My father is having an extramarital affair. Part of me wants to end my relationship with him for cheating on my mom, but i worry that he will be depressed as he loves me a lot. How do I deal with this situation?

You can make it clear to him that u do not encourage what he did to your mum, but as his child you will respect his decision and be happy for him.

Discuss the situation with, find a way to make peace, simply picking up your things and leaving may not help your anger. You deserve an explanation and there is not harm in seeking one.

If your mother does not know about this, the best thing to do is talk to your father. Let him know your feelings, let him explain to you what and why he did what he did. Although cheating is never right, there are always two sides to the story. I have dealt with this problem with my own parents, so I understand your feelings.

If you love your father you should and end your relationship because one day you will regret it as I know from personal experience. The father will not be depressed with you he may be upset but he will understand where you're coming from

I think this situation is extremely personal to the individual! I may not know what you're relationship is like with your father, but if his decisions are putting you and your relationship with him in an awkward or uncomfortable place then I think it's worth talking about. If you need to discuss - be it with a close friend or other family member first that you trust in order to feel it out, go for it! But he's your father, and you deserve to feel at peace with your relationship with him. I personally hate confronting people but force myself to do it when I know it means it opens up room for growth and development.

Follow your heart. Cheating is very wrong in every situation. your father should of thought about the consequences when he decided to have an affair.

It's is a difficult turn for your family but nobody cheats for the joy of it. There is an underlying issue. Good luck to your family.

Do what you think is best for you. Your father did what he thought was best for him. He is an adult. You are a mature individual wth your own boundaries. Do not let him cross them. He loves you a lot, but he chose to have the affair. For whatever reason. Maybe you need to find out the reason before you decide to go cold turkey. You can give him a chance if he is willing to change. Take your time,

You can take your father's feelings into consideration, but at the end of the day, you have to think about yourself and what's best for you. I know it can feel like you're being selfish, but in this situation, it would be considered self-care.

My father in law had a extra marital affair and my wife been though exactly the same thing. She told me that her father was never in a happy relationship with her mom for over 20 years and she saw the misery in him being with her. However despite what he did, she still maintains great contact with him and came to forgive and understand. I believe it is important to understand what circumstance that made him cheat on your mother and propelled him to risk his relationship with his kids. Evidently he loves you very much but perhaps he had troubles with your mother for awhile, perhaps it was due to lust. Your relation is between you and your father only and not between him, you, and your mother. The weight of valuation on your current relation versus the outcome of burning bridges must be thought out clearly.

Hey there, personally I think that you should speak to your dad about how you feel about this situation. As you have mentioned your dad does love you a lot, therefore he should understand how you are feeling and take them feelings into account. You may also sit both of your parents down and talk to them about it... after you speak to your dad of course. Maybe they are unhappy together or something is lacking in their relationship and they can't just figure out what to do on their own. You may be the one able to help.

This is hard; they are your parents after all. So easy to choose sides. But your relationship with your dad and with your mom is separate from their relationship with each other. You can love them both without having to step in and take responsibility for their decisions, or their lack of responsibility. If you feel yourself moving to judgment, try saying inside yourself: "this is not a situation I need to judge because I am not the owner. I can support without having to judge ultimate rights and wrongs here."

Tell him how you feel and how he hurt you and your mom. Tell him that you love him but what he did was wrong. You may be able to forgive him in the future, but you will never forget. Take some time away and give yourself a chance to process this. You have a right to feel what you feel. Good luck!

That's so hard. I am sorry. Your Dad will always be your Dad, and as much as it must hurt to see your mom hurt, you can't protect her from any of that. You can not like how your dad is behaving but still love your dad. The good news is you don't have to make any decisions today.

hello, first of all i am really sorry that you had to witness something like this. i know how that feels. i really hope it gets better for you soon. i think you should try to talk to him about it, but it also depends on your relationship with your mom and how you are feeling. do you live with your mom and dad? are you hundred percent sure that he is having an extramarital affair? do you feel that what is happening is really unfair to your mom? (of course, it is.) do you know a possible reason why he would do this? either way, you should try to talk to him about it in a calm manner. see what he says. confront him. and maybe then you can think over it, and take a decision for yourself with a calm mind because taking impulsive decisions won’t help. come to a conclusion after talking it out. sending loads of love your way xx

I would be honest with your dad about it. Tell him that you aren't okay with what he is doing. Maybe cutting him off will be the best option

Have a chat with him and tell him how you feel about his actions. He loves you alot and would be willing to change

I'm sure you love your father a lot and so does he..however imagine yourself in your mother's shoes, wouldn't you feel even worse if your daughter doesn't tell you about the affair and does nothing at all? Being disloyal in a relationship is the worst thing ever.. relationship without loyalty and trust is nothing. I know it'll be really difficult for you to confront this situation therefore I wish you all the strength. You don't have to completely cut ties with your father however let him know how much damage he has inflicted on your relationship by having the affair.

