewhere safe when they read it.
Be as honest as possible and try not to go into it with too many expectations. Remember that your parents are individual people and their reactions might not be predictable. If you can, tell someone when you plan on having the conversation, so they can check in on you after. And remember, you can always reach out for help from the many resources available to you!
Gather your parents in one location, so you don't have to do it again, take a deep breath and just say it. Be prepared for many different reactions. Knowing your parents you will most likely know how they'll react, but just be prepared.
It's very hard. If you want to be accepted, look for signs if they're homophobic. Unless you want them to treat you like crap, you'd unfortunately wouldn't be able to tell them. If they aren't, great!
You can come out to them whichever way you want to.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2016 12:37am
Fuck the whole idea of coming out. Why should we "come out" straight people don't come out. If they don't except who you are then they can go to he'll.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2016 12:32am
Try to talk to your friends first for support. I'm sure if you're parents love you they won't care if you're gay, a lesbian, or trans.
you should make sure that you are in a safe environment and not in danger of your parents reacting in a bad way. Some parents could be understanding and calm which can make you feel more relaxed and feel better. Make sure you are alone with them if you are planning to come out in person. If you are doing it over the phone just make sure to tell you love them and you are still their daughter/son.
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