Why do I always think my husband is cheating on me?

Well, that depends. Ask yourself the following questions: Has any of his recent behavior shown signs of cheating? When did these suspicions start? Does he have a history of infidelity? How long have you been married? After asking yourself these questions, you should start to come to a general understanding of your own suspicions. Maybe your husband has been the best husband possible, and that causes you to believe that there is some kind of ill-intent behind the good behavior. Perhaps, if that is the case, you need to get out of your own head. Maybe you're so afraid of losing him that you can't help but believe he would cheat on you. If your husband hasn't shown any signs of cheating, then chances are, he isn't. You just have to remind yourself that he married you, not anyone else.

Could be true. His actions may have led upu to believe that he's cheating on you. It could also be that he's withdrawn from the relationship due to other reasons like stressed environment at work or between friends. You could have a real conversation about this with your husband rather than spending your energy in doubting him. Won't bring any good to the relationship. Try making him comfortable and at ease and let him know your concerns. There could be a 'n' number of reasons why you think your husband is cheating on you but the answer is only one. Allow him to explain it to you without overthinking the situation.

I can really hear you are persistent in your worry at the possibility that your husband may be cheating on you. To reflect you may want to ask yourself what your idea of infidelity is. What are the signs of infidelity? What are your boundaries in a relationship? Have you been cheated on before and worry about re-experiencing this again with your current husband? It might be because you have been cheated on in some of your previous relationships in the past and now you're afraid that it will happen again. It's not necessarily a sign of distrust, it may be because you think you are not good enough for him. How would you compare his interactions with other females or what goes through your mind when you see him with other females? Do you get suspicious? Thinking that you don't deserve him and he'll leave you eventually for someone you feel threatened by or who you feel is better can come from a lack of self-esteem. This might be a wound from the past that you're subconsciously carrying from a primary attachment figure (e.g. a parent could have left you as a kid). Another possibility is that maybe your husband does act differently than how he usually does. Are there any nuances in behavior in certain contexts and how do you wish to approach him on your feelings? Do you recall any arguments you two had and the triggers behind those? Especially if you are having a hard time in your relationship with arguments or anything like that, it's easy to develop suspicion. Communication is really key in all sorts of relationships and something you can reflect on. More information about relationships are provided by organizations such as Relate and One Love Foundation. If wanting to explore your thoughts and feelings further please feel free to communicate with one of our listener’s and therapists with personal and specialized experience on relationship stress.

Thank you for reaching out! I can really hear you worry that your husband is cheating on you. You may want to ask yourself a few questions for reflection. Have you ever experienced any cheating in any past relationships which is making you have these unwanted thoughts that your current husband is having an affair? Is there any evidence to prove any signs of having an affair? You may want to pick out the key contexts and situations where you did question your husbands behavior (e.g. at parties, feeling like your husband is lying about where he is). Having an idea of what situations trigger these thoughts on insecurity and doubt will help give you understand your own self-awareness. Being overly concerned with whether he's talking to other people or whether he's spending a lot of time away from you maybe something to think about. You may be concerned about whether or not he's talking to you as much as he used to or if he wants to spend as much time together as he once did. If you find yourself consumed by these worries, it could actually be causing more problems. It can be therefore important to ask yourself: Is there any deviation in my husbands behavior? On our 7 cups site we have a Relationships support room where you can communicate with others experiencing relationship issues every Thursday, 24/7. For any external support you can look into organisations such as Love is Respect, MensLine, Relationships Australia, Reach Out, CVV. You are so welcome to have a one on one chat with one of our amazing listeners or therapists on our site for a empathic ear.

Trust is important in a relationship, but it is so hard to believe in good things if you have been hurt before. I don't know you, so I don't know what you've been through. If your husband has done so before, I understand it must be so hard to forgive. If not, maybe you need support to heal from whatever it was that left you wary. Therapy could be a great move. Again, not knowing you I wouldn't want to give you advice which may harm your situation, but it never hurts to talk about what ails you. I hope things feel better soon.

Maybe, he has given you reasons to be worried and to not trust him. If you talk to him about it you can be more secure in your marriage and get rid of the trust issues that you currently have. If he has been going out more or hanging out with people more you might also feel he is cheating but communication is key and you are probably lacking that in your relationship. Also, if you've been cheated on in the past you might think your husband is also unfaithful but you should tell him what he does that makes you feel insecure in the relationship.

Sometimes we tend to feel that our partners may not be as invested in our relationship as we are. I tend to feel that sometimes too, but I try to consciously observe him through the day, and when i do that, i begin to see how many ways he uses to show me his love. I like to be spoken to affectionately, touched lovingly and spend quality time with each other in order to feel loved. However, he is not great at talking and verbally expressing his love. He is mostly busy with business so we rarely spend quality time together. Our time schedules do not match through the day so we do not get physical time to spend. However, after I began to observe him keenly, I realized how he cooks breakfast for me early in the morning and stores lunch in the fridge. He makes very healthy juices for us to enjoy. This week he came home and handed me a membership card to the badminton club of our colony and asked me to spend atleast two hours in physical activity. Now this is how he chooses to say that he loves me. Sometimes our love languages do not tend to match and it leaves us feeling hurt and neglected, but it is better to try to verbalize how you feel and how you ideally want to feel. Try to tell your husband what he can do in order to make you feel loved. Doubting his intentions can be easy but it will widen the gap between the two of you. I hope my personal incident encourages you to look for the positives and acknowledge them and also to communicate your expectations and needs directly to him.

There could be many reasons for this. A sense of insecurity can originate from any direction. Consider the following to clear up the air. 1. Be expressive about your feelings. A husband and wife relationship should be based on trust and openness. Its a special bond which necessitates being vocal about your issues and addressing them through joint effort. If you feel you have a strong feeling of the relationship cutting loose, discuss it openly (post some homework on facts) and understand the reason for such a situation. 2. Be reasonable in expectations Apart from being a spouse in a relationship, one needs to address the worldly activities and interests too. Hence there would be situations which your spouse may not be available at your disposal in certain times. Understand their working pattern or schedule. 3. Respect opinions and differences No one is perfect. Being in a relationship doesnt always mean that you agree to everything one says. Its ok to disagree on this which do not have impact on your life. Let go small disagreements. Confrontation upright without facts may not always yield good results.

One word, and that's insecurity. When we're insecure about ourselves, we becoming insecure about our relationships with other people, whether they be our friend, our partner/spouse, or a family member. Ask yourself this. Is he showing any signs of cheating? Is he coming home late frequently, with no plausible excuses? Is he hiding his phone from you? Not taking calls in front of you? Loss of interest in sex with you? Or any other blatant signs that he could potentially be cheating? If the answer is no, then the previous word I would like to bring forth, yet again, is insecurity. Are you happy with yourself? How you look? Do you feel like you're good enough for your husband? If the answer is no to any of these or similar such questions, it's likely that your insecurity is making you feel that your husband is cheating on you. It's also worthwhile to note that if you had this experience in the past, it is also possible that it is causing some sort of feeling of insecurity which has now seeped into your current relationship. I hope this answer helped!

There are a number of things that could be contributing to this feeling that your husband is cheating on you. If he's been unfaithful in the past, you may have reason to believe that he's returned to that pattern of behaviour. Anxiety and lack of trust can also contribute to a feeling of mistrust with your partner. You might benefit from thinking critically about your own insecurities, the root of your fears and talking to your husband about what you're feeling. Open communication with yourself and your partner is really important to a healthy relationship! Hope this helps and all goes well.

What has happened that makes you think he's cheating? Sometimes, the feeling that we're being betrayed comes from insecurity related to abandonment issues that can be related to something from your childhood. Can you identify some ways that your parents' relationship with one another or with you left you feeling betrayed? Did you experience a lot of broken promises as a child that might be a result of you feeling insecure as an adult? Also, communicating with your husband what you're feeling might be a good way to open the dialogue and help you to explore your past and where you're feeling the way you are.

It sounds like perhaps you are having issues of trust. If your husband has done something in the past that has caused you to feel this way, or has had a cheating experience, maybe its time to talk about it together. Perhaps seeking counseling both together and maybe even separately could help you both. But if that isn't the issue, and he hasn't done anything that should cause you to feel this way, then perhaps you still need to talk to him about your feelings. And talk together about whats causing you to feel this way. And maybe continuing to seek counsel or therapy for yourself could help sort out your feelings as well so that you can continue to have a healthy marriage.

If you have not been cheated on before, and you suspect that your partner is, it may be time to do what is necessary. What infidelity does mean, generally, is that one partner is seeking something. This something may not be sex (or it may be). It may not have anything to do with you, or how you love, or your needs. In my case, my partner’s multiple affairs proved symptom of his pathological narcissism, emotional abuse, and sex addiction,Whatever the case, breathe deep. It likely has nothing to do with you. If you know your partner is cheating, time to find out for sure, reach out to this techie(globalhacker92 (at) gmail com ) I don’t Know how he does it, but he can get you access remotely into any mobile phone or social media account eg whatsapp, instagram,facebook etc, he is reliable and can get you access also.

It seems like you are feeling a little paranoid. Its not an uncommon feeling to have. Many people have experienced this feeling of the significant other. Even I have felt this way plenty of times before. The best thing to do is to sit down and talk to your husband about what you are feeling. He may not take it the right way at first but remaining calm and sitting down is the best way to go. Maybe he can understand where youre coming from if you give me examples and then reasons why you would think he would cheat.