This is an extremely difficult situation. I prefer to base my relationship with people on my own interactions with them. It is possible to love a person and carry out a relationship with someone while not agreeing with all of the choices they make. You need to decide if this is an option for you.

This has got to be one of the most difficult questions i’ve answered. When I was young, my father had us meet his sancha (the other woman), and it was so uncomfortable. We forgave him and moved forward, when all that concluded. I was too young to really understand what was happening, and no one talked about it with me, I just knew it felt wrong. If I found out as I got older, I don’t know how I’d feel about it. I think I’d moreso focus on my mom and build her self-esteem, encouraging her to remember her own beauty and empowerment... more than how I’d ‘punish’ my dad. Humans make mistakes, and humans can be so inconsiderate and hurtful- but focusing on those impacted by their disrespect, can help them rise again- and when you see them happy and thriving, the hurt you feel by what happened may dissipate. But truly, it’s up to you. What feels right to you. All actions have consequences, and how you choose to move forward are his, and soon, there’ll be consequences for yours too. That’s life, and there are no wrong decisions in life. Every decision has a consequence, and they impact our future. This is why it’s important to follow our intuition, and not our anxieties. This is honestly a very tough case, and I hope you take time to yourself to mend and process what happened/is happening. ♡ I encourage you to each out for support as often as you need it, love. TC

The nature of your question shows a strong moral compass, maturity, and consideration for others. You are right to be concerned. It is considerate to think about your father's feelings, but at the same time you have to consider whether he loves you enough to allow you to express your true opinions to him. If you would like to speak with him about this topic without intervening on the behavior you disapprove of, you will need to arrange a time and place where you can communicate with him away from your mother. It is important to communicate in a non-threatening and non-judgmental way so as to ensure your father is comfortable sharing things with you. An important key phrase is "When you __, I feel __." That way, you keep the focus on his behaviors rather than conveying an inherent judgment of his character or identity. I hope you can talk to your father in a way that you feel heard. I know this must be difficult for you to deal with. Ultimately, his behaviors are his choice and his alone, and even if you do not approve of his behaviors, I hope you can maintain a sense of closeness with your father, as the parent-child bond is a key contributor to one's emotional well-being. Best of luck.

If you feel you need to do it for yourself then do it. He knows what he did and later on he will regret. After this initial thing has gone by maybe later on you two can rebuild your relationship

First of all, do you want to take part in this issue? If so, think of the consequences of your actions, for you, for him and for your mother. Best case scenario, worst case scenario, side effects... Another course of action is learning about the person who your father is cheating with: does she know that him is cheating? Does she know what she's doing? Everything is a question and you have some answers. Think carefully before passing your judgement.

How are you are feeling now? This must be such a hard time for you. You're showing a lot of strength by reaching out. If wanted, I will check our resources for a helpful guide to look over. I'm glad that you're sharing this with me, I want to be your support. Let's discuss what you read in the guide that I find, if you find that I am listening and supportive.

Tell your father how that makes you feel. Maybe once you tell him that and explain why you dont like it maybe he will stop and open up a little bit more to you and explain why he was doing what he was doing

What the father did is wrong, no doubt about that. But this is something that is between the husband and the wife. Of course, one is bound to feel horrible because a parent just betrayed you and broke the family. Yet, If he has been a good father so far, dont entirely shun him. Take your time, no one says you are obliged forgive, forget and move on. However, a man who failed at being a good partner is not necessarily a bad parent. We must remember that everyone has there weaknesses. Even parents. Also, their is a lot to a story than what meets the eye. The ultimate solution is to be patient. The blame game never got anybody anywhere.

It's undeniably a tough situation to go through, however, I believe that you should still issue it. It would not be a wise choice to end your relationship with you father because technically your parents marriage is not something that directly concerns you. The best way to tackle this situation is to talk it out with your father and ask him to tell your mother about his extramarital affair so they can sort it out the way they find most comfortable. Ending your relationship with a member of your family is never easy and it's probably something that you would end up regretting sooner or later. You should forgive your father for hurting your mother and it should not affect your relationship with him since he's surely a good father and he definitely loves you a lot. The fights and problematic issues they might have should not come between you three, they should not have a negative impact on your relationship with your parents.

you can confront about how you truly feel and show that he already have a loving family and what he is doing is wrong and would ruin the family he created .

It always takes time to heal from being hurt. Take the time you need, separate yourself if it will help you heal. Ultimately, forgiveness and love will be cause the least suffering for you, your father and everyone involved.

Cutting your dad out of your life will only hurt you both. He same thing happened to me awhile ago and I cut him out completely and it ended awful. He became needy depressed and ended up breaking up with the woman he cheated my mom on with out of guilt. If your mom knows he probably lives with the guilt every day and what he did is not acceptable and though your loyalty to your mom is comendable it's their war not yours. Tell him how you feel but don't lose him over a mistake no matter how big